Cursing problem!?

Question

My son is 2 1/2. I can not bring him out ANYWHERE or sign him up for preschool. I know what most of you are thinking...stop cursing around your kid, what kind of parent are you. But we DON'T. I am sure every once in a while he has heard something our of our mouths, but it is VERY rare. But says every curse. SOB, F***, G** D*** it, Shut your mouth. He even tells us we will go in time out. And he knows how to use every work correctly. How do I stop this. We have tried ignoring it completely, time outs, taking away toys and giving him different words to use likle Phooey, Silly etc. Am I doomed to have a rude horrible child???

Answer 1

Posible Serial Killer, you may need to slap his hand and tell him no.

Answer 2

He has to be learning these things somewhere. Watch what you're putting on the television and in the CD player. Don't LAUGH when he curses. That's probably why he started in the first place. He got reinforced because "it's cute or funny" that a 2 year old knows these words. But it isn't and you need to take a stand and when he uses the words you need a plan of action. Take away things he enjoys or reward him when he uses an alternate word. Don't give him that negative attention or he will continue to say the words so that he gets that attention (whether good or bad). Also if he has siblings or playmates make sure they aren't the source.

Answer 3

He is definitely hearing those words somewhere often enough for him to be familiar with them - you need to figure out where and shut that exposure out NOW. What has helped with my kids is whenever they said a word that I found inappropriate, I let them know which word was an unacceptable, and what words they COULD use, and made them repeat that sentence with me in a "good" way. I don't get all mad, or show much reaction other than to correct the situation, because sometimes all the child is looking for is the reaction from you. Also, if sometime you're watching a tv show or hear someone saying curse words, talk with your son, and talk about how mean/wrong that was of whoever to say, and play the "correct sentence" game then, too, so he can see that it's inappropriate language, whoever uses it. When you say things like, "We don't talk like this", then make sure you DON'T talk like that. If you slip up - you're human - correct yourself and explain to your son what you did is wrong. He'll respect you more for it.

Answer 4

He hasn't just said these words and the fact that they're curses is just an unhappy coincidence. He's obviously picked them up from somewhere. Be very careful to make sure that that rare occasion from your mouth NEVER happens! Also, be aware of what he's watching on TV. Make sure you let him know that those words are naughty and that he shouldn't say them. be a lot more strict then you are now. You're not doomed, you just have to make sure that he knows if he says these words there will be consequences and be extremely careful about what he can hear, he's a child, not stupid, he can hear you and everything else

Answer 5

no your not doom has a parent so please don't thing that.... and your not a bad parent your trying to raise a kid in such a corrupt world with more evil then good , but you can change your kids behavior for every bad word he says put hot sauces or soap in his mouth and if he doesn't lake the taste maybe he wont say another bad word again, but if he repeats it give him more but pleas don't let him sallow it , spit it out after a few secs. i know this sounds cruel but i do it with the kids i babysit. And for the taking the kids out side to the store where they behave in such a ill manner, i have taken them out of the store and took them outside where they can make an fool out of there self embarrassing them and not me and when they finally calm down i would ask the child "are you done because i can do this all day" and i think ofter the child embarrassed himself he has never did it again. I hope this information helps good luck!!!!!

Answer 6

Thank god my kids were never this way. My nephew on the other hand was and his parents never swore, he got it from watching adult TV instead of cartoons. Anyway, he did eventually grow out of it once he got to school, but there was nothing anyone could do to my nephew to make him stop. The more we gave him time-outs, spanked him, put him in the corner face first (for 20 seconds), took toys away, etc. the more he thought this was part of the game and his swearing words were now entertainment to him. Ignoring it will not make the swearing stop. Best thing to do is when he does swear, tell him no. If he says to you that you'll get a time-out, go for one but take him with you and he gets one also for being a little brat to his mom.

Answer 7

If he didn't hear it from you, then it is the TV, borthers or sisters, cousins etc. You need to find the source and turn it off. He will grow out of it though, you are not doomed. Keep using the time outs and taking toys away, that will eventually work. But you have to be 100% consistent.

Answer 8

No. He's just trying out these words to get a reaction. I would correct him every time. "We don't use that word." Tell him that even in public. Make sure you follow through on punishments. You might want to make it obvious, like have a potty-mouth box and put his toys in there. If he says a bad word, a toy goes in the box. He can see the toy but he can't have it until he says "sorry" and says the sentence using another word.

Answer 9

Oh, please be honest -- at 2 1/2 he doesn't make this stuff up -- he hears it DAILY in order to put into sentences and use it correctly!! Try and figure out where he is hearing it. I am not one to promote spanking, but a good pop on the tush won't hurt him and it will get his attention. But before you do that, take a step back to make sure it is not you or your family he is picking this up from -- that will just defeat the punishment -- mommy says it, why can't I - for example.

Answer 10

I can assure you he is getting this language from some where...They don't just use those words..Try finding out where he is getting them..Older siblings, neighborhood friends, babysitters house, nieces or nephews he plays with...He is getting them some where..And when he uses such words don't ignore it...Don't make a HUGE deal out of it either..Simply correct him.."That is not an acceptable word and I do not want you to be using it any more..Ugly words make an ugly boy..And you don't want to be an ugly boy do you?"..Any ways something like that..Keep it consistent and don't let is slide..And you might want to give him acceptable words..One I like is "Ohh Pickles"..They use that on Little Einstein I think..Any way it is cute and a good replacement for when he is a bit angry or what ever..Good luck..

Answer 11

i had that problem with my daughter she is now four she was about 2 just before preschool.....what i did and it seem to work quite well was i ignored her completely when she would say the f word (tht was her favorite) the point of ignoring her was when they curse and we react whether good or bad the child knows that they are getting reaction out of us one way or another...so if you ignore them they will stop ...with my daughter she started to slow up on the cusing in just a few days of me and her father ignoring her...now she is four and you wouldnt ever suspect she ever had a sailor mouth....hope this helps