Does it really happen when you least expect it??

Question

I am a firm believer in the whole there is someone out there for everyone. I have been in love and had my heart broken and lost all hope and now two years later I’m regaining that hope again….bla bla bla. Anyways, maybe have even met someone I could possibly see myself with. But do you really think it happens when you least expect it…meeting someone?? Falling in love?? Everyone tells me to stop looking and it will come. It’s so hard for me to think that’s how it happens because if you’re not looking how can you see when it’s there. I go about my life and I stay busy, but I don’t want to stop looking, but my friends are telling me I need to stop, and someone great will come along when I least expect it…LOL. What do you think?????

Answer 1

That's my story and I'm sticking to it. Met my fiance on line almost 3 years ago. Neither of us were looking for any type of relationship but we soon discovered that we had much in common and that we were very compatible. If we had met say 20 years ago things obviously would have been different but the time was right and I am grateful each and every day for finding this woman to share my life with. Trust your gut instincts and they will not lead you astray.

Answer 2

I am happy for you and I hope that this person and this experience is all that you want it to be and more than you could have ever imagined. However, I do not think that there is someone out there for everyone. Wait, let me rephrase that, there is but not everyone is for fortunate enough to meet that someone. Sadly some people got their entire lives never having found that someone. And sometimes when they have they do not know that they have because of the preconceived notions about love and what love is supposed to be. I do not know about that stop looking and it will come I think that it happens whether or not you are looking, I do not think that is it at all I think that it happens so quickly that when you realize that it has or is happening it is like you have had an epiphany. That is the greatest feeling int he world. It does not happen when you least expect it, it normally happens with whom you least expect and too soon for you to even notice. That's just my take.

Answer 3

I dated all the wrong guys and found myself a single working mother by the time I was nineteen. I gave up on finding a guy because my time and effort needed to be directed towards providing as good a life as possible for my daughter. I didn't date, I didn't even really speak much to my friends anymore. I worked, spent time with my baby, and slept.

One night, on my way home from work, I stopped into a convenience store to pick up a gallon of milk because I was running low at home. He was standing at the counter waiting to pay for his gas. The cashier had to count the till out, so we were stuck waiting for about ten minutes and we struck up a conversation.

We just celebrated our second wedding anniversary- he's adopted my daughter and we have another daughter together now. Things are more perfect than I ever imagined they could be. The funniest part is that he's not the type of guy that I would have considered "my type" before. I think fate has a way of making people turn up in the right place at the right time sometimes.

Answer 4

I think the translation of that means: don't put your life on hold while you look for someone- you become desperate and settle for anyone. Staying busy doesn't mean filling your time with mindless activities- it means get out there. Pursue your hobbies. Learn new hobbies. Travel. Take a class. Join clubs. Volunteer.
If, for example, you join a volunteer group that goes to Tahiti to save the coral reefs, you might meet the man of your dreams while you are there. But even if you don't, you'll be able to tell your next date about the amazing time you had in Tahiti- and sound like an interesting, exciting person who attracts high quality men.

Answer 5

It happened to me too where I found someone after I quit looking. I had had a couple of unreturned interests before, and since I was fresh off of one of those and I was really busy with school and work, I had even told a couple of my friends that I wasn't looking for anybody. Then I started talking regularly with a lady I met in a Yahoo chat room, and we just clicked right away. After we talked online and the phone for several weeks as we got to know each other, we finally met in person and officially started dating that night. Our three and a half weeks together has been the best three and a half weeks of my life.

Answer 6

i had the same thing happen well i fell in love wit someone and it's been about 3 years and i've been open to trying some new things but yea i think it will come to u if u wait but u'll have to take the wall u've put up from being hurt don't use it on the new guy u get u'll have to trust again sometime i'm gonna have to also hope this helps

Answer 7

The theory is only partially true. I think the important thing is to work on yourself and have a fulfilling life with or without a partner. When you enjoy your life and are confident and independent, you automatically attract other people and love will come to you. If you are acting desperate and needy, you'll turn people off.

Answer 8

Believe it.. happened to me when I least expected it. I too was single for over 2 years and feeling just as you did. Now I have found someone or should I say we found each other.. good luck and don't give up hope.

Answer 9

You have to go out and meet someone create you own destiny but don't try so hard. If your sitting at home of course he's not going to come knocking at your door but if your out and you run into him or a guy spots you he will come over and chat. I think that's what they mean that it will happen when your not looking.

Answer 10

yes they are correct. mabe that is the reason you got your heart broken in the first place. love will come your way. i was in your position just two months ago and now i very happy with my guy.