My boyfriend of 2 years still lives in his mom's house and he is 27!!! He has a good source of income that is not legal... but doesn't want to leave anytime soon. He always talks about getting our own place but shows no effort what-so-ever to do so. He says he'll get a real job when he feels like it. We have had this conversation millions of times and it always turns into a huge fight. He says, "well we love each other and that is all that should matter!" I love this man to death but he is so stupid! I know I'm stupid for staying! But I love him to much to go! Ahhhhhhh!
2006-11-14 05:59:18 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sooooooooo... why exactly are you dating a champ like that?
2006-11-14 06:01:24 · answer #1 · answered by Wedding Crasher 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't understand why, after having a conversation 999,999 times with him, you still do it for the millionth time. Make up your mind and decide what's important in your life. If you want a stable husband and father, he's not the man. If you like playing around with this immature little loser, then "love" him all you want- just stop asking and stop expecting any different. And if he gets arrested, don't be too surprised.
Sorry, but I think you also need to grow up and stop playing with your life- who you chose to "love to death" is not someone a mature, strong woman would even look at.
2006-11-14 06:05:44 · answer #2 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
O god!! girl, walk away. What women would want a man of 27 still living with his momma. Sad. you should let him go.
It just shows that he don't want to get off his momma's tit. sorry. he just don't want to be a man and get out. If you are complaining on here, then there is obviously something wrong in your relationship. Best thing, as much as it hurts... walk away and find you a man who will be your companion and would like to have a place together. That sucks! Good luck, lady. Don't be dumb forever. You will see someday, and you will realize that he is not for you.
2006-11-14 06:05:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is NOT all that matters. Love doesn't pay the bills or put food on the table. AND...Obviously, love isn't making you happy.
This is just a sign of what your life may be if you continue with him. You won't have anything, he will control everything, I'll even bet that your name will never be on his bank account.
You need to find someone that will treat you as you deserve and take care of you in your own life and not under his mommy.
2006-11-14 06:07:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry but, I'd pull the plug on him. I think you need a new man in your life. He's not going anywhere, trust me. There's plenty of men out there between 25 to 27 that have real jobs and make damn good money. You definitely need to trade him in.
2006-11-14 06:06:46 · answer #5 · answered by Stick'em in the Trunk 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LEAVE HIM NOW!!!!!!! Illegal income...if you have kids even though you have nothing to do with this income your kids could be taken away from you. Do you want to live your life scared that your boyfriend never comes home because he got shot or is in jail? Or if a cop comes to your house? Get out now before you lose everything you hold dear. And yourself!
2006-11-14 06:03:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the question you need to be asking yourself is Why you are with a stupid guy? He is not good for you nor is his life going in the same direction as yours. Let him go and find someone who is on the same track as you. Your life will be allot happier in the long run.
2006-11-14 06:08:24 · answer #7 · answered by WENDY G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well this guy doesn't seem to motivated. tell him that you will dump him if he doesn't start making plans for your future together. you're not engaged right??? so why should he make plans if he didn't even ask you to marry him?? maby he doesn't love you as much as he says. Its hard to tell from just what you say, but my advice is to tell him he better shape up or you're gone, does he show you that he loves you??? or does he just say so..? anyone can say " i love you" but if you really do love somone, you show them, and you show it often. if he can't do this for you, it sounds like he's just comfortable with his lifestyle (living with his mom, and being with you) and is afraid or jsut too lazy to change it. It doesn't sound like you're anything special to him. talk to him again and resolve this or get outta there. good luck to you! i hope i helped out!
-TJ
2006-11-14 06:06:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him you want your own life with him not with his mother if you plan on having kids and actuallly gettting your own place he has to get a job or you wont be able to buy a house because if hes gettting paid illegally then its not showing up on record and when you go buy a house hell have no record of income and youll be screwed..he needs to stop talking and start doing..
2006-11-14 06:05:19 · answer #9 · answered by alissaxnicole 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get married to someone else. Make him regret about his attitude. Invite him to your wedding. Give him some cake and ask him to be silent forever. Also give a large pice of cake to his mother. Congratulate her about her son who is a loser. Live happily thereafter. Good luck!
2006-11-14 06:03:56 · answer #10 · answered by x_squared 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tough love would be to call the Police. If getting caught causes him to straighten up, you have won him; if it only hardens him and turns him against you, you never had him.
2006-11-14 06:05:24 · answer #11 · answered by marvingray 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋