ok so things are just like totally out of control and disorganised at our place. I am the sort of person where everything has its place.
When i have to look around for something for half an hour to do a 5 minute task, i get really angry and upset. I feel like i am fighting my bf and he just wants to throw stuff around and leave it laying outside etc cos he is just too busy and doesnt give a sh#t.
it really stresses me out but he just doesnt seem to get that. How can we work together and get things organised.
2006-11-14 04:01:05 · 7 answers · asked by jess 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i sympathize with you. i am living with a slob. she will fill an ash tray to the top before emptying it. I started emptying the ash tray and washing it. then i started putting all her [on the floor] stuff in the floor in her closet. then i started placing the broom in the kitchen door to bug her. we laugh a lot about my antics but it is starting to work . you don't have to yell or even look angry. just send the subliminal messages along and if he has a brain he will get the message.
2006-11-14 04:08:59 · answer #1 · answered by veerfish 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm guessing you've tried sitting and talking to him about organizing the house and putting things in designated places. If he's cool with that and wants to try it, what you can do is mark the designated places for things...literally label places to make sure they are remembered (Sticky notes, sharpie, etc). This will help everyone get on track to know where things are and keep them there.
Before you go about organizing things and putting them up, however, you two should talk about where they will go and why, and how often they will be used.
If he's still stubborn about it and doesn't care where things go, and he doesn't care that it frustrates you, then tell him it's getting hard to live with him (considering he's only your bf), and you want to either get it together or live in different places. After all, a big part of living with someone is cooperating with them and respecting each others space. If there are problems, he should be willing to talk.
Good luck.
2006-11-14 12:07:38 · answer #2 · answered by vanishx1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, one thing that can be done, start using his things (praferable things he alwas has in the same place), and put them in different places each time... then he's going to be going looking for them each time...
then, after the first, or second time of him asking you if you knew where something is, ask him if he likes having to search the whole place to find something that has a certain place to it... be nice about this conversation though, otherwise he'll think you're looking for a fight instead of understanding...
once he understands what you're going threw, tell him that's how it is for you, and if he just puts things back to where he got it from, your life would be much easier, and you'd be much happier... if he really cares about you, he wants you to be happy, and will help with this easily...
2006-11-14 12:06:15 · answer #3 · answered by Junior1544 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing you can do if he won't help. Talk to him about it and see if he will help you out with putting his things away.
2006-11-14 12:04:57 · answer #4 · answered by Rachel Bitchface 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him. Talking is like the last and best resort to go to.
2006-11-14 12:04:31 · answer #5 · answered by Lone Eagle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Communication is the NUMBER ONE thing in a relationship, well that and trust. but yeah, talk to him about it.
2006-11-14 12:21:24 · answer #6 · answered by Roo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let him know what you telling us.......if he still doesnt want to help than dont clean up after him and dont do stuff for him.......that's what i had to do to get my bf to help me clean.......Good Luck
2006-11-14 12:05:50 · answer #7 · answered by krystal_loves_you88 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋