im going nuts!!!!someone help me ?...?

Question

i met a girl year ago ,when she call me to her house i couldn't beleive what i did see...her house was a mess.(SHE IS A NICE WOMAN DO NOT GET ME WRONG), i liked her a lot .we did make love the first time we met ,i thought she was a girl of my dreams.I still with her after a year ,i start to fix all her house up,buy new things for the house ,make the house look lovely.BUT she has a dauther of 15 and she is a dirty b***,she dont help her mum in nathing .if her mum ask her to do anything she shouts back .they have 2 dogs her mum want to give the dogs away but she do not let ...the dogs s*** all over the place and has to be her mum to clean ,feed etc.Sense a year i done so many good thing to that family ,but i start to lose interest in doing anything else,because the house keep being dirty as ever before,when i open the front door i can smell the dog sh** come to my nose .
now we have a 2 week old baby and i want to live if they keep being dirty .im all to heart ,but i av my limits ,

Answer 1

Discuss your concerns with your love.....she'll probably understand, and tell her to quit being a pushover, and get this taken care of or you will leave and if DHS gets involved she will lose the baby, now you don;t want that to happen do you????

Answer 2

Sounds like the mother doesn't have any control over daughter's behaviour. You can continue and play the Savior or you can put your foot down and let them know that you do not appreciate how disrespectfully they are treating the repairs that you have completed. If you have a two week old baby this could be a health issue for the child also. I'm sure that you will get a lot of resistance and possibly some arguments from the daughter, but if mom is in your corner then hopefully this will not escalate into the third world war. In addition ask the woman if after the daughter leaves for college if she would be any better housekeeper without this daughter there in a couple of more years. Best of luck to you in this smelly situation.

Answer 3

You should put your foot down and you help the both of them do a spring cleaning on the house. Build the dogs a dog house outside and put them out.
You knew she was this way in the beginning. It is hard enough to break our own habits much less try to have someone break a habit they have for you.
You do need a clean atmosphere especially for the baby. I say you help clean the house and get rid of extra stuff you don't use that adds to the clutter.
Giving step children discipline is very difficult especially in your case it sounds to me she never got any from her mother. So you are asking for double trouble. You need to have a heart to heart with Mom and tell her how you feel have her lay down the law to the teen. Let her handle the monster that she created.
You can have a clean house but that is a family effort.

Answer 4

this sounds really bad but id tell the 15 year old to either get her crap together and start helping or theres the door and to find someone else to live. i lived on my on at 15 it can be done. she needs disa pline, send her to cadets or boot camp that will knock some respect into her real quick. and you guys are the parents if you are tired of cleaning up after the dogs expecially if you have a baby get rid of them why is the 15 year old making the rules?

Answer 5

So did you think that this grown woman would change and start being clean after you came into her life? It's hard to change habits as people get older. As a father now, you have to out your baby's interest in mind. You need to discuss this with your woman and let her know that you and baby can't live there.

Answer 6

WOW! That is a tough one.
CONGRATULATIONS ON YOUR NEW BABY!
I am guessing that you have your OWN place? (home)
Where does the baby stay...with her?

Well...I think that you should stay there at HER home. I know you said you have standards and all, but, if you two really love each other, then...wouldnt you RATHER stay there? Especially if your 2 week old baby is staying there...maybe YOU could stay there as well....so you can help CLEAN up...if for ANYONE...for your lil baby. ;)
Plus...the 15 year old will be 18 SOON. I realize maybe not "Soon Enough", but she WILL turn 18...then she can take her "Nastiness" elsewhere!
If she (15 year old) refuses to CARE for HER dogs (IF their HERS), and your girlfriend WANTS to give them away...then you CAN help find a home for them yourself? :) Without the 15 year old KNOWING. ;)

Answer 7

Get rid of the dogs first and then go from there. You need to be comfortable in your place and the baby needs cleanliness. So I would start with the dogs and see what happens from there.

Good Luck

Answer 8

I agree with what Linda704 said. Also having a dirty house like that can be hurtful to your new babies health. You need to tell her to clean up her house before someone calls social services.

Answer 9

i say tell the 15 year old to grow up a little and stop acting like the world is here just for her you can't have a little baby living in a shitty house that is really unsafe for your baby kids get sick with being in a dirty house what is gonna happen to your baby living in that kind of environment is that for a baby?

Answer 10

First of all get rid of the dogs. There's a baby and baby needs cleanliness. for the 15 year old both of u need to set rules and follow through with them.She needs discipline.

Answer 11

u sound like a nice person. DON"T LET THEM TROW U AROUND LIKE THAT. Stand up and tell ur girl that they need to at least keep the house clean ,put those dogs outside in a cage or fenced in the backyard,tell her ur going to leave if se doesn't listen to what u have 2 say then tell her BYE cause if she doesn't listen that means she doesn't care