2006-11-14 04:15:45 · 11 answers · asked by bigsmile3us 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
My husband is in prison. There are some things I suggest.
First and Most Important: Take care of YOURSELF first!
2: Get involved with a support group or even an advocacy group to know what the issues are and help keep yourself involved.
3. Keep a journal and write every day or every few days to watch your progress.
4. Write to your loved one every day or so and then send out the letters once a week.
5. Keep busy. Get involved with your community, find a hobby, spend time friends and family. Keep yourself distracted.
It's very costly to have a loved on in prison. Many families are paying for Personal Hygiene, Canteen, Education, Clothing, Medical expenses, etc. Limit yourself on a budget. I'm only able to send my husband $25.00 a month.
The cost of the phone bill can be outrageous. Set up a schedule to talk once or twice a week to help cut down the cost.
If you are able to visit, try once a week, Every Other Week, or Once a Month. Gas prices are out of control.
Also keep in mind you have a life and sometimes inmates forget this. Its okay to feel upset and depressed. But always take care of yourself first.
If you want to contact me, feel free to. Loved ones of inmates are the forgotten people in society and looked down upon, no matter what their loved ones did or didn't do. We need support. I also have a listing of various email groups I am involved with who are made up of people with loved ones in prison.
My email address is: quartznh@yahoo.com
2006-11-14 04:27:50 · answer #1 · answered by Erica, AKA Stretch 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Communication is the answer. If local in your area visit as often as possible on visitation day and write letters. Be supportive of your family member but never disrespect yourself by hiding your feelings of what this has also done to the people that love this family member. Offer positive attitude to assist this person to serve the time for the crime. Tell this person to get involved in support groups inside, much counseling to pave the road for a successful release. Good Luck
2006-11-14 04:19:24 · answer #2 · answered by chattylady47150 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had a family memeber that was incarcerated and I sent him a letter at least once a week. I included as many pics as possible. He really looked forward to receiving mail. It is important to keep a positive attitude and be supportive. They usually have a change of heart in there and they tend to regret some of the hurt that they have caused others.
2006-11-14 04:29:41 · answer #3 · answered by heaven o 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey BigSmile, my auntie is in jail and has been for almost a year now and its really hard on her children but they write her and go see her as often as they can. They support her emotionally, spiritually, and financially as often as they can. You don't have to abandon your family just because they are in jail. Maybe this is a time of rehabilitation for that person. Maybe its a time for peace in the family to come together. This time could and should be a time of healing and forgiving. I love my auntie but she did some stupid stuff that she didn't have to do. I know in her heart that she regrets it but she shouldn't have to be put behind bars before she realize that. I pray the best for you and your family and just be there for that family member because regardless of the crime that person is still your family and he or she is going to need someone to reach out to just to listen and talk to so just be there for them and the best thing that you could do for this family member is prayer. God Bless, Sweetie.
2006-11-14 04:33:30 · answer #4 · answered by sharethalove 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
all you can do is just be there. times are really hard being locked up and if it is his/her first time it realy is hard because everything is timed. what time they go to bed to eat, watch tv, shower talk on the phone you are state property it ant no joke and no fun,money is very important because they offer you a better selection of food, and underclothes wich they dont give to youwhen you get ther so just write as much as possible
2006-11-14 04:32:25 · answer #5 · answered by Mrs W. 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have been through that more times than I care to remember with my 28 yr. old son. You just have to do the tough love bit and remember they are where they are not because of you but because of the bad choices they made. You do not have to love the things that put them behind those bars but you will never stop loving them.
2006-11-14 04:21:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If they are incarcerated you don't have to deal with them at all.
2006-11-14 04:16:47 · answer #7 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Write a lot of letters, and be supportive. People make mistakes.
2006-11-14 04:16:43 · answer #8 · answered by Justsyd 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Regardless they are family and as such you should continue to love them unconditionally.
2006-11-14 04:18:02 · answer #9 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
go visit,send money,take pictures.collect calls will run a phone bill up.
2006-11-14 04:18:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋