He told me many times that he loves me but often neglects me whenever i call him.he responds to calls by saying that he will call me later,but calls after 15 days or 1 month.once i confronted him on this issue,he got very defensive and blamed me for not understanding that he was focused on his job.he told me that he has goals and is fast moving but is also scared of losing his loved ones because of his workaholism.whenever he called,he prefered to talk about females in his office, about thier understanding nature.he hangs out with them during weekends.he hangs out with them despite of having deadlines,but doesnt have time to talk with me.i need just one answer,does this guy love me or not?
2006-11-14 06:25:49 · 11 answers · asked by Sheeth 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sweetie, you need to read that book "He's Just Not That Into You". He's obviously placing you last on his list and only bothering with you when he's got nothing better to do. You DESERVE much better than being last priority in his life. Don't you want more than talking once a month on the phone from a man? Don't you want dinners, walks, affection & attention? Someone who is always there for you? Then drop this player and find a real man. Good luck and keep your chin up!
2006-11-14 06:45:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is not your boyfriend if you have not even met...many people have LDR's but they DO get together from time to time. No matter what you have said or shared with one another - you have to meet several times and spend significant amount of time together before you can even really legitimately call him your boyfriend. He should have never told you he loved you without meeting you - very big sign of immaturity - or he's just playing a game. I think you need to just let it go, and it doesn't sound to me like he would even notice if you did. He doesn't owe you any type of loyalty or response and neither do you to him - you don't have any kind of relationship yet...move on and with someone in the real this time...you'll soon forget about him. All this to answer your one question - my opinion?: No of course he does not love you - he doesn't even KNOW you. Good luck hon.
And don't get involved in LDRs UNLESS you have the money to travel (and so does he) and are willing and able to pick up and move near each other eventually.
2006-11-14 06:35:40 · answer #2 · answered by svmainus 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He seems to be like a lot of Japanese guys,lol. Really. They love someone but work is all encompassing. A long distance relationship can work if both parties work at it and he probably does love you, he really may just be busy with work. It is so common for Japanese guys to do this. (I am in Japan and see this all the time!).
You do not say where he is or where you are but different cultures do have different ways. If he says he loves you and he is not seeing anyone else then I would not worry. Just remember, however, if you are looking to the future, he will not become LESS of a workaholic. If it is not something you can live with maybe you should consider that. Good Luck to you both!
2006-11-14 06:33:31 · answer #3 · answered by felisuncia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't say definately yes or no but it doesn't sound like it. If he really did...he'd be spending as much time as possible with you on the phone or at least make the effort to come and see you or arrange to have you come to him. Let him be in love with his work and the females there...it'll bite him in the a**. As for you...give him the axe. Tell him you just don't feel he's putting much effort into trying to make this work out and you're getting hurt by it. Therefore, it's not worth it to you anymore...you have better things to waste time, energy and emotions on. In the mean time, make yourself less available to him and preoccupy yourself with girl's nights and a hobby or two, maybe even go out on a couple of dates...who said you're exclusive, right? It's hard to do the long distance thing, I know, I've gone through it many times myself. The last guy I did it with, moved to be with me...now he's my husband! So don't worry if this one's not the right one...he's out there somewhere and you will find each other. Best of luck!
2006-11-14 06:32:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really don't know if he love you or not. You are the only one can judge that, life is too short have fun enjoy. Mens come a dime a dozen. He is the one missing out on someone special.
2006-11-14 06:31:47 · answer #5 · answered by angle2005star 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to burst your bubble, But long distance affairs JUST DO NOT WORK!! Move on and find someone local.
2006-11-14 06:29:17 · answer #6 · answered by joey 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it's pretty obvious that he is not into you any longer.. he gave you some signs.. sorry to hear that.. move on and find someone local
do not waste ur time with him.. .. i know u can do it... keep urself busy so u will forget him..
2006-11-14 09:41:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, move on u need some loving
2006-11-14 06:28:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
honey just trust him my boyfriend and i have never met in person yet and i know where your geting at just him some time!!!!
2006-11-14 06:30:03 · answer #9 · answered by i love Amanda kendall 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
he does not love u
2006-11-14 06:33:25 · answer #10 · answered by t d 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋