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hi,these days I've been so lazy, I want to know where the problems are coming from, my outcome is almost zero.
these days worst things happened in my life, I have been dumped form the whom I loved the best,
I feel restless all the day, stay awake untill late night just crawling on the net for nothing, and stay sleep too much,
i am a university student , and I must study,
i am motivated( as I think) but I just don't do anything, maybe depressed
btw is medical treatment good so i visit a psychotherapist soon?
I really want to solve this on my own

2006-11-14 06:17:02 · 7 answers · asked by nabi 2 in Health Mental Health

tnx for advices,
you know I have found out that there is nothing I could do to get her back and almost......

the majour problem is I've been so lazy, I am not the 'NABI' that I wanted to be, because of loss of aspiration.

first I wished to know what are the mental problems I have( depressed, stressed or so)
I got a depression self test and it was at the maximum rate :((

then I would solve them one by one (preffered on my own), then maybe I won't be lazy.
if something so happened what did u do?
it is about 2 months that I have almost done nothing.
If I was dead it would be better :((

2006-11-14 06:36:18 · update #1

7 answers

Yeah! I am very proud of you. Do you realize how lucky you are?

1. You were dumped by someone who was not worthy of your love, and you did not have to waste any more time with someone who is not worthy of you. How great to find out at your young age. Now you don't have to waste any more of your precious time and life.

2. You realized that you make mistakes, and that makes you HUMAN and perfectly normal. It would be not-normal to make mistakes and be mistreated, and think everything is fine.

3. You have a right to be restless because you are not taking good care of yourself.....you have given (temporarily) your self-worth and self-esteen to others....but now it is time to take it back.

So please - may we start again...Hello There

1. Smile, yes and smile everytime you pass a mirror, a big smile.
2. Now think, and make a list: - a list of all the bad things that are bugging you, and include those who have hurt you in the past. Now realize that this is in the past.
3. Now make a list of the attributes and good qualities that you admire in others....and list the attributes and good qualities that match some of those you admire in others.
4. Realize that you need to walk more, yup, get out in the fresh air, and park in the farthest parking space (if you have a car) from any entrance hence you will walk more. Try going up and down stairs 3-5 minutes each day....this will give you momentum.

5. When you are finished with the "what's bugging me" list, tear it up and throw it away. It served a purpose, and that's to make you address who and what bugged you in the past.
6. Giver yourself time to heal...and the five stanges of grief for every loss - even the loss of a job, moving and of course the loss of what we think is love are: denial, anger, bargaining - if only I did this -- then that would not have happened, depresssion and then acceptance. Anyone who tells you to get over it....is in denial and let them stay there....These 5 stages of grief are what we all go through even though many times we don't recognize it..or is that more denial.
7. Check your nutrition - eat a good breakfast everyday...the o's with non-fat milk , add more fruit and vegetables,protein - low-fat and yogurt and fiber or fiber tablets - once a day....and don't forget to keep smiling.
8. Call your family and friends - just to keep in touch to ask about how they're doing, and to ....keep the focus off your problems.
9. Talk to any guidance counselors and ask for their advice.
10. Hey - even University students have problems, hence a guidance department!!!! Realize that we all have problems and that will keep you focused on your accomplishments instead of your problems....this starts changing mountains into mole hills theory.
11. You cannot solve all of your problems. But addressing your concerns by making a list of what's bugging you will last for a lifetime...That's when you take back control of your life.

You have a right to be happy. NOW GET THIS...

YOU HAVE A RIGHT TO A ROCKIN RELATIONSHIP, so I'm so glad you got out of a relationship that was not Rockin 4 U....do you realize that I heard nothing...about even if you were happy...I just heart that you were involved. And now you realize, that you require more!

WHEN YOU TAKE BACK CONTROL, YOU WILL ALLOW THE UNIVERSE TO SEND YOU PEOPLE WHO ARE SMILING JUST LIKE YOU...AND want you for who you are.

2006-11-14 06:38:33 · answer #1 · answered by May I help You? 6 · 0 0

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2016-11-29 03:31:26 · answer #2 · answered by duperne 4 · 0 0

I think you are absolutely right to try to solve this on your own without the use of drugs. What alot of people don't understand is that life isn't fair. It seems like what you're going through is a dry period, or a moment where you have a lot of time to think. I would take this time to explore myself. You have learn about you. Find out who resides behind those eyes. True happiness is a gift that comes from within. Explore building a relationship with God, and realize that there is more to this life than what we think. You might be better off not being in a relationship. If you can't be happy alone, or if you don't love yourself......how can you be happy with someone, or love someone else? It all comes down to this....... use this quiet time in your life right now to feel comfortable in your own skin.

2006-11-14 06:44:35 · answer #3 · answered by Endeavor 1 · 0 0

I'm sorry to hear about your misfortunes.

It sounds like you may be depressed. There should be a counseling center on campus where you can talk to a therapist (usually for free). If you don't already know where this is located, call in to the student union and ask for their office hours and phone number. Even if you don't have depression, talking over your troubles with an unbiased professional will help you to get yourself back on track.

Like all medical records, the time you spend with the counselor is completely confidential.

Good luck, and take care!

2006-11-14 06:32:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

It's normal to feel this way sometimes (especially after a break up). You don't have to see a psychologist unless you want to. If you have a support system of friends and family who are willing to talk and spend time with you I would take advantage of it. Go get some excercise when you're feeling extremely low. It releases natural endorphins that make you feel "happier" and gives you more energy. If it gets really bad (lasts longer than 6 months, causes significant distress and disrupts your life and relationships on a daily basis) you should seek a professional. If you're a student there are free counselors provided just to talk if you want.

2006-11-14 06:28:31 · answer #5 · answered by G 3 · 0 0

It just sounds like you are depressed. And it makes sense that you are considering you just lost your love. Thats enough right there to get you down. You could go see a doctor and they might give you medicine. I would do that if this continues for a while. I'm not sure how you can pick yourself up. I know one thing that is not good to do is get completely wasted on drugs/alcohol. That will only magnify the problem.

2006-11-14 06:25:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

I can get this way too sometimes. I hate feeling this way but the best thing I do for myself is surround myself with the people I love and who love me i.e. friends and family. I tell them all the problems I'm having. It feels good to get it off my chest. Then I think to myself, my life could be way worse and that always cheers me up. You may want to see a doctor though if your depression gets really bad. Good luck!

2006-11-14 06:29:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

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