We went out for 10 months, she had a nervous brakdown one night n her parents grounded her for the next three days after that, so i didn't get to see her. <---thats a fact (she didn't make it up) and she thinks her life is falling apart. she said she needs time alone and with friends and stuff. so we went on a break, but i got her to call me every night, a few days later she calls n says she can't do this. she say's shes not in love with me anymore but i'm the perfect guy for her. (whats that????) she says she we are moving to fast and she wants us both to date other people to see if we really love each other as much as we think. I didn't have too many girlfriends before her, and she thinks that i don't really love her and i just think i do because i haven't tryed out enough people to know. so she wants me to see other people for a while to, so i gotta do this to prove to her that i only want her n no other gilrs match up. Is she just making excuses, or does she really believe this?
2006-11-14 06:15:54 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Girls know what they want and she thinks she is being kind by giving you excuses. Before you get hurt any further get yourself away from her. Don't even talk with her. There are plenty of other girls out there that will want what you have to offer. If this girl has to make up excuses - it is over! I have been down that road many times. It's hard to tell someone that you have had relations with that it is over. Most caring people don't like to hurt others so see it for what it is - over. I am so sorry for your situation but unfortunately the truth hurts. I also have been on your side of the situation. You are looking for any gleam of hope for this relationship to work but unfortunately its only one sided. It hurts. The sooner you walk away the better off you will be. Ten months, while it is a long time, it would be worse if longer. The "perfect guy for her" is more than likely her way of saying she honors your friendship. When women are in relationships and opt to get out they want their cake and eat it too. It's ok for her to move on but she doesn't want anybody else to have you. Hope this helps and good luck to you.
2006-11-14 06:34:58 · answer #1 · answered by justbecauseicare 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds a bit fishy. I think she just wants to meet different people period not that she wants to know if you're the right one. You guys seem like you're getting serious at least i assume by the ammount of time you've been together and she might not be ready fo rcommitment and wants to make sure she wants you and only you but- this is tricky. Seeing other people being broken up and still talking to each other is n ot a good combination. Either you will be together or not. I think she probably doesn't want to be with you anymore but be open minded about it though. IF you really love her and she really lvoe you- you will find each other again if not- move on
2006-11-14 06:19:52 · answer #2 · answered by Ms.Budonkadonk 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is making it up buddy, or else she has been convinced of it.
You should say "I don't want to lose you, but since you don't want to see me anymore, I will move on. Good luck, let me know if you change your mind"
Then don't call her or contact her anymore. If she really cares about you, she will come crawling back shortly. If not, time for you to find a new one.
2006-11-14 06:19:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
excuses excuses. That girl doesn't know what she wants. She sounds like shes more problems than what she is worth. I think it's a good idea that ya'll see other people, ya might just find somebody that is sane.
2006-11-14 06:23:43 · answer #4 · answered by Jody 829 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She doesnt seem completely in her right mind, but she is showing some sort of stability by telling you she needs to date others. And shes right, you do need to be with other women to know this is the real thing.
2006-11-14 06:19:11 · answer #5 · answered by JC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she needs help. A nervous breakdown and she gets grounded .. sounds weird. She said she was not in love with you anymore ... let her go.
2006-11-14 06:19:24 · answer #6 · answered by mayihelpyou 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yeah she likes someone else.. you might look good on paper.. polite.. all that other siht.. but she aint feeling it bro. give up. these girls arenothing but heartache. she doesnt know what she wants now.. guess what... she never will be.. tell her to ufck off. youll be better off. and when you find some new box ad the old one comes back make sure you tell her ufck off again. women are asholes liek that alot of the time..
2006-11-14 06:19:07 · answer #7 · answered by greg v 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Easy. You dun give her a sense of security.
You got something that she doesn't like.
Talk to her more to know more about it.
She's now looking for others.
Better work hard before it's too late!
2006-11-14 06:19:12 · answer #8 · answered by gamermic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not think you can love someone when you are young enough to be grounded
2006-11-14 06:25:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if its love then it just is but if either one of you is questioning that then it doesn't really exist and what she meant by you are perfect for her but that she wasn't in love is that you are the wise choice and she knows it in her head but her heart doesn't feel it
2006-11-14 06:21:36 · answer #10 · answered by Heaven C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋