My best friend Linda is my youngest son's godmother. She's always been very liberal. She's a Democrat, feminist, environmentalist, etc. She just told me that not only is she actually gay, but she's also left Christianity to become a Pagan. I love her dearly and she claims that would stand by her pledge to raise my son in the Christian church if it ever came to that, but I'm not sure what to do. Any suggestions?
2006-11-14 06:28:09 · 13 answers · asked by polson521 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Your friend is pagan, but has she tried to convert anyone to her faith? Has she proselytized her new faith in any way or tried to talk you into it? Has she been respectful of your beliefs and encouraged you to follow the path that you feel is right for you? If she is a close enough friend for you to have asked her to be a godparent, then you should be able to talk to her and trust what she says.
2006-11-15 03:18:42 · answer #1 · answered by Witchy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You obviously thought alot of her to ask her to be your son's Godmother. She is the same person. Just because she's changed her views on life, doesn't mean shes a horrible person. People change. I think that it would show your son how people with different lifestyles & beliefs have every right make those choices. Tolerance & acceptance are worthy lessons. Would you tell your son not to be friends with a boy because he was Jewish?
If you're really having a problem with her choices, tell her. If she feels strongly about these choices, she should be happy to share with you her reasons. After all, you claim her as a "best friend."
2006-11-14 14:43:05 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Similar situation happened with my godmother. When it was time for me to be confirmed (grade 8, but I think it's younger now) we just picked another family friend to be my "sponsor." She took on role of "godmother" since then, and now I call her that. But if your friend promises to raise your son according to your beliefs, then I think that's ok, as long as you trust that she actually would. The most important thing to keep in mind though is what is best for your child. It may be difficult, but in the end he's what matters and what you are responsible for. A note about the other answers on here, of course you don't plan on dying any time soon, but it is ALWAYS smart to consider it and have some sort of plan for your children. It is a responsible, loving thing to do - kudos to you.
2006-11-14 14:39:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are the mom here and have a right to raise your son the way you think is best. Children need a loving stable home especially if anything happned to you, your son would need that stability. If you are not buying into the new lifestyle of your son's godmother then make a will, choose someone else to raise him in case anything happens to you and make it legal.
2006-11-14 14:40:21 · answer #4 · answered by Olivia 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am a spiritualist medium and Godmother to my neice who was baptised Catholic
if ever anything should happen to her own parents ... i would take the role i was given
i dont have to give up my own beliefs .... but i know the importance of making sure my neice has hers
thats what a good godparent should do ... and i am sure your friend is no different
2006-11-14 14:44:42 · answer #5 · answered by Peace 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Geez, if you're that worried about her taking care of your son if you ever (God forbid) die, then put something in your will that she has no legal rights to him. A godmother no longer has the obligation to take care of the kids in the event of a parent's death (godparents used to be a married couple close to the family). She already has no legal obligation to your kid, but if you're really that worried, you do have a legal way of making sure she doesn't gain (as unlikely as that seems) custody of your son.
2006-11-14 14:35:13 · answer #6 · answered by sister steph 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't believe a godmother has any legal right to raise your child if you die. So you can arrange in your will to have a person you trust as tutor of your child.
2006-11-14 14:30:08 · answer #7 · answered by Mr Ed 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could talk it over with her. If she is really that great of a friend, she would recognize your beliefs and accept them. If agreed, you could get a new godmother for your child.
2006-11-14 14:31:30 · answer #8 · answered by HMhm 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Cripes, relax. I am an Atheist and have two god sons. I would raise them according to their parents wishes because I love them. I would not influence their choice.
2006-11-14 14:32:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
planning on dying soon?
Dont worry... do and say nothing
You'll most likely never need her to raise your child anyhow
why cause friction between friends
2006-11-14 14:32:05 · answer #10 · answered by Mopar Muscle Gal 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋