I found out that my boyfriend of 3 weeks bet his friends that he'd sleep with me whlie I was with him Saturday (which I didn't). I found out from his friend's girlfriend that he did this and tonight I'm going to his house and then to a movie with him. Should I give him another chance? He also told me he loved me right before we fooled around on Saturday. I am thinking this is what I'm going to say while we're at his house...
Do you like me?
Do you love me?
Okay. I'm going to give you a chance to explain before I jump to conclusions....
What do you think? I am passed the point of depression that he'd do something like that and now I just want to hit him...Thank you...tell me if you need more information and then put this question on your watch list or whatever...
2006-11-14 04:03:44 · 23 answers · asked by JitterBug589 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, I would give him the benefit of the doubt just this one time. His friends were probably asking him if he scored when he said "no" I'm sure they gave him a hard time. Just friendly male banter. I doubt the bet was even his idea, or his friends bet over stupid things all the time and they weren't thinking of it as seriously as you are. I'd be pissed too! Have a talk with him like you planned. But, if anything like this happens again, kiss him goodbye.
2006-11-14 04:11:43 · answer #1 · answered by ☆skyblue 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do not go to his house. Call him, and tell him you don't appreciate being a tool in a childish and hurtful game, and don't want to see him any more. After 3 weeks, there is only one reason for him to tell you he loves you, and that was to win the bet. He is not treating you with any respect whatsoever.
Trust me on this one. Be very proud that you didn't fall for his scam. You have proven yourself much better than he. If you dump him now, a year from now you will be very happy you did. Five years from now you'll remember it as one of the best decisions of your young life.
2006-11-14 04:16:34 · answer #2 · answered by Murph 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its pretty messed up if he did do that. Ask him first. Then tell him that you don't have time for that kind of foolishness. IF it is true..then dump him, don't give him a chance. If he did do a bet with his friends that shows that he has no respect for you, and that he most likely doesn't like you that much. Look on the bright side, you've only been with him for 3 weeks..just get rid of the jerk(if he did do that) and find someone who isn't an a$$hole.
2006-11-14 04:07:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
The possibility exists that your his friend's girlfriend made it up to upset you, but you seem to believe her. She may be telling you the truth and that's what you need to determine. But, if you believe her it's impt. that you not do anything that would cast suspicion on yourself. If you go to his house, he'll be able to make up anything he wants and you'll have no opportunity to prove otherwise. I suggest you meet him at the movies instead and avoid hanging out with him at his house or your house--only be in his presence at public locations where others are present. That way you can confront him, but if he denies it who are you going to believe? He is probably immature and is trying to impress his friends. You also sound immature (sorry)...because you say in your question that you 'love him' after having dated him for only three weeks. I doubt love has developed in this short time. You need to protect yourself and do what is necessary to further that purpose. You don't need to be 'fooling around' with someone you barely know and you don't need to tolerate someone that is willing to make 'sport' of you. If it were me, I'd like to think that I could walk away from the relationship without even having to discuss things. Just walk away and leave the guy wondering what he did to screw things up. So if you do believe your gal pal, make other plans and forget about this guy. You'll eventually grow up, learn what love is, and will find guys that respect you. Good Luck
2006-11-14 04:15:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should ask him if he really likes you or if it was just a the bet that made him want to be with you. Give him a chance to explain.
2006-11-14 04:10:46 · answer #5 · answered by Pumpkin 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't ask those questions. If you have to ask it means he's not demonstrating it. Love is about behavior, actions, life evidence - not words. He showed a tremendous disrespect for you by making a bet on your sex life. Brush your teeth and get the taste of this low life out of your mouth.
2006-11-14 04:08:24 · answer #6 · answered by bdenton2k 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Only easy girls give guys like this another chance. Have some self respect and find a guy who will actually want you for you, and not just sex.
2006-11-14 04:09:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to confront him about this "bet" before even going anywhere with him or even deeing him again..
You dont need a guy who makes bets with his buddies about scoring with women, its a good way to keep getting hurt..
Drop him and find another guy to give your attention to...
2006-11-14 04:09:10 · answer #8 · answered by The Chesire Cat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
drop him like a hot potato you deserve better than that because if you ever do sleep with him whether he won the bet or not he still won so just dump the bum
2006-11-14 04:07:10 · answer #9 · answered by jds31177 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Find a real boyfriend. Someone 180 degrees from the loser you are currently with.
2006-11-14 04:07:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋