My friend has two children, one baby that her Grandma watches all day and a 6 yr old girl, normally watched only after school by a teenager. Due not only to the teenager getting chicken pox and an employment shift change the 6 yr old now needs to be watched for 2 hours before school and 45 minutes after school. I am doing it this week because the teen has chicken pox. I am getting up 1 1/2 hours earlier than normal and I have four kids of my own. I have to try to keep the girl quiet to not wake my babies. How will I say no if this friend asks me to keep watching the 6yr old, mainly because I don't think the teen will be willing to watch the girl at 6am. The 6 yr old is not a bad kid, I just don't want to watch any children, especially having to get up at 5:30 am.
2006-11-14 05:48:37 · 12 answers · asked by Sheila 6 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
thats a tough one
i learned a long time ago to not do what i dont want to do
my god
thats asking a lot of you
i would never ask you to do that
she should try a daycare
2006-11-14 05:56:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just tell your friend that you can't do it all the time. Explain your own children's routine and that you have your hands full enough watching after your own kids. Try to be as nice as possible, of course.
There's nothing wrong with helping a friend out and for your friend accepting your help. Your friend has to realize that they're an adult and need to find other ways other than family and friends to expect to keep their kids. There are sitters you they could pay or even day-care. It takes adjusting and I'm sure your friend appreciates your help a lot. But, with my sister, when she was pregnant she'd call me to see if I was going to the grocery store and would always ask me to pick her something up and bring to her house. Not that it was far out of my way, but it began to be calling me asking me to go to the store for her EVEN when I WASN'T going myself. Now she asks me nearly every weekend to watch her daughter. Saying no is just something you have to learn. It's hard sometimes especially with people you love, but you can't let them run over you, even if they're not meaning to. Best of luck!
2006-11-14 05:56:02 · answer #2 · answered by Shannon L - Gavin's Mommy 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Just be honest and tell her that you already have a full schedule and cannot handle anything else. It's one thing to agree to help out with emergencies on a temporary basis, but your friend shouldn't take advantage of it and expect you to do it all the time.
2006-11-14 06:07:38 · answer #3 · answered by angelicjolie2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is not your responsibility. It was nice of you to help your friend out in a pinch, but if she asks you to continue, just tell her it is too much for you. Your kids have to come first, and if you are wiped out by getting up so early, it's not fair to them. Why can't the grandma watch both kids?
2006-11-14 07:24:35 · answer #4 · answered by Tiss 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2016-10-22 02:09:51 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest with your friend. You have your hands full as it is. Your friend should understand. Just tell her you will do it for the rest of the week but next week she has to figure something else out
2006-11-14 05:54:02 · answer #6 · answered by vanessac2006 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
here's a crazy idea: explain it to her like you did here. tell her it's too early for you, and that you aren't interested in doing it after the chicken pox thing clears up. yes, it's really that easy.
2006-11-14 05:52:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to be honest and tell your friend that she might want to look for another babysitter.Tell her your plate is full and you only helped out as a favor.
2006-11-14 05:51:43 · answer #8 · answered by Kitty? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just explain to her you have your hands full with your four kids. Maybe you could suggest someone or help her find someone to babysit, instead of you.
2006-11-14 05:57:53 · answer #9 · answered by heyitsmedarra 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well this is no good advice, but make up excuses.
Or tell your friend you're really tired and won't be able to attend the baby the right way.
2006-11-15 10:30:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋