he is all way talking about it on the phone and it scarys me to think about it. i mean i love him but i can t do somethinging like that .and
what if i get pregant.
2006-11-14 05:17:51 · 25 answers · asked by adrianshelbyjunior 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Get him a hooker
2006-11-14 05:20:27 · answer #1 · answered by Holden 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Never let a boy talk you into having sex. He is just trying to satsify a physical need. Not an emotional one. He can tell you that he loves you and all of that garb, but I can assure you that his emotions are not anywhere near what you feel for him. It's a statistical fact. Look it up. Boys have sex for totally different reasons than girls. We do it for emotional completion to feel closer and develop a permanent bond, they do it for a physical satisifaction. Yes getting pregnant is a concern, and you most definately should use precaution should you make the decision to go through with it, but more important you should be concerned with sexually transmitted diseases. Because no matter how much you love and trust your boyfriend, there is always that chance he has been with someone else or could slip up and cheat on you and give you a sexually transmitted disease. I have a friend whose boyfriend cheated on her one time without her knowing and now she has herpies for the rest of her life. She will have to explain to every sex partner including her future husband that she has herpies because she was so in love that she completely trusted her boyfriend to be faithful to her. Please don't be so naive that you let yourself take that chance with your health. Remember it's your body, your health, your life. Take control! If he really does care about you, don't you think he would be willing to wait and do what is best for you instead of pressuring you to do something that could potentially ruin both of your lives? Good Luck!
2006-11-14 13:28:23 · answer #2 · answered by Shel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you don't want to have sex. If he's not willing to wait for you, he doesn't deserve you.
Don't let him pressure you into anything you don't want to do. If a guy loves a girl, he won't do something like that. If he just loves her vagina, then that's exactly what he'll do.
If he keeps pressuring you, call up another guy friend that you trust, and have him knock some sense in to the stupid git.
2006-11-14 13:24:26 · answer #3 · answered by bgii_2000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you are very young. Don't let him pressure you in to having sex, unless you want to.
To me it sounds like you really don't want to and he is just wanting to persuade you in to it. Tell him that you don't want to, if he gets mad then you know he doesn't care that much for you and just is looking to score with you. If he does care he will respect your decision.
It is hard and you will probably feel hurt but you will get over it and will have yourself respect in the end. doesn't sound like much now but as you get older you will understand.
As far as the pregancy thing ask yourself this: If I get pregant , do I want to be his wife,do I want raise his kid, do I want fight him for child support if he leaves me, do I want to give up 20yrs of my life to raise this child, or do I want to give up to adpotion and when I am old always wonder what happened to the child.
This a lot to think about for one night of lust and no commitment. I hope you say no! at this time.
2006-11-14 14:02:41 · answer #4 · answered by that guy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest with him and tell him you're not ready to take it to that level as yet. If he truly cares about you he will accept and respect your decision. If he doesn't then I think its time to move on without him. No use having a boyfriend around thats always pressuring you to do something you're not ready for.
2006-11-14 13:22:09 · answer #5 · answered by dsd 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're gonna have to be very firm on this. You say to him "I am simply not ready to have sex. Either you understand that and stop bringing it up, or you can go and find a girl who will give you what you want. But it won't be me. Sorry."
If he's a good guy, he'll drop it and not bring it up again. If he's a terrible guy, he'll break up with you. If he does, you're better off so don't waste one second feeling badly about it.
2006-11-14 13:22:15 · answer #6 · answered by Dr. Kat 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
tell him your concerns and worries.. and if he's not accepting of it then perhaps hes not the boy for you..
the boy for you will wait untill your ready for that next step..
dont rush into something your not ready for.. especially if a downside is getting pregant.. its a possibility and a big responsibility remind him of that :) perhaps that will change his mind
2006-11-14 13:24:27 · answer #7 · answered by steph 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
babe, if he loves you, he'd respect the fact that you are not ready, and that you are scared, and he wouldn't bring it up again... get rid of him he is selfish, and will end up using you! you do not want to be heartbroken later on, and if you give in you will feel horrible... It might feel hard to refuse him now, but its the best thing for you to do.
2006-11-14 13:23:15 · answer #8 · answered by lily 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Follow your instincts girl. You know what Oprah says.......when you have that gut feeling that something isn't right.....get outta there!
You might need to look for a boyfriend who has something more worthwhile on his mind.
2006-11-14 13:24:59 · answer #9 · answered by Puzzler 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that you also really really want to have sex with him maybe even more badly than he wants to have it with you, but that unfortunately even your wildest sexual fantasy starts with him giving you a very important ring.
2006-11-14 13:23:12 · answer #10 · answered by tyreanpurple 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you aren't ready don't let him talk you into it. He doesn't respect you he just wants sex. Tell you aren't ready. You shouldn't have to do something you don't want to do.
2006-11-14 13:20:45 · answer #11 · answered by greylady 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋