i feel so self conscience of what guys might think of me. i havent been at a mixed school for ages but have just started sixth form at this boys school but its mixed sixth hence forth me being in it. i generally find it hard to speak to guys, how can i be confident without feeling im being wierd?plus i just need help for being confident , please help!!
2006-11-14 05:24:44 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
be yourself if the guys are worth all this worry they will see through any acting!
i wish more people acted like them self!
2006-11-14 05:27:02 · answer #1 · answered by Nigi-magic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't build guys up in your head as magnificent beings to be scared of. They're just guys. Yeah, they may have cute butts or look good but, at the end of the day, they are jsut human. Also, they are probably the least observant creatures on the planet so they probably won't notice if you do say soemthing silly or make a boo boo, which you won't because your cool and wonderful and people like you. Its even better if you laugh off your boo boo's because then you seem really fun to be around. Just say to yourself that you are you and you are wonderful. If you're ever felling low on confidence then just list to yourself all your good qualities and hold your head up high.
2006-11-14 06:46:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just smile! Walk into a room with your head held high, just tell yourself everyone in there will want to talk to you and you'll feel more confident, and then everyone will want to talk to you! Remember first impressions count so just relax, be yourself, initiate conversations with people - it's more than likely that other people are just as nervous as you and they'll appreciate you making the effort to talk to them and they'll love you for it!
Just wear something you feel comfy in, but you think you look good in too, then take a quick look at yourself in the mirror, smile, tell yourself how much everyone will love you and then walk out with a straight back and head held high! Pretend you've known new people for ages and conversation will come naturally, it doesn't matter what you talk about, even the weather! Just start a conversation! Just don't try too hard! People like you to be genuine, so be yourself.
2006-11-14 05:32:08 · answer #3 · answered by mishmash 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are probably more aware than you should be. You just got to take a guy straight i.e. just start a conversation without thinking about his sex. Dont confuse yourself with what you have in the backend of your mind..... (you know what I mean), just concentrate on the topic you are discussing. Doesn't matter if your topic is weired so long as the guy responds to your conversation. Change the topic when you feel he's getting bored..... or rather try to allow him to initiate the conversation.
Please feel free to contact me in case you need any further help.
Best of Luck !
2006-11-16 16:21:55 · answer #4 · answered by avijdas 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had this same problem. I found it hard to speak to guys as well. I thought that they were always judgeing me. If you feel like you can't talk to guys because you think they are looking at you for you appearance then you're all wrong. Don't worry about what a guy thinks of you. Every girl is beautiful in their own way. And for some girls looks isn't the way to go. And if you think it's your looks that aren't pretty, then look inside of you. Most guys look in the inside for girls.
2006-11-14 05:30:25 · answer #5 · answered by Brystle 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry so much... most guys find it hard to speak to girls (but don't really like admitting it!). Its possible to ften read on here guys wanting help to speak to girls. Amazing as it may seem, guys are shy too, they just hide it better with bravado (and mates!). Just be yourself, if you know what you're talking about (you know music etc) then be confident and the easiest way to communicate... is just smile and say hello...
2006-11-14 05:32:02 · answer #6 · answered by Boring Old Fart 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be yourself!
That is the easiest advice to be given but sometimes the hardest to follow.
To start, speak about things you know about and speak casually - don't expect every encounter as a "boy-girl" encounter, just think of it friend to friend. Once you are more comfortable in the school, you will see talking to them will come easier.
Remember - they are probably just as intimidated by you as you are of them.
Good Luck.
Miss Cris
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2006-11-14 05:28:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah totally true just be yourself. After time, you will find it easy talking to them, bring up a subject that you are confident with so that you have alot to say and hopefully they will be intereted too, or bring up a subject which you know they like. Good luck
2006-11-14 05:29:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
any female can approach a guy, we are all just dumb animals, we will be polite (most of the time and only a few of us bite, but that comes later). we may not admit it all the time but we like it just as much as you do. ;) as for the confidence you have to work on that yourself, but we are all capable of great things when we try, even myself, although i never would have believed it cough years ago
2006-11-14 05:34:33 · answer #9 · answered by gameface_angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of u shouldnt have to feel self conscience of what some1 will think of u coz u r who u r and if some1 doesnt like u 4 u then they aint worth knowing so dont worry about what they may think of u just be urself!the best way to be cofident is by not been so self consience!good luck....
2006-11-14 05:30:42 · answer #10 · answered by smokey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋