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me and my youth group are going to the food bank to fill thanksgiving baskets for people that dont have alot of money and my mom is getting one and the names are on the boxes i dont want my youth group to know that MY MOM ORDERED ONE BECAUSE WE DONT HAVE ALOT OF MONEY

WHAT DO I DO?

2006-11-14 04:44:23 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture Etiquette

yes it is a christian youth group

2006-11-14 04:51:54 · update #1

12 answers

U can't help that ur families income level is lower than u'd like. You're a youth, it shouldn't be your responsibility. Therefore the "shame" associated with ur basket, shouldn't be yours to accept.

I got made fun of alot b/c my clothes didn't fit right, b/c we had no money for clothes, mine came from cheap stores that just didn't come in long enough sizes. However, once I said, hey guess what I'm poor what am I supposed to do? no one really gave me much gruff about it all.

I have a feeling that ur friends won't be as judgemental as u are about this. I'd focus on being thankful that u're getting a basket. Trust me, going to bed hungry is alot worse than ppl u know and trust knowing that u need additional help at this time of year.

With all the horrible things that go on in our world and the things to be ashamed of, being poor and then not only that, but volunteering for others who need help, they are not things to be ashamed of.

If someone says something to u, then u know they're not a very nice person. Perhaps if someone does say something, u should mention something called hypocrisy. Jesus would never do or say something to shame a poor person, neither should one of his followers, not if they really meant it when they said they wanted to live like Christ.

Don't be so hard on yourself or your mom.

2006-11-14 06:59:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

Hold your head up high and do not be ashamed of it. I was in that position as well when I was a child. I am who I am today because of who I was then, and I learned from it. You are a Christian person and you are acting in a Christian manner, if your peers are Christian as well, then they will not see you any differently. Do not deny your mother if they see her name, everyone at some point and time falls on hard times and that is all you need to say. Although I would not say anything at all. Just be thankful for what you do have, there are so many that do not have as much as you do.


In my life, right now, I have more than what I deserve, but I will never have so little that I do not have enough to share.
God bless you and your mother and stand tall. You are beautiful.

2006-11-14 07:54:21 · answer #2 · answered by NolaDawn 5 · 0 0

Chances are, "your" box won't be seen, there will be alot of other boxes, I don't think anybody will notice. If it does get spotted and pointed out, its okay. Everyone has rough times, and not everyone has money. It is nothing to be ashamed about or embarrassed. Keep your head up, and what a wonderful thing to do to help other families in need, It probably means all the more to you to be a blessing for such a worthy cause.

Have a Happy Thanksgiving!!

2006-11-14 06:26:55 · answer #3 · answered by rottymom02 5 · 1 0

I would contact the food bank and let them know of my concerns. This would be very embarrassing, I understand and they will also, they will probably have your basket done before the youth group arrives. Good luck and God bless*

2006-11-14 06:59:08 · answer #4 · answered by ? 7 · 0 0

I assume this is a church youth group. What kind of Christians would they be to judge you by your income? I think their reactions would be indelible indicators of their true character. Don't be ashamed of what you are, and mostly don't be embarassed by what you aren't. My family was dirt poor for most of my childhood and there were many Thanksgivings and Christmas' where we had food and gifts given to us by charities. It's not something you should waste time worrying about what others will think.

2006-11-14 04:55:01 · answer #5 · answered by jedi_junkie05 3 · 1 0

Its harder for kids to understand that sometime or other we all need some kind of help,its nothing to be ashamed of,but I understand your cituation,could you talk to the leaders and arrange for your moms to be picked up before anyone else gets there,or maybe asked them to put a different name on the box, like Paris Hilton or something lol.good luck

2006-11-14 04:56:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

If you can get there early explain to the person incharge to see if she will let you fill out the basket and then put it way from prying eyes.

Good luck we all need help at sometime

2006-11-14 04:53:00 · answer #7 · answered by Wicked 7 · 2 0

I agree that you shouldn't be embarrassed but I understand that you can't help it. Do you know someone who works there that you feel comfortable with? Maybe you can contact them ahead of time and explain the situation. I am sure they would understand and wouldn't mind keeping that particular box to do later. It can't hurt to try, right?

2006-11-14 04:53:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2 0

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2016-10-22 02:04:27 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0 0

Just let them find out and see, you might find out you are in a group of really cool, down to earth people.

2006-11-14 04:49:03 · answer #10 · answered by ! 6 · 0 0

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