Why do they feel that we shud live our lives like they do. Im a grown up adult in my late 20s and i got a piece to hear from him yesterday just because my phone bill came to x amount which by his standards is high. now this is the first time my bill is so low. usually it is twice of this. Usually i pay my own bills but since i've moved in with them into a new city and am witout a job for the moment, he paid it this time. But not before making me feel like scum. Wat do i do?
2006-11-14 05:01:24 · 20 answers · asked by tornjeansandguitar 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
ok i undersatnd all dat. i know i cant say a thing till im on my feet and all. but come on guys...its not dat i've not been working. its just 2 months dat i had to leave my job. and he need not act this way. i mean it can be communicated in a better way im sure.
2006-11-14 05:15:24 · update #1
It's a parent thing. We usually think we know what our kids should be doing but aren't wise enough to keep our opinions to ourselves! He's just wondering why your bill is so high compared to his. As soon as you get on your feet and are working, pay him back. Us parents have a strange way of showing our love sometimes, huh? This sounds trite, but it's true...it'll make more sense when you have kids of your own and you find yourself saying things to your kids that your dad has said to you. I guarantee you, you'll freak out the first time you hear your dad's words come out of your mouth!!
2006-11-14 05:08:24 · answer #1 · answered by grannyhuh 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Late 20'S???? Stay off the phone till you get a job and can pay for your own phone bills...you obviously have access to a computer, use that to communicate till you can pay your own bills, c'mon, you can't honestly think there is something wrong with his attitude...can you???
He doesn't owe you a living at this point. You sound pretty spoiled and immature. Bet I won't get 10 points for this one!!!!!!
2006-11-14 05:09:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well you are living with him and he is paying your bills..so that DOES make you a child. If you get a job and move out and pay your OWN bills he wont treat you like the child because you will be BEHAVING like a grown up.
2006-11-14 05:05:12 · answer #3 · answered by wartytoadjody39 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
when you moved back in with your parents you should have expeced them to treat you like a kid again. since they are paying your bills i guess they feel the right to complain a little. i just moved in with my mom after 30 yrs gone and she treats me like a kid too, but i still pay my own bills. i am hear for medical reasons though. but i will be out of here as soon as i can get home. try to get back on your feet as soon as possable, so you can get out of there and back on your own. good luck & take care
2006-11-14 05:22:12 · answer #4 · answered by truckinglove22 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure his has never been that high, it's hard for him to understand how yours could be.
But face the facts as long as he is paying the bill he has bitching rights.
Explain how your phone coverage works and ask him for his suggestions, he'll be happier and you might learn something.
2006-11-14 05:17:34 · answer #5 · answered by dfuerstcat 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get a job, pay him back, and be responsible for your own bills.
Settle on a fair rent amount, do your own laundry, pay for food.
In other words, act like an adult to get treated like one.
2006-11-14 05:04:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Hurry up and get a job and pay him back, just don't askhim for stuff again. I know people like that, and they suck. They half want to help you to feel useful, but then they super slam you when it comes time to help out. (And they know inside that you can take care of yourself anyway.)
2006-11-14 05:56:53 · answer #7 · answered by me 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
initially, be attentive to that your dad loves you. If he did not, he does not provide a damn what you do or what every physique seen you. provide him a harm - he merely does not understand. Now, are you specific that's not a piece? No, do not provide me that look. i'm not attempting to accuse you of something. that's probable what he's thinking that's. My dad concept i became into dealing with a piece besides, yet here i'm 4 years later at almost 19 years previous and that i'm nevertheless the comparable lady. i admire tattoos and piercings. i admire my black eyeliner and nail polish. i admire skinny denims and skate shoes. i admire band tees. i'm death to bypass to Warped this 365 days. it is merely who i'm. Now, i'm not a devil worshipper. i'm not bitter and indignant. I merely ensue to love my very own variety. attempt to speak to him approximately it. tell him what this implies to you. that's something my dad on no account did for me. He on no account asked me what the allure of any of this became into - merely regarded me over and spoke of as me a freak. this is the difficulty, although - my dad became into brutally made relaxing of whilst he became into in extreme college with the aid of fact he did not look like quite a few different childrens, so now he shies remote from something distinctive. it is not undemanding for him to settle for it with the aid of fact he's often flashing lower back to being verbally and bodily abused by making use of the different childrens, so he's often thinking approximately what somebody else will think of. in case you prefer him to appreciate you, you may attempt to appreciate him besides. take a seat him down and ask him why the flaws you like freak him out so undesirable. Then, clarify why it potential lots to you to dress the way you do. Now, in case you prefer to get everywhere, you'll be able to desire to be mature approximately it. i'm sitting my dad down this night to tell him i'm getting my first tattoo this month. He hates tattoos. What he does not understand, although, is what this tattoo symbolizes to me and how lots i've got placed into this - years of learn. i will permit him be attentive to precisely what the allure is, and that i will permit him be attentive to it is thoroughly risk-free. He has not something to stress approximately. i'm additionally going to tell him that it hurts me whilst he calls me a freak. My dad and that i are lots extra open than we was once with one yet another. sturdy success. ideas-set this with care and adulthood - not with anger.
2016-10-17 06:41:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out on your own...as long as he pays he has the say so. Parents will always be parents no matter how old you get...your still his baby!
2006-11-14 05:04:03 · answer #9 · answered by ~Another Day~ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you were paying the bill yourself, I would tell him to stick it. Since you are mooching off of him, he has every right to be pissed.
2006-11-14 05:22:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋