Well just the other night my boyfriend ask me if we were ever going to do it!! I was like why? and he replied that he wanted me to be he's first girl to have sexual entercourse with, and he said that he wanted just me as the only person, who could break his virginity and No one else just because he is seriously in love with me, and wouldn't want to do it with the wrong person, so I was like let me think about this because I am certainly not a virgin and I will feel alittle bad if I did something. I would regret in my life, taking this away from him, but he seems so eager and every time we are close making out he trys, but I end up pulling away just because I have feeling of not taking that from him, so I trying to found out what I should do? any suggestion would help me cause I can't hold him off for long.. But the truth is I really love him, but i just don't want to rush in and take that away from him and I found some ways to have him look at me from another point of view beside sex.
2006-11-14 04:34:45 · 14 answers · asked by Tilly 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well he's in his late 20 years and I'm only 19, But the truth be that he was into school and was very shy and quiet around girls, never really the sluty type more of a gentle man and believe me you can't find anyone else better than that, so we've been dating for 2years,10months and we just recently been talking about it, Beside he gots all shy and scared when i cuddle around him, he's like a little boy it is funny watching him, I laugh cause he's been saving he's virginty but want me to take it or break he's boy hood? and turn him into a man so??? don't know??? but he is the shy type and is clingy only to me and never seen him look at any girl's his mom said girl's were never he's subject even though he was popular he thought about school first.
2006-11-14 04:48:19 · update #1
Well it kinda sounds like he's a little more in to you than you are of him. I may be off there, but the fact remains that he is wanting to write you down in his big book of life as THE FIRST. I wouldn't say that's such a bad thing, just realize what baggage comes along with that. Remember how attached you got to your first? Hopefully he won't be so naive to think that just because you're his first that you HAVE to be his last.
If it's gonna happen, it's gonna happen. What happens after that is just life.
2006-11-14 04:41:44 · answer #1 · answered by J Bents 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, do you really think he's not a virgin? Could be a ploy to bed you.
But probably not. If he's telling you all that mush about only wanting to sleep with you then he's probably going to be clingy after the deed is done. You should probably get to know him a little bit better so maybe he can rethink whether or not he really only wants to bed YOU. Sounds like a newer relationship. And if he still wants to do it, let him know how you feel, that you just want him to view you as more than a sex object!
2006-11-14 12:38:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think right now he's looking at you as a means of losing his virginity. Tell him if he wants you to be his first he has to earn it and you don't want to hear anymore about it. YOU will decide when/if it's going to happen. He's still a virgin, so there obviously aren't a lot of women lining up for the job- he's either gotta shape up or remain a boy for a while longer.
2006-11-14 12:37:44 · answer #3 · answered by Jennifer F 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
He will lose it eventually. It's kind of cool there are not many male virgins out there you actually get to teach him stuff and then he will be in love with you since your the best (only) sex he has ever had.
2006-11-14 12:38:26 · answer #4 · answered by Venus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how old are you???? I took my husband's virginity. But we were also older and about married. If he wants to have sex so bad, then tell him to wait till you are a bit older? I mean how old are you anyways? Sex changes everything just remember that. It's not always for the better.
Good Luck.
2006-11-14 12:37:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that you don't want to rush into doing that because you love him. Tell him the 1st time should be special and mean something so it best to wait a little wait.
2006-11-14 12:36:56 · answer #6 · answered by gentlgodis 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't meant the same to men as it does to Women. Nothing will happen except he'll be grateful not to be a virgin.
2006-11-14 12:36:54 · answer #7 · answered by barbie 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
since virginity involve penetration your boyfriend is not a virgin unless by chance he would be gay. now on the other hand if you are a virgin and you have sexual intercourse you would lose your virginity
2006-11-14 12:47:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
a boy won't stay virgin for long, if u don't do it he'll lose it soon with someone else
2006-11-14 13:07:10 · answer #9 · answered by BC 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you taking lessons in stupidity? The guy wants to get laid. you are there at the ready. and you have to ask about his cherry? get the guy in your bed and show him th way . show him the way.
2006-11-14 12:39:25 · answer #10 · answered by veerfish 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋