Again, i'm talking about Martin. I'm living in Leeds, and I've just got a job as an agency nurse. However, i get on martin's nerves and has told me several times to go. He has a bad temper, and has hit me in the past. we had a year apart, and he didn't have much success with women is he just using me?
2006-11-14 06:26:31 · 48 answers · asked by tessie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You deserve better. No man should ever hit a woman. What a loser. Find a real man. Good luck
2006-11-14 06:27:56 · answer #1 · answered by Robbyz3 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't listen to these as*holes on here. God I hate the way people judge w/o knowing the whole story. I know that it is hard to leave someone that you really care about. I have a boyfriend named Matt and we have been together almost 3 years. When we first got together he had a very bad drinking/drug problem. We used to get into it bad. We would hurt each other physically and mentally and it was horrible. We left each other many times and then got back together. He got put in to a Drug court program here and has been clean off of everything for alsmost 2 years. I know it is very wrong for a man to hit a woman. My best advice would be just to do what your heart says. If you think it may get better and you want to be with him then try to make it work. It is very hard to leave someone you are in love with. Matt and I ended up getting pregnant and we have not hurt eachother physically in 2 years and we have a great relationship now. Follow your heart not what these jerks on here say.
2006-11-14 06:43:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tessie, honey, has it never occurred to you that the reason this guy has had trouble with women is because he hits them? I appreciate it will be hard for you to leave him as you seem to have been with him on and off for quite a while but, like you said, you've just got a job as an agency nurse and you'll probably be working unsociable hours anyway, plus meeting new people. Leave now while you have a new focus (your job) and lots of new people to meet! Best of luck sweetie.
2006-11-14 07:47:33 · answer #3 · answered by rabbitPIE 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him. How dare he tell you that you get on his nerves, it sounds like he gets on other peoples and so he takes it out on you when people tell him that. It sounds like he doesn't have much luck with women because of this temper, stop making excuses for him.
You don't need to take that, find yourself someone more worthy of you. How long will it be before he turns on you and does something worse than just hitting you? Get out now while you still can.
2006-11-14 06:29:41 · answer #4 · answered by kpk 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes he is using you to justify his own selfish insecure actions. I hope you raise your self esteem because you as a woman shouldnt have to deal with abuse of any kind. Besides I am sure you will do awesome on your own. You have a good job and with the line of work that you are in you should have no problem relocating. Next time he asks you to leave just go and try to be excited about starting out on your own and being your own person..Good Luck
2006-11-14 06:31:46 · answer #5 · answered by ravishing73 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should have left him yesterday,what on earth keeps you there,i am so frustrated hearing these stories of women being beaten,or mentally abused,and then saying i didnt leave because i love him,surely you have enough self respect to finally show some backbone ,and get out ,you wont regret it in the long term,and theres a caring man out there just waiting for you,go girl,go.
2006-11-14 06:42:20 · answer #6 · answered by wozza.lad 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi, this guy isn't right for you if he tells you to go and hits you, no man should have the right to do that and no woman should feel she has to put up with, just because he cant get any luck with women he is using you until he finds another woman, even if that isn't the case you still need to leave this creep, have some pride and be strong find yourself someone who will love you and treat you like a princess there are great guys out there if you just look....good luck
2006-11-14 06:37:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's hitting you and he has a bad temper, you MUST leave! Make it down to the nursing, even an idiot like him cannot begrudge you a career especially one so caring. Your worth more, get out before you become your friends patient.
Good luck
x
2006-11-14 06:30:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
never stay with a man that hits you, everyone deserves the right to live in safety and not been scared to upset someone because they have a bad temper,
your in charge of your own life so cant tell you what to do, but maybe you should ask yourself why you feel that you need this guy
2006-11-14 06:34:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anyman who hits a woman is scum. Do yourself a favour concentrate on your career and pack yer bags! Life is to short love to be wasting yourself on a mug like him . Remember, all the time your with this idiot is less time you could be with someone who will treat you with the respect you deserve. In fact darlin why are you reading this message ! Get off your computer and pack your bags! Hope you are ok and hope things go ok for you.dave/warpig
2006-11-14 06:38:58 · answer #10 · answered by warpig 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to ask yourself why you would settle for less than you deserve.It would be better to be alone than to be with someone who is abusive.People like Martin prey on good hearted people like you in order to feel dominant and powerful.You will never be happy with someone like that and you could be missing out on great opportunities because you stay with him,Just remember when one door closes another is bound to open.Take care of yourself and good luck.
2006-11-14 06:35:10 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋