2 weeks. The marriage only has to last 6 months.
2006-11-14 04:33:48
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answered by sebastian 2
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the both of you need to comprimise. that's what being in a relationship is! I was with my husband for 4 1/2 years before we got married. But we also have been together since we were 17 and 18 and I am only 23 and he's 22. So he needs to really think of what you want, and you really need to think of what he wants. you know. maybe wait 3 years. then that's kinda in the middle!
Good Luck!
2006-11-14 04:35:08
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answered by Anonymous
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Sometimes guys will put off proposing to their girlfriends if they are questioning whether or not she is "The One." Maybe he's wondering if he's really dated enough girls to know? The only thing you can do is ask him why he wants to wait so long, and then accept the answer. The important thing is that you need to decide how long you are willing to wait for him. Do you really want to date someone seven years before getting married? If he's not giving you what you need, move on. There are plenty of other guys out there who won't make you wait seven years.
2006-11-14 04:37:30
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answered by Sarah M 3
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You're still pretty young - I think I changed my ideas about the world and relationships etc when I was about your age.
If you want to get married to him, you want it to last, right? so waiting a year or two longer than you anticipated shouldn't be all that bad (after all, you're going to be with him forever, what's a year?).
Don't even think about kids before you're both settled and things are working out (this includes agreeing on important things like when to have kids, not just being together for a long time).
2006-11-14 04:36:17
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answered by mookvey 3
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This is not wrong of you at all. You have been with him for 2 yrs already and there is no need to wait 5 more years. That's crazy. You know that he's the one but it sounds like he's either unsure or uneasy about something. Tell him how you feel and see what he says.
2006-11-14 04:34:50
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answered by Anonymous
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There is no specifc or reasonable years that you should spend with a special someone when considering marriage. I think that if you guys feel a special bond GO FOR IT. I don't believe that it's wrong, I mean sooner or later you will have to get married and begin a family of your own. I think that it's not wrong if both of you decide and plan to help one another out. So if you believe that you are ready, then what's stopping you?
2006-11-14 04:38:00
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answered by Anonymous
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Its wrong of you because its not good for you to pre plan your life out like that..its not just what YOU want but what you BOTH want. Why not compromise. You want to get married in 2 yrs him in 5..So compromise at 3. Have you thought that perhaps he might not be in that mind set? I suggest you dont push the issue..this could lead to alot of fights and break ups in a relationship. If you are not content...and he doesnt want to compromise perhaps you should re evaluate your relationship...maybe he isnt as serious yet?
2006-11-14 04:35:00
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answered by ? 2
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Long enough to want the same things at the same time.
If you do what he wants there will be resentment. If he does what you want he'll have resentment.
Or a blame game will eventually surface... "well you said this, you wanted that, it was your idea...."etc
I've seen it happen, it's ugly.
'You' may think now that there won't be resentment but it'll appear eventually unless you work it out and learn to communicate your dreams, ideas and goals clearly to one another.
Either that or wait until you can pass gas in front of one another... then it's time to get married.
2006-11-14 04:40:01
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answered by Gigi 4
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there isn't really any set time frame a couple should date before they get married. it is all based on when the couple is ready to make the commitment. so just sit down and talk to your boyfriend and talk about what you each want and try to make an agreement because you two are the only ones who can really make the decision. Like me and my boyfriend have only been dating for 5 months and we already know we want to get married around our 1 year anniversary. so just be patient he might just be scared to make the decision and needs time to realize he wants to be with you and finally get married. so just talk to him hear each other completely before you guys make a decision. Good Luck!!
2006-11-14 04:38:55
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answered by crazybayb20 2
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I think u both should meet somewhere in the middle. But you dont want to complete control the marriage situation, having a deadline is fine. But in my eyes I would like to be completley suprised when Im proposed...just let him know how long your willing to wait. If things dont go well overtime continue hunting for the special one.
2006-11-14 04:44:40
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answered by msconfused 3
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There is no set time limit. But, both parties must be willing. Seems as though he is far from willing and is apparently putting off your requests for his own selfish reasons. Plus, depending on how intimate your relationship is he may feel no need to get married.
2006-11-14 04:34:24
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answered by IGH3Rat 5
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