do i believe him? he usually feels guilty about everything and a good guy and hes like if u dont stop not trusting me our relationship wont last because i did not cheat on u! so i dropped it cuz in my heart i felt he could not do this to me
any thoughts on this
2006-11-14 05:31:17 · 20 answers · asked by nygirlsrdifferent 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
HI.
Your question is great. I couldn't resist it. You know, I want to say all kinds of tricky ways you could find out ...and what to look out for ..all that kind of stuff....But I honestly believe YOU have the answer to your question, What does your GUT feeling say ...not what you want to hear but really listen to what your guts instincts are telling you . Your gut will not lie to you ....ever..listen to your inner voice. Don't jump to conclusions.....at the same time don't just accept anything your told....you have everything you need inside of you. What is the character of the people telling rumors? telling a rumor in the first place is not a sign of good character. that is just my humble opinion. I am no judge that's for sure. Well here I go telling you what to look out for ..when all you need to do is listen to what the inner voice tells you ....it will not fail you.
I wish for you the best that life has to offer!!
Peace
Trust in God ...BUT ...lock your car anyway!!
2006-11-14 05:55:24 · answer #1 · answered by KorvetteKaren 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds a little defensive...you know rumors are a dime a dozen. Especially depending on what age group you fall into. If you are still in high school...young people have a tendency to try and ruin people.
Rumors aren't always reliable...but you know your bf best...how did you feel when he denied it? Did you feel satisfied or did you think he was lying? I would go with your gut instinct.Also if there is not a specific person who actually saw or really knows that he cheated, then you really don't have anything to stand on. I wish you luck in figuring this one out.
remember to go with your gut instinct!!
2006-11-14 05:36:55 · answer #2 · answered by yidlmama 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why would you believe rumors? Usually these are started by people who want to make trouble for you. You either trust your boyfriend or you don't. If you don't then break up with him and look for someone else. If you don't have trust then you don't have a relationship.
2006-11-14 05:35:29 · answer #3 · answered by Barbiq 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
go with your gut feeling. if your insides are saying he's cheated then chances are that you might have but don't rely on your gut feeling, find some hard evidence if need be otherwise if you trust him and he trusts you then it doesn't matter what other people say. I once dated a DJ and you can imagine the rumors about him but I trusted him and none of those rumors were true.
2006-11-14 05:37:15 · answer #4 · answered by tonaloha 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The trust must be there if you love and trust him, and if he trusts you then believe him. rumors are rumors. your relationship is between you 2 only.
My ex was always hearing rumors every day that I cheated on her. She eventually left me because she started to beleive them. I never cheated on her. and no one will ever believe me because everyone else is hundereds of people against one me. But I know the truth and God knows the truth and I will die happy knowing that I never did that to her.
it's up to you to believe him. But at the same time... don't fool yourself.
2006-11-14 05:39:31 · answer #5 · answered by Joseph K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take it from someone who was the girl that the guy cheated on his girlfriend with
go with the rumors because most likely people wont make it up for no reason. Obviously he is going to deny it so he doesnt hurt you, and so that your relationship stays together
sorry to be so blunt but you need to not be so blind to your "perfect" boyfriend cheating on you because trust me, almost every guy cheats, or have cheated before
all this doesnt mean that he doesnt have feelings for you though, he is probably lying about it to try to protect you
2006-11-14 05:36:07 · answer #6 · answered by Lindsay xo0x 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Have you ever considered to confront the ones that told you this? Get who ever is telling you the rumors and your boyfriend in the same room and ask them to repeat the rumors. For now, just trust him unless he gives you reason not to.There was rumors going around that my boyfriend was cheating on me too, but I wouldn't believe them unless they could produce proof, which no one could do.
2006-11-14 05:38:16 · answer #7 · answered by sweetgurl13069 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Open communication builds trust. If you do not have this, then chances are you will be suspicious with your b/f all the time.
Remember, if you can talk to him about everything or anything at any given time then you have the ultimate trust between you. If he doesn't always talk or holds back on conversation whenever you want to talk about everything, then you have every right to be suspicious.
2006-11-14 05:33:40 · answer #8 · answered by snorkelman_37 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to go with facts. How many people saw him doing what?
You have not provided sufficient information to draw any reasonable conclusion.
I would be careful about taking rumor as fact. At the same time I would not stick my head in the sand and not listen.
2006-11-14 05:33:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you trust him, then you should trust him. I agree with him, if you can't trust him then the relationship is over because trust is everything. Rumors are horrible, you need to be able to not listen to rumors.
2006-11-14 05:33:53 · answer #10 · answered by xorosho 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋