So here's the thing..
My parents are moving to Arizona after I graduate from High School. Yes, i'll be 18. But the thing is, they want me to be with them forever. They want me to move to arizona with them, and just because they'll be there, they want me to attend Arizona state/ Phoenix University. They don't understand that not EVERY college is for everything. Besides, I do not want to move there at ALL..I live in MIchigan currently, and I love it here. I have a college plan and everything. I have my post grad plans figured out. But still, they are almost saying they are going to MAKE ME go with them...but I need to figure some of my life out on my own, I dont want to ALWAYS have them there, hand feeding everything to me. I have so much going for me here, and if I move, i'll lose just about all of it. I really need help with this.There isn't anything for me there, except A college I have no interest in, & my own parents dreams being crammed down my throat. I <3 Them its jus not 4 me.
2006-11-14 04:52:39 · 13 answers · asked by luvly_chick18 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Sit down with your parents and tell them you love and respect them.Then show them in writing that you have a concrete plan for your future.For example the program you want to take, where you will live, budget, if you must work,etc. Also try to show you have prepared for emergencies and have alternate plans and options. Your parents will be more receptive to your wishes if you can show them you have given this plan a lot of thought and consideration.
2006-11-14 05:03:25 · answer #1 · answered by gussie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The hardest thing is standing up to your parents while still being respectful. I know how hard this is. I'm 18 now and married, and my parents STILL think that i should do everything their way. Keep on with your own plans and have everything ready to start your OWN life. Keep reminding them throughout the year that you're not going, and when the time comes for your parents to move. You'll have everything ready and it should be no surprise for them when you dont go.
2006-11-14 13:52:21 · answer #2 · answered by uh_huh_ok_wassup_shutup 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you told them how you feel? I am the mother of a toddler, and part of me wants him with me forever. I think that every parent feels that way. however, your parents need to realize that you are an individual, able to make your own choices and decisions. Why don't you sit down with them, show them the benefits that you would experience by not moving. Reassure them that you will not lost contact with them, or go wild and crazy with them away. Ultimately, your parents need to trust you, but you will be 18, so it is your decision in the end. Good Luck!
2006-11-14 13:01:11 · answer #3 · answered by Monica K 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If 18 is the legal age then you are totally free to do what you want, but are you prepared to pay your own way, and be on your own, if so I think you should follow your dreams, and do what you need to do, Your parents will understand some day, just not right now
2006-11-14 13:10:52 · answer #4 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Parents are just never really ready to let thier kids grow up. Just explain to them that you're 18 and you already have made plans. You can always visit them, and call them. Besides, wouldn't you love to live in a dorm and attend all the frat parties and stuff? I know I would! (i hope thats not just in the movies). But seriously, they have to let you grow up sometime. Good Luck!
2006-11-14 13:00:37 · answer #5 · answered by Candace T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's simple - once your 18 you can do whatever you want to do.
This may mean getting a job and supporting yourself and paying for your own education. That's what the real world is all about.
You can have all your own freedoms, but they just get expensive when your on your own - no-one to blame, that's just how it is.
It's hard for parents to let go, but they adapt after awhile because they have no choice. After all, your an adult and are responsible to no-one but yourself and the laws of the land.
Good luck in whatever you decide.
2006-11-14 13:20:37 · answer #6 · answered by jarhed 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some parents are more than ready for their kids to leave the nest. myself included. my daughter turns 18 in June, and I can't wait.
unfortunately, it isn't the case with yours. however, since you do have solid plans for your future, and you will be an adult, they cannot make you go.
I would proceed with your plans for your future, and hold your ground. if they see over the remaining time, that you are determined and serious, and that everything is working out for those plans to happen, then maybe they will let go a little more and then a little more, and by the time comes, maybe they'll be ready to let go, period.
2006-11-14 13:08:30 · answer #7 · answered by smartkid37138 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is a tough situation , the first thing i would do is maybe involve your school couselor or even a friends mom to sit with your mom and be there with you when you talk to her letting a child growup is sometimes difficult and a very lonely thought, just explain to her , mom i have different plans , i will call often and write to you and on vacations i can come visit but i don't want to live there. they can't make you go and you must explain this to your mother. good luck
2006-11-14 13:03:04 · answer #8 · answered by mistyriver69 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is hard for parents to let go, yes but they are not the ones that have to live your life u do. u should sit them down and tell them how you feel, tell them your plans that u have. i know that they understand that u can't be w/ them forever. u should go for it or else u will be miserable.
2006-11-14 13:34:55 · answer #9 · answered by fizzie234 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should sit down and talk to your parents and try to get them to see it you way. show them all the stuff you will lose out on if you move. tell them you are willing to give it a try on your own and if it doesn't work out, then you will move with them. good luck & take care
2006-11-14 13:03:55 · answer #10 · answered by truckinglove22 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋