My first grader, he is a six and a half year old boy, was doing great in school. As a matter of fact, recently when I went with him to a field trip like in Sept. or Oct. I asked the teacher how he was doing, if he was talking a lot in class or not. The teacher said he was doing fine.Yesterday my son brought home a note saying that my son has become more talkative lately.I went to go talk to the teacher and he says that yesterday he decided to go ahead and send me that note because my son was not focusing and doing what he wanted to do whenever he would give his back to him.He said that they were in the restroom and that my son was doing what he wanted to do, not paying attention.He said that he sat the classroom down and told the kids to start an assignment on Thanksgiving, he says that my son just went "blank" and was messing around his desk not doing his job.I told him that I had had a talk with him last night and told him that if he say him talking too much with one particular...
2006-11-14 06:13:59 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
kid to please separate him from that person.I meant it both ways, like whether he starts talking or is talked to.I told him that I would continue talking to my son about this.My husband has told me to not think way ahead(see, last year I took him to a therapist because these problems started and because I thought that maybe it had something to do with the fact that his father and I were seperated, but now, we're back together.)Well anyway, my husband tells me to take away some of the stuff he likes to do, to talk to him seriously, have good communication, and then see if he continues like this to take another route. I may be overreacting and should look at things that could be affecting his attention spam, but he is like this even at home sometimes, has a short attention spam. ??????
2006-11-14 06:18:37 · update #1
I think the teacher should have sent home a note saying your son wasn't doing his work when asked, not that he was being more talkative.
Maybe it is a short attention span, but maybe not. I really think he's just being a normal 6 yr. old. I think you should set up a meeting with his teacher and take your son along so you can all talk it out and make a plan to keep your son focused on his work.
2006-11-14 06:18:07 · answer #1 · answered by CelebrateMeHome 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
When do these lapses in attention span occur? Are they all day or do they occur at specific times like right befor lunch, recess, or the end of the day? If they at specific times it could be that your son is distracted by an upcoming event, he could be very hungry and focused on lunch or getting antsy to go to recess and play or come home. If it is around lunch time try feeding him a larger breakfast or feeding him as close to the time he leaves for school as possible to hold him over till lunch. If its near recess or dismissal, explain to your son that even though he is excited to go outside or to come home he needs to concentrate on his school work first. If his attention lapses during a certain lesson like math or science it could be that he is either behind on the lesson and confused or that he is ahead of the class and bored. You need to sit down with the teacher and find out exactly when he is losing his focus. Remember that being 6 he is new to the more rigid requirements of first grade compared to the fun and playing of kindergarten. Watch him at home too. Does he suddenly walk away from the toy he is playing with or show he is watching? When you are talking to him does he sudenly get up and walk away or become distracted and look at something else? If so you may want to talk to your pediatrician and see if there is some underlying medical cause. Im not saying ADD because too many doctors jump to that conclusion there may be a medical reason he cant stay focused
2006-11-16 14:23:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good communication is important with the teacher, they will respect you for it also knowing you are doing what you can. I have a 9 year old that is better when I reward him for being good. He now earns time on the gamecube by reading at home. If he brings home a good daily (1) he plays 1 1/2 w/ friends. A (2) he gets 20 min., and a (3) means no friend time at all. It has made a huge difference and he is proud of the daily grades. The teacher scored him daily on a note, etc, and we discuss it nightly at home. If he knows I'm going to ask everynight he actually gets excited to show me his good behavior #'s. He knows I ask because I care, not because I'm wanting to "yell" at him or anything. Good luck, it's a long road, but he will grow up to be a confident, friendly, and likeable person...........I did. .lol.
2006-11-14 16:08:53 · answer #3 · answered by vkkesu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a 6 year old as well. We are onto daily reports from my sons teacher because he doesn't want to follow directions. He is will-full, stubborn. and chatty. To hold his attention is an act of God or a lesson in dinosaurs...one of the other usually works.
Sorry, but you are most defiantly over reacting. He is a normal boy. Let him be that!! Don't label him as 'unable to pay attention' do you Want to put him on Ritalin?
Use bribery. It works for us. We bought our son a game boy for his birthday. If he doesn't have a good daily report no game boy. All it took was one Friday (which meant all weekend without the game boy) since then, he has had a good report every day! Every parent needs leverage! That game boy was the best $80.00 I've spent in a year!
Kids talk in class. They learn not to! Your son is not abnormal. Trust me girls are much worse! I have a 9 year old as well & talking is definately an issue for her too!
2006-11-14 18:24:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anne A 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How is he doing in school? How are his grades. He has been in school long enough to become very comfortable with his class mates and teacher. Is he a very bright child, maybe he is bored with the class and he is not being challenged. First grade kids like to visit, talk, and don't like to "stay on task." Reward him for his good days. Ask the teacher to let you know when he has a good day or really bad day. Maybe there is a pattern. Are Mondays worse because he hasn't been with his friends?
2006-11-14 23:18:44 · answer #5 · answered by Diane H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if its a big deal I would sit down with his teacher and him and discuss what is bothering him. Maybe hell open up to the teacher with just you as his parents with him. Maybe if it continues have him go for extra help. My son talks alot in school too. He is 6 as well. Hes had his seat moved 2x so far, but when the teacher says stop he stops. tell him when your in school to focus only on the teacher and the teacher only. recess and after school is when you can talk to your friends. Maybe make more play dates so he gets all his conversing out then.
2006-11-14 14:55:55 · answer #6 · answered by courtney b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how much sugar and starch does he get in his diet? May be the problem.
2006-11-14 14:19:21 · answer #7 · answered by Patti T 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋
I think you're typing more... i'll wait.
2006-11-14 14:16:13 · answer #8 · answered by amosunknown 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋