Okay so a guy I went to High School with and went out with we recently started talking again 17 years later... and well here is the thing.. he has a girlfriend.. but now I have recently seen him for a brief moment, but we talked and laughed and then he emailed me saying it was nice to see me and said he would have called but didn't have my number, I gave him my number and he called me.. we talked on phone for 2 and half hours.... we laughed and talked about the old days and everything we went thru for the last 17 years.. He told me to call him anytime??? If he has a girlfriend, that wouldn't be such a great idea would it? I definitly would like to see if there is something left there for me and him, however i wouldn't want to come between him and his girlfriend??? What should I do? What is he doing? and made it known to me that he "saves" my emails? I thought only girls do that???
2006-11-14 04:21:11 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Let him make the next move. Don't call him or otherwise initiate contact.
If he pursues you, feel free to respond to him however you want. Whatever the issues are between him and his girlfriend don't really concern you. Let him deal with those.
If he does contact you and asks to see you then I think you're perfectly free to ask "Will your girlfriend mind?"
If he still says he has a girlfriend, I would recommend not seeing him more than once under those conditions. Let him know that you are a serious person, and don't want to be played with, that you won't play second fiddle to his girlfriend. If he wants to be with you, let him know he will have to make that commitment.
2006-11-14 04:38:29 · answer #1 · answered by Dean 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok first off, if he has a girlfriend it probably isn't a good idea to "call him anytime". If I were his girlfriend, I wouldn't like that one bit. I don't think that saving your emails is such a big deal, sometimes old emails are nice to look at when having a bad day (of course I am a girl). If you want to see what's there (or not there) have lunch with him and see what's there. I would tread very carefully with the girlfriend though (girls can be viscious, as I'm sure you know).
2006-11-14 04:28:41 · answer #2 · answered by jennyreigle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I save my emails and the reason being is just in case I need to remember something someone said to me I will have it there in front of me and I won't have to wonder whether I am right or not and maybe he is just wanting to be friends when the conversation turns to something else like sex then you know you have an issue maybe you should try and speak to his g/f and see how she feels about you and him and if you ever had any kind of sexual relationship then let him go now because that is a fire you don't to ignite now while he has a g/f hope this will help you out some
2006-11-14 04:28:03 · answer #3 · answered by jds31177 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well apparently not only girls do that. I have no idea what he is doing it sounds to me that he is trying to step out on his girlfriend and if he is the questions you need to ask yourself are 1. Where is this going to go? 2. What makes me so different that if this thing does go far between us who is to say that he will not do the same thing? Are you prepared to be the other woman because sometimes that is a harder role to play than being the actual woman in his life? I think that you should ask him if he is faithful and see what he says ask him what you want to know. That is the best advice that I can give you.
2006-11-14 04:48:26 · answer #4 · answered by Nicole C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thread carefully my dear, this could be just him remembering some good times and you were such a lift, he wants to relive that again and again anytime. OR it could be he is a snake and would run around on his girlfriend with you. Who would want that? Why not do this, he has your number, he emails you and saves yours, if you have reason to communicate again, and he makes that invite again to call him, say this "oh I wouldn't want to get your girlfriend upset with me, I don't think that would be a good idea" and wait and see what he says. If he says "oh she doesn't need to know" dump him! If he says "oh she doesn't mind" say "then lets all meet for dinner at Micky D's or something, I would love to get to know her!". I wouldn't encourage any private meetings with him, until he was clear and so was his girlfriend. Just some thoughts. Good luck!
2006-11-14 04:29:03 · answer #5 · answered by Tippy's Mom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't read too much into any of that sugary stuff that you just told us, because in essence, you just answered your own question. He has a girlfriend! He is already involved with someone and that means hurting you in the process if you decide to take this think any further. You already answered something else too. You don't want to come between him and his girlfriend because when karma comes back around, it will bite you hard. Be with someone who is available and don't hurt yourself anymore. He is trying to have his cake and eat it too. If he is so into you then he wouldn't have a girlfriend. He would be with you. I know you have more respect for yourself, because it seems like he doesn't.
2006-11-14 04:27:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it is partially evident to me that he is attracted to you. You are not necessarily coming in between. If he is more attracted to you and you both pursue that route than that is your available option. If you would like to see if there are options available then do it. If he turns out to be far more attracted to you then that is his call. You didn't break them up. Its not like you had sex with him or did anything intimate. I think what he is doing is not necessarily right but at least he is telling you the truth. And about the saving of the emails, I do that and I am a guy. I think it shows how much value he puts into you and his' relationship.
2006-11-14 04:29:12 · answer #7 · answered by brandon_fargerson 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must leave him alone until, or unless, he breaks up with his current girlfriend. Be clear with him about that. Also, tell him you don't want him breaking up with her for you, and that if there are other problems between those two and he wants to break up with her for some or all of THOSE reasons, okay, that's one thing. But, not just to date you. That would be a totally different thing (not a good enough reason to break it off with her). You do not want to be put between he and his current squeeze. Do you know what you get when you end up with a guy who cheats on his girlfriend? A guy who cheats on his girlfriend.
2006-11-14 04:28:40 · answer #8 · answered by Twister 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he is wanting to stay in touch as friends. Mature adults can have friends of the opposite sex. As well remember you cannot come between him and his girlfriend if he does not allow you to; meaning if he is happy in this relationship and with whom he wants to be in a one on one relationship he will not be open to allow you to move in causing problems. If he as well wants to get to know you again and see if there is something still there, then I suggest he is not in love with the present girlfriend. Good Luck
2006-11-14 04:25:52 · answer #9 · answered by chattylady47150 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he might be wishing for the old days. We all go through that. You need to remember WHY you both stopped dating before you get too serious with this guy again. And if he's doing this behind his girl's back, would he then do the same to you after you get back dating again?
2006-11-14 04:25:35 · answer #10 · answered by CJ P 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋