I just recenlty broke up with my boyfriend of over 5 years. After over a month of actually being broken up, I am coming to terms with the fact that it is really over. I need to heal my heart fast and move on. I dont want to hurt or be sad or depressed anymore. What is the best thing for a girl to do?
2006-11-14 05:43:23 · 18 answers · asked by Christina B 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Christina,,my dear,,first im so sorry for what happened to you.
second,,be strong,,trust God,,trust your self alot,, dont lose your confidence,,you still a girl,,and sweet girl,, always keep this idea inside of your self ,,you still have admirers,,alottttttttt of them
the third and the more important: Dont get your self in another relationship so fast just to heal you heart,,if you do,,you will hurt another person ,,and may be you get hurt too,,so please be patiante and get all fun you can ,,and make new friends,, but dont fall in love just a shallow to heal,, fall in love if you really feel it inside of your self,, and if you feel that new man makes you forget everything,,your past,,your ex,,even he makes you forget your self when you are with him,,and just remembering the love between you and him,,be careful please.
Christina ,,i would like to have a friendship with you,,thats if you dont mind sure,,and dont forget,,just friendship with every one for now,,,, if so,,please feel free to contact me on:
carry_me5455@yahoo.com
waiting to hear from you very very soon,,take good care of your self,,,please,,,bye for now,,,
2006-11-14 05:52:42 · answer #1 · answered by carry_me5455 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-05 16:14:11 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i am not a girl, But i will still give you advice as i am in the same predicament as you.
I find that the best thing to do is keep your mind busy! As soon as you have time to think about things, Is when it all falls apart! Im finding it incredibly hard to move on myself, But i know i have to do it! Life is to short to be down all the time over something like this, However, When it is about someone you Love, It s a different story all togehter!
Just keep yourself busy, Talk to your friends as much as you can, Preferably not about your boyfriend... Go out as much as you can!
Just do not go and get drunk, That will only get rid of the pain for a few hours, But will be back with even more Pain!!! Also, Do not think of doing anything that most people would think of as the "Last Resort". Ive been there myself, And it really is a terrible thing to go through!
Just stay strong, Pull yourself together and realise its what fate wanted and that it was part of lifes plan!
If you have any other queries drop me a mail.
2006-11-14 05:50:57 · answer #3 · answered by krazy_k006 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
TIME is the only heartache med. It may not happen fast, but it is the best thing you can do. Or if you really want to move on, go find a true love and that Will heal your heart quick, just what ch for signs that may lead you down the wrong path. Now that you have been through it once (or maybe more than once) you will be smarter and know exactly what to do to prevent another heart-ache.
2006-11-14 05:48:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know what it is like to "deal" w/something like this. The only thing that will heal a broken heart is time. Occupy yourself, be w/friends, go shopping, something that will take your mind off of the relationship. I was with my ex for 6 years and he told me on christmas day he didn't want to see me again. It hurt, however, I wouldn't of met, the most wonderful man in the world, we have been great for the past 7 years. So even though it didn't work out between you and your ex, there is someone for everyone.
2006-11-14 05:51:06 · answer #5 · answered by Heartful_poet 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
To remember the good times, learn from the bad times, take advantage of your newly acquired time (and do some things you might have been putting off, but wanted to do), and most of all remember that there will be another romance in your future.
A lot of times you have too much time on your hands, and use it reflecting on the past...asking why it went bad, what you could have done different, etc. Use that time to volunteer... there are causes out there that need you. Be a mentor, or Big Brother/Sister. Volunteer at a community center, battered spouse/child shelter, animal shelter, daycare, hospital, nursing home, school, etc......you may meet someone else who also likes to volunteer and give to their community...they may have the same interests as you, and you would meet someone of high morale character.
2006-11-14 05:49:27 · answer #6 · answered by Chrisleeindy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
everyone has their own way of dealing. My best advice (i've been there) is to find things you are interested in. I found that the more I thought about it the harder it was to move on. One day you wake up just tired of kicking yourself. You realize it's over and you are ready to date, or go out with friends, or heck, even see that person in public and not have your stomach in knots. There is no timetable.
I've also found that when I wasn't looking to meet someone was when I actually would. Maybe it's the fact that you're more relaxed and aren't forcing anything. keep it in mind and hang in there. :)
2006-11-14 05:54:17 · answer #7 · answered by tchr99 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You ought to know that you will go through all the stages of grief. You can't rush the process you will go through, just know that tomorrow may be easier for you to cope with your broken heart than today. It may be harder. Time will truly heal all. Get yourself as occupied as possible in activities, friends, hobbies, work, whatever. Write all your feelings in a journal as an outlet, but KNOW that it will take time to get over him. In time, you will meet someone new and they will help get you to the next chapter of your life. Good luck.
2006-11-14 05:48:38 · answer #8 · answered by PisceKween 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is very difficult when you have been in a relationship with someone for awhile. Don't hold in those tears... let them out. Try grabbing a great book to read or listening to your favorite upbeat music. Also try going out with some friends, or taking a class for a hobby of yours, or try a new hobby. Don't rush to meet someone... rebound relationships are the worst, I know, I just had my heart broken from one.
I wish you the best... if you like to chat just to have someone listen/read...IM me.
2006-11-14 05:51:56 · answer #9 · answered by Sassy Shut Your Mouth 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First off you have to look deep within yourself and think about what really matters to you when it comes to life and people. Write them down on paper if you have to, but always refer back to this "list" when you think or write about it.
Then you have to find a group of people who also believe in those things that matter to you the most because this will get you to the next level in your life and path of life quickly and help you to move on as soon as possible..
The best way to do this is to find another interest that you've always wanted to do or are naturally attracted to in life and join a group of people who also are interest in the same thing. combining this with the issues of what matters to you the most and you will eventually find a new group of people quickly enough.
As an example, in my own life , i get along best with people who have a good balance of life smarts, people smarts, and book smarts. Scuba diving is one of those interests that i've always had throughout my life and the best type of people i've met so far has been because of this. It really has worked on a positive level for me in meeting people who share values like mine own in this way too.
2006-11-14 05:51:03 · answer #10 · answered by snorkelman_37 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋