i'm 20 in college and whoever said these are the best years of my life can go get a blow*** from a pirannah. I have no real friends, i'm awkward in conversation. I constantly avoid socializing (something in my subconcious just won't let me). Never EVER even aked a girl out or been on a date. I've never called ANYone just to talk. Often times, like right now I get really sad when i think about my life and wish i'd wake up an be normal like the 95% of people who have friends, go out, maybe even get married. I'm afraid that I'll grow old and die alone because I honestly don't see why any girl would choose to be with me.
*Sigh........
2006-11-14 05:19:59 · 5 answers · asked by Wocka wocka 6 in Health ➔ Mental Health
I also feel guilty that i'm whining about this because I know there are people who have it far worse off than me that are fine. That's why i think something is wrong with me.
2006-11-14 05:21:10 · update #1
i feel a little better after typing this, if that helps you see what's up with me.
2006-11-14 05:30:41 · update #2
I think we all have these spurts of sadness and of feeling overwhelmed. First of all you gotta decide that you ARE worth something honey. First of all - just from reading your question, I can see you have a sense of humor (loved the bj from a pirannah comment, I WILL so use that). You're obvisouly smart, as you're in college - not any dipsh*t can or has the WILL do to that. You've got to find positive things about yourself.
Next thing, make yourself some friends - sounds like you're a loner. There's nothing wrong with enjoying that alone time, but sweetie, we ALL need friends.
Does "normal" even exist? Everyone I know has flaws, that's human nature - none of us are perfect, not even me (ha ha). Honey, you're 20 - worry about marriage later - MUCH later. Believe me, it's not all it's cracked up to be - been there, done that.
All I can really say is put yourself out there in the world, make some friends and enjoy yourself. Life is too short to stay sad. Find out what makes YOU happy and do it.
We've all had our battles, I survivied an abusive as* who liked to use me for his punching bag. When I finally got the courage to leave him, I DESPISED myself. I had no self-esteem and no self-worth...well I've overcome it. If I can do that honey, anyone can.
I wish you the best of luck. Someday, you will find a girl for you - I know that you have good qualities, right now, you just hurt.
Gentle hugs, Lynn
2006-11-14 05:32:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Oh my god, you sound just like me.
This is really amazing.
I am definitley like you.
I have no real friends, the only socializing I do is with my family members and with people I kinda HAVE to @ school (I am 18, a senior)- teachers and such.
I am also akward in conversation, paranoid of how I speak 2 people and what they do and will think of me.
I don't get people. I wonder what they think and feel and if it is the same as what I do.
That's how alone I am. i don't even know if I am normal or not.
2006-11-14 05:25:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I strongly suggest you see a counselor for this. Your self-esteem needs some serious boosting. Don't worry about being "normal". "Normal" isn't fun. I've been weird and normal and weird is the way to be. Just seek counseling so you can be a more happy weird. :) It truly can change your life.
2006-11-14 05:28:24 · answer #3 · answered by Genevieve 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you sound depressed to me.talk to a counselor or find a support group. you are to young to just give up on live.hang in there!
2006-11-14 05:24:21 · answer #4 · answered by native 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go get help boy jeeze
2006-11-14 05:22:37 · answer #5 · answered by XxX 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋