Is there any hope ??
well anyway me and my boyfriend broke up i guess about 2 weeks ago, technicially and about 3 weeks ago we had a fight and i was sayin i donno if this is working cuz u dont have time for me. he wouldnt really comprimise and just said he liked bein with his friends this way as i was living about an hour and a half away. we got in that fight and i drove home i guess he took it as were done....ive been callin him crying trying to get him back and he just keeps saying things like i dont feel the same way i dont care when im cryin and tellin him i love him. i think hes tryin to hurt me and just hiding his feelings. does he really mean that crap? he moved way up northi think he was kinda running away, for 2 week periods he says hell call me when he comes back we can hang out, but he doesnt wanna worry about me when hes up there. he just kinda says hes done with girls and has been messed around by them. just basically said everything i did wrong, what do i do i love him
2006-11-14 05:09:37 · 12 answers · asked by krista22here 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
in all fairness, i feel we coulda mad it work only living 1.5 hours apart, and he coulda moved to the next city close to me (kelowna) that woulda only been 40 min. BUT...he wouldnt even do that and found it necessary to move to where it would be IMPOssible for us to have a relationship right now. however he did say we couldnt be together anytime soon...maybe later does that mean??
2006-11-14 06:22:27 · update #1
i just feel like it was my fault for makin him feel guilty that he wouldnt come down here much, and that i said it wasnt working and that if he liked me hed know it, and that it wasnt workin out because of where we lived. i doubt hell ever forgvie me. i just feel like its my fault...hes makin me feel that way too......is it somethin i did?i kinda said i donno he said hed never move down here and ididnt know if i would move up there
2006-11-14 07:53:07 · update #2
Let Him Go!
no one wears desperation very well. it demeans your charactor and causes people to think of you with less respect.
take some time to find yourself again,and what makes you happy.
spend some quality "you" time. doing things with girlfriends, or by yourself. go out to eat, go to the movies, join a gym, join a community sports team or evening class.
take a "guy break" and breathe. this will give him time to breathe also, and maybe, just maybe, he'll come back.
if he doesn't, it wasn't meant to be, and you'll find someone.
2006-11-14 05:15:33 · answer #1 · answered by smartkid37138 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
And you want him back?!? Obviously he's not in love with you. Whether you really were in love with him or not doesn't change the fact that you were rejected and are now hurt. It will only take time and if you can get into some fun project, that can help, but you'll really just have to wait it out, 'cause in between projects, you'll find yourself still thinking about it. Long distant relationship hardly ever work out. Sorry about your hurt, we've ALL been through rejection. Like everyone, too, you will survive.
2006-11-14 13:36:49 · answer #2 · answered by lisa z 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No honey, he is just done.
Men (or in this case boys) are very simple creatures. What you see is what you get. So if he says he no longer care then he no longer cares.
The best thing you can do know is get on with your life and get over him. You might find that once you no longer call him or have any contact with him, he will start to miss you and may come back. But I think he already has a new love interest. Sorry :(
2006-11-14 13:14:54 · answer #3 · answered by jules_xcess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you were truly in love with this person. Infatuated, maybe. Get over it! There are more fish in the sea and you need to find something to take your mind of him! Pick yourself up girl and quit your crying! Get on with your life. Good luck!
2006-11-14 13:13:31 · answer #4 · answered by busymomof4 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
move on. plenty more fish in the sea. how long were you even together? from my perspective, he just didn't want to deal with a long distance relationship and wouldn't want to feel guilty when he messes around.
2006-11-14 13:13:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
STOP! You can't"guess" him. Even if he is hiding his feelings you can not pressure him to bringing it out!Only go after you! He wasn't in love with you like you were him! Let it go no matter how bad it hurts.
2006-11-14 13:12:21 · answer #6 · answered by ~Another Day~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey girl any guy who doesnt wait for u simply aint worth it! its gonna be hard letting go,but ul realise someday that u dnt need him all tht much!
see u driving off dint have to be final,he took it as a final decision,that says how interested he is!
2006-11-14 13:20:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
forget him you have to be strong and let him know that you don't need him you could do bad by yourself it's gonna be hard to get over him but what guy wants to be with his friends more then his girl i would have to kill my boyfriend.
2006-11-14 13:14:44 · answer #8 · answered by Mz.Tweety 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do anything. Living good is the best revenge.
2006-11-14 13:34:53 · answer #9 · answered by lee f 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
accept that he's gay and isn't interested in maintaining a relationship with you
2006-11-14 13:19:36 · answer #10 · answered by Reenell W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋