How should a man deal with guilt over treating women badly in the past?

Question

This question is especially thorny if he cannot contact them, or if it would be inappropriate to do so.

Answer 1

Sounds as if you can't forgive yourself, but don't quit trying. Since you can't apologize to the women personally, write apology letters to these women without mailing them out. Sometimes just writing it down and getting it out of your system helps. When your done burn them up. Maybe the guilt will go up in smoke too? Good luck to you, and congratulations on your maturity.

Answer 2

First, you ask yourself why you did what you did. If you are ready to make the changes and start treating women good then all you have to do is forgive yourself. You may even ask those women to forgive you, whether they accept your apology or not is not up to you, so just give them your true and sincere apology. Start over turn a new leaf and if you meet someone really nice dont hide your past from her because she will need to know however I dont suggest doing it right away. Wait to see if she is the one for you and if you both are serious then tell her the truth about your past and reassure her that you are not that person anymore. I hope everything works out for you. And if you treated women badly (very bad) then you may consider seeking counseling before dating. You can see the ones that charge an arm and leg or the one that is for free - GOD! God bless you!

Answer 3

one dry toad
three blond hairs
rusty nail

Spit on it three times and bury the whole thing in the backyard. When it rots, the feeling of guilt will pass.

But on a serious note - dude - what is up with the plural in your question? If you are feeling so guilty, just stop doing it! Once should be enough!

If you feel like you have wronged more than one woman, take time out and sort out why, what, when, and how. It'll help you figure out how you can improve and that should help kill the guilt trip - looking forward to a brighter future

Answer 4

There is nothing you can do about the past. There is nothing you can say to the women in the past that will make what you did back then any better. Just move on and treat women better from here out and that should help with the guilt.

Answer 5

well i would say not to treat women badly any more.... there are alot of men out there that treat women badly and women that treat men badly and really there is no reason, even if you ask them why they do it, they don't have an answer...the fact is that usually if you had an abusive childhood (like you were abused or watched it) then 9 times out of 10 you will become abusive when you get older. The only way you can really change that about yourself is to get counseling and make promises to yourself that you will never do it and stick with it.

Answer 6

It's never inappropriate to apologize to someone about your past behavior. If you have the ability to find them and apologize, then do it. don't do it because you want to be friends afterwards, just say that your actions towards her were wrong, you hope that if she can't forgive you now for them, that you understand but hope that somewhere at some time, she will be able to forgive you. That's all you can do and move on. Good luck.

Answer 7

ok listen. i think that u should just stop treating women bad . i think u should go to eacha nd every women u treated bad and say sorry. trust me u willl feel better and then in the future dont do it agin. u will find the special someone

Answer 8

take this guilt as a lesson, on how not to treat women. and perhaps tell others about your experience, so that they will not do the same

Answer 9

show her that you feel guilty by getting help...go to meetings and practice what they say...if that doesn't work then leave her alone..if you love some one set them free if it was meant for you she will come back...if not smile because she is Happy...

Answer 10

Never ever do that a gain and try to make up for it