Every girl reading this can probably relate to this question!
Hey guys, how come us girls almost always have to push to hear nice things about us from you?
I asked a guy about this once and he said 'remember, I'm not gay....'
YEAH, I got that freakin' memo. But, ya know, if you said nice things to your lady every once & awhile. When you are ALONE. With your BOYS not around or anything. You'd get laid more!
So, what is up with us having to push for compliments?
2006-11-14 05:52:09 · 20 answers · asked by Mintygoodness1 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
THANK YOU!!!
you know how many fights this has caused me?? last year my BF and i went to the Bahamas. i got all sexified, looking really hot if i do say so myself (and i NEVER say that about me) and my bf pretty much just told me he was to tired. all i freakn wanted was "wow" or "you look nice" or anything!!!
and this isnt the first time this exact fight has happened. usually if i do something to draw attention, he usually doesnt say one freakn word. it makes me soooo mad that i just give up and go to sleep right then and there (if i'm not crying first)
why cant you just tell us what you KNOW we want to hear when you can BLATANTLY SEE THAT WE ARE LOOKING FOR SOMETHING!!!!!?!
2006-11-14 05:57:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Someone already said it's a two way street ... but if you actually tried it out for a few weeks I'm sure you'll notice a change in his attitude ... start giving him compliments ... small ones .. and be more appreciative when he does something ... saying Thank You and letting your guy know he's sexy to you ... will make him want to treat you like Gold ... a princess ... whatever it is you're looking for ... I try to let my man know when I notice things he did around the house the yard or even if he just made the bed for that day ... I make sure he knows I appreciate it ... compliments are always nice ... but knowing you're wanted, appreciated & loved unconditionally goes a lot further ... !
I've never had to push for compliments before with my man ... you shouldn't have to either ... my man is a rough & tough tractor driver dirt bike racer tattooed & pierced ... and he still gives me compliments - it's not a " gay " thing .. that guy sounds like a retard if you ask me .. lol .. give & receive .. it always works unless the guy is flat out rude & a pig ... and who really wants to be with a pig ... !
2006-11-14 14:07:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well let me state this from a guy that gives out many compliments to my girlfriend. At first I thought that it was nice to say nice things to my girlfriend Yet i guess i went a wee bit over board with it. I'm not too sure how i did this yet every-time i said something nice it was responded with "No I'm not". That was the first stage of 5yrs now I'm told that I'm too loving to caring to mushy and i should be a MAN......... Great I say!!!! Now I feel I'm caught in a catch 22. So I guess a little can go way too much. By the way I'm still with My very great loving G/F she is my world I just don't tell her that as much!
2006-11-14 14:01:00 · answer #3 · answered by redskymoon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not a guy but I agree with stockoslayer and into_the_matrix. I compliment my boyfriend and it makes him remember that he should compliment me. I don't compliment him so that he'll return it; it's always sincere but it does help. Also, if he compliments you, remember to take it as a genuine compliment and say thank you. Don't do one of those "whatever, I'm ugly" things that girls love to do (including me). It makes the guy wonder why they bother and eventually they stop bothering
2006-11-14 13:57:04 · answer #4 · answered by Katie L 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Thats interesting..Because i see most women say on this site that nice guys who treat their women too nicely are boring and you don't like that..
So wouldn't a guy who compliments a woman a lot be a "nice guy" and would only get himself screwed by doing so?
2006-11-14 13:58:10 · answer #5 · answered by . 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
women is born when sensitive nature and sensitive heart. from the very begining, girl like to get attention and like to hear more compliments. it is nature every single women has it. if any women reacts that she does not care what other have just said nice about her. they are messed up inside. they like it even they donot show it outside. but inside the feel secure the their husband or boyfriends admire them.
now question WHY?
because women want love more then men, they want to be secure, want to be loved and one to give love. she feel comfort and secure when they know that someone loves them or like them. women are delicate human nature. so are some men thats why some of them also like to hear compliment about them too.
so it is just a way to get to know that someone love them for what they are.
2006-11-14 14:02:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most men think I am here for her, what is her problem end of story, the rest is just girl stuff. and men do not THINK like woman. So I guess I am saying you need to be a bit secure in your self and know that you are good, and not have to hear it, cause it is going to have to be dragged out of them
2006-11-14 13:59:11 · answer #7 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Life is a two way street - guys like compliments also
2006-11-14 13:53:50 · answer #8 · answered by into_thematrix 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because of society and how they are brought up. I taught my son to always be polite, open doors, pay attention and notice changes, compliment but not overly, be clean with yourself and you will get what you want and need.
2006-11-14 13:54:46 · answer #9 · answered by nanny4hap 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How often do you compliment him? And when you do, are you doing it the right way? We don't want to hear the same things you do.
2006-11-15 13:45:31 · answer #10 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋