Why do parents allow their chldren to be so rude in public, even in their presence?

Question

Other than small babies and toddlers.

Answer 1

Rudeness begets rudeness. People who do not discipline rudeness are generally rude themselves.
On the other hand - why are so many adults rude to children? My 13 year old daughter helps my wheelchair mother shop and is often pushed out of an adult's way. Heck, some of these people push my mother out of their way! My polite child will usually apologize for 'being in their way'.
Children learn what they experience. If people are rude to them they will think this is appropriate behavior and practice it. It is up to the adults to teach by example - and not just the parents.

Answer 2

Well it depends on the situation. I have had experience with a child that is ADHD and Bipolar, when he wanted to have a fit or act up. I dropped everything we were doing (shopping, eating whatever) and left. Soon enough he realized that when we had planned to do something for him, and he acted up before we got there it was over for the day, no backing down, no compromises, he was done. We went home and he lost privileges for the rest of the day. The only problem is the other parents think it's too difficult, or time consuming to do something like that (drop everything and leave) and it is! I wasn't thrilled to do it, and at times it was embarrassing. But, at the same time he was learning that certain behavior is not tolerated, and it is enforced swiftly and severely. If that meant I had to pick him up (age 6) or drag him out of the store (age 7-8) then I did it, it was all done without hitting, yelling, or bribing. Because I was the adult and I was teaching, he knew what was tolerated and what would not, there were no gray areas.

I do agree with the comments about how some parents tune it out, or don't care as long as the kids are bothering them. That is unfortunately very true also. Many times it is stemmed from children who become parents. They feel that their adult parents rules and regulations were "stupid" or "lame" and promise never to do that to their kids, the down side to that promise is: children who are uncontrollable, and don't have any discipline.

Answer 3

I understand what you mean, however I must add one thought. I do not believe that children should be rude anywhere, even at home. My son is five, and he has Asperger's, which is on the autistic spectrum. Some of his actions in public may be perceived as rude. For instance, sometimes when he is spoken to by a stranger, he makes an ugly face or yells no. Others may think he is rude, but it may just be that he is overstimulated. Once at Wal Mart, a lady put a sticker on his hand without asking. He yelled and screamed, and he threw the sticker onto the floor. It wasn't that he didn't want the sticker, just that he didn't want the sticker stuck to his hand. His emotions run high, and I know that sometimes he is seen by others as a bratty kid. After an incident like this, we go to the car and talk about what he should have done, but other people don't see that. They just see that a five year old boy threw a fit in a store and was ugly to the sweet little lady at the door. Anyway, my point is, don't be so quick to judge. Sometimes there are other factors involved, and the parents are doing the best they can.

Answer 4

What do you think is rude? If the child is saying shut up cursing or w/e then hell yeah thats inappropriate. But if it is a toddler and shes throwing a fit, you need to cut the parent some slack you HAVE NO IDEA what their situation is and they know what they are doing.

Answer 5

Maybe because I'm a parent myself, I know that kids act up and I just ignore other peoples children. I know kids can be terrible in the grocery store-they see candy and sugary stuff and freak out. I know my son gets nervous and just starts screeching (toddler). It's just a fact of life. What do you expect them to do? Beat them in the middle of the store? I saw that once, a lady was beating her kid because he was crying. So he was crying even more because he was being beat-that makes no sense to me.

Answer 6

parents lead by example. rude parents, rude kids. though sometimes i hear parents want their children to be free to express themselves more than they want them to behave properly. they are not doing their kids any favors with that. my son is only a year and just started throwing tantrums. i'm not reacting to it now, so i don't have to deal with it later. i believe if he learns now that bad behavior doesn't get him anywhere, he'll try less when he's not a toddler anymore.

Answer 7

i think its because they dont discipline their children and therefore dont know what to do. just a couple of days ago i witnessed a girl who was probably 7 throwing an all out tantrum in the store. you would of thought this kid was 2 the way she was carying on, sitting on the floor screaming and refusing to leave because she didn't get what she wanted. the mom acted like it was normal. i'm sorry but by that age spankings would have elimimated such beasty behavior.

Answer 8

Because some parents become lazy and they don't want to deal with their shildren. There children have become monsters for so long they don't know how to deal with them so they ignore it.
And some people just suck at parenting
I don't like to hear it's because of the world we live in it's the way we raise them

Answer 9

because the school system has taught our children that a spanking is child abuse, and parents are scared to death that protective services will be called on them if they spank their child.But to tell you the truth....I got spankings and I turned out just fine and alot of children now a days really need a good old fashion butt woopin.

Answer 10

Awe man totally, I hate that, I remember when if at any time I was rude in public....boy....I would get it, I think parents are to easy these days, I'm glad my parents put me in check it made me the person I am today