My boyfriend has had problems with his ex girlfriend and her so negative about him visiting his child. They?

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have been to court. He pays child support, his visitation schedule conflicts with his work schedule, the judge did not take this under consideration. She gives him hell when he doesn't visit, and threatens him, he can't afford to be harrassed, he has told her to stop, if they fire him from his job she get no support, to get back at him she put a restraing order against him, he flipped, because they were going to take his gun away, he told the judge she would do this, he has an impeccable record at work, he was to go to court, but he had to immediately call for an adjournment, he is looking into an attorney, the day he was to go to court, she was there and he wasn't. She called him and told him she withdrew the complaint, she was pissed at him. He was furious, and told her not to contact him unless the baby is sick. and that he will lbe foing to court, once the baby turns 1 he can have an overnighter. thats in Dec I can't stand this fighting, he still has not go to the attorney, Help

the only reason she withdrew was she told the judge that she was upset at him. Yes he called the courts and the court date was postponed for a later date...my boyfriend had a medical excuse, plus they only gave him 48 hrs notice...he was bedridden so the courts told him what to do. He can't go over and visit the baby becuase she is always threating him and her family is too, so he is waiting to go to get modified visitation. He hates confrontations with this woman, she can't stand his family nor anyone he is seeing....I haven't even seen the baby, only his birth pic, I know its not my business, but it is annoying that I sit back, I would of gone to the lawyers the next day and the courts the folowing day, I just don't want to be a nag, but how can I tell him that the judge is not just going to have the baby have an overnighter even though he is paying if he doesn't tell the courts she is giving him a hard time..its not my child!! I feel so pissed at him and her! love him but...

Answer 1

You are only the girlfriend. This situation is strickly between the parents of this child. As much as you want to help him, this is totally up to him to work out. If you involve yourself much more then it will come back on your boyfriend. stay out of it.

Answer 2

uh, if he was supposed to go to court and didnt show up, and she did, then she won he forfeits, I dont know why she said she withdrew the complaint, you had better make sure that she really did. You had better watch out everything you do, and document it, my gf and her ex are in a custody fight and we've already had several visits from cops and dhs, "anonymous" calls and complaints. If he really wants an overnight visit with a crying pooping baby, he had better go get a lawyer cause the judges and courts dont take civilians seriously.