what do i do so that i trust him and dont worry about it. we have been together for 2 years it was rocky and starting getting better but now he calls her. i moved into my own place to give us space even though he stays by my place every night. he is very over protective or insecure not sure which one. but he never gives me the attention that i need or want. how to i make him crave for me.
2006-11-14 05:54:38 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Look I just posted a question with a similiar situation,.. don't put yourself through that crap like I did. Guess what he is still seeing his ex. She probably don't want his butt, but he cannot deal with the fact of not having her. He wants you too... it is a control issue he has. Trust me... read my questions about my fat lard. I finally had enough of the ****.
You deserve better sweetie.
2006-11-14 06:00:12 · answer #1 · answered by Sassy Shut Your Mouth 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First you have to resolve the issue with the calls to the ex, unless it doesn't bother you (but I see it does). Ask him why he feels the need to contact his ex and why he doesn't tell you about it. Tell him trust is what makes or breaks a relationship and by him doing this the trust is being questioned. The ex is an ex for a reason and if he wants to have a meaningful loving relationship he will end the calls or decide who he wants now, you can't have both.
As for the attention you need, you have to look at what you want from him and tell him. Communication is the second most important issue that can make or break the relationship. You have to lay it out there and be specific about what you expect and ask him what he expects from you (goes both ways). Nobody can read minds, if you lay it out there and if he tries your heading in the right direction, just give it time . If at anytime your brain is telling you this is not what I want, listen to it and end it before your heart gets too involved. It will save you a lot of heartbreak.
2006-11-14 06:16:59 · answer #2 · answered by trojan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can't trust him enough to not look in his phone to see who he's called, then you shouldn't be in this relationship. Relationships, whether they're with friends or boyfriends, depend on trust...that's what they are built on. If you, after being with this guy for 2 years, can't get over the fact that he still talks to his ex then there is a problem. If he's staying over at your place every night, then you know where he is, therefor why are you worried? Contrary to popular belief, it is possible to stay friends with an ex, if two people are mature enough to handle it. If you have to check his phone to see who he's talking to (which seems a little 'stalkerish' to me), then maybe it's time to find a man and a relationship where you can trust him. If you wanna be with him, quit checkin his call list and ask for the things you need. People cannot read minds, if there is something specific you need from him, tell him! Ten bucks says he doesn't even know there's a problem....he is a man after all.
2006-11-14 06:00:28 · answer #3 · answered by bettedaviseyes79 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are being very selfish. A baby has 2 parents and therefor two sets of grandparents. It's hard to be a first time mom and the more help you can get is the best. A womans mother is always the one she wants and that is ok but you can't put the other grandmother off, it would be a huge mistake. Just think about it hopefully you will change your mind. Grandmothers know how to keep the baby safe so it's not like she's a stranger. Good luck
2016-03-19 08:01:44 · answer #4 · answered by Michele 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off - ask him about calling his ex. Come straight out and tell him that you would be much more comfortable if he would at the least tell you that he's calling her. Maybe even ask to meet her if he starts hanging out w/ her.
And second - you can't MAKE someone crave you. You can however create more space by not answering his calls once in a while or making other plans so that he can't come over. That would probably give him the space to want you more.
2006-11-14 05:57:39 · answer #5 · answered by Niko 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't make anyone crave you. This isn't about him calling his ex it's about you wanting attention you don't feel you're getting. The only thing is are you sure of the attention you want. It's obvious you spend time together EVERY DAY. When he comes over, be honest and tell him what you want. Don't expect him to read your mind especially since you can't read his. Don't do any game playing. Stop looking in his phone and don't trip over him calling his ex. Don't assume anything until you two have spoken about what's going on. Like I said.... BE HONEST, and be calm.
2006-11-14 06:01:48 · answer #6 · answered by Me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey there, I've been through the same thing. My ex Bf was calling his ex behind my back. He was getting texts from her, and she was calling him at strange hours at night esp. I didn't want to believe it that he could do that to me. I thought he loved me, and would never hurt me, but in the end he really broke my heart into pieces. I tired to just ignored it, thinking it was nothing, that their just friends but the truth is he really wanted to be with her and not me anymore. I was crying every night about it, cause it was tearing me apart. you need to bring it up to him, and tell him thats not cool. He needs to tell you whats up, and not waste your time suffering and worrying about them always still talking to eachother. Have you met her before? If not i'd be really worred then. Thats what happen to me. I hope the best for you, and keep in mind make yourself happy because thats the most important thing first. Take care.
2006-11-14 06:05:59 · answer #7 · answered by Crazy Heart 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Neither one of you guys has trust. Very bad. Youre both messed up in the head a little.
A) He should be able to tell you he spoke to her. For whatever reason
B) you shouldnt be going through his phone.
theres some trust issues here. break up now before he catches you and beats you.. you dseserve it you snake. youre probably cheating on him
2006-11-14 05:58:38 · answer #8 · answered by greg v 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he is insecure he might be creeping around. There are lots of great men out there why waste ur time on a loser that can't get over his x girl.he never gives u the attention that u need or want so get u 1 that will pay u attention
2006-11-14 05:59:21 · answer #9 · answered by Linda704 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Propose marriage to yor bf and invite his ex to the wedding. Give her some cake and ask her to leave thereon. Then live happily.
2006-11-14 05:59:20 · answer #10 · answered by x_squared 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋