Around March of 2007, I will have the opportunity to go to Cancun and I would love to take my sister. I had promised I would take her last time I went but took my boyfriend instead. So this time I wanted to keep my promise. Well my boyfriend (different one)is mad that I want to go with my sister. I wouldnt mind if he went but 1. I would have to pay for him too and 2. It would just be me him and my sis and that would be kinda awkward. I have been with my boyfriend a little over a year (off and on) and I care for him very much. But he's giving me an ultimatum that if I go without him, we're over. My sister and I are not the partying type and that is not why we are goin. It will be 4days/3nights of relaxing and shopping. So should I take my sister or give in to him and pay for all 3 of us?
2006-11-14 03:57:33 · 15 answers · asked by breeokc 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I want to thank all of you for your awesome answers!! I think most of you have confirmed what I already know. But just to clarify why I would be paying...I claim 0 on my W2 and have 2 kids so I get back a HUGE return on my taxes. I always like to use that money to take a small trip. But I hear you all.. HE should pay his way atleast!
2006-11-14 04:56:19 · update #1
He's a brat and needs to get over himself.
1) You made a promise before you even knew him.
Boyfriends change. Your sister is with you forever.
2) Why on earth would you pay his way?
Sounds like you have a habit of doing too much for him.
If he can't understand that he has to sit this one out, because you made a promise to do something for someone else, let him pout all he wants. He really doesn't have a leg to stand on - you're paying for everything!!
I wouldn't worry about his little "ultimatum" either. The fact that you are so willing to do something so wonderful, and generous for your sister lets me know that you're a great person. He shouldn't be trying to make you feel bad about doing something good.
You don't need to be around someone so selfish.
If he goes, you're better off. You won't have any problem replacing him. You replaced the last one didn't you?
Go, have fun. Enjoy the time with your sister.
Just a real man's opinion...
2006-11-14 04:12:04 · answer #1 · answered by peter n 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The "Big Baby" can't stand for you to "go away" for a short vacation. He is immature and insecure to give you an ultimatum. Dump him, take your sister, who is forever, and have an absolute blast. My bet is, that when you get back, it won't take long for him to come back to you, but be wary, he sounds like a controller. If he loves you, he would want you to be happy and have a good time and he must realize that he is not the only person on the face of the Earth that can do that for you. Be sure to visit the Inca ruins to the South of Cancun, and if you have the time, take the boat over to Cozumel and shop the square.
2006-11-14 04:03:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take your sister...you broke your promise because of a man already. As for the man in your life now...tell him if he wants to go he has to pony up his share and tell him he might as well be ready to party alone and entertain himself cause you have better things to do. An ultimatum?? WTF-ever. Don't ever let a man tell you what to do....
2006-11-14 04:00:07 · answer #3 · answered by WonderTwit 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There isn't anything to shop for in Cancun except for silver jewelry and t-shirts. So your boyfriend assumes that you're going to party. Do the math.
Having said that, if he's making ultimatums to you, dump the loser. He isn't the boss of you.
2006-11-14 03:59:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take your sister, and find a new boyfriend.
2006-11-14 03:59:36 · answer #5 · answered by Justsyd 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl please, this is a no brainer. YOU have to pay for HIM. Sh!t I wouldn't even be with him in the first place. Take your sister. He can go if he can pay for the trip himself.
2006-11-14 03:59:57 · answer #6 · answered by thesweetestthings24 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's acting like a spoilt kid, definitley don't pay for him. you and your sister go enjoy yourselves.........and tell your boyfriend to get a job
2006-11-14 04:09:40 · answer #7 · answered by Jamieson 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
family first since you made a promise. if he is so self centered that he doesnt understand that, he isnt wrth dating anyway and is going to try and control you more and more
2006-11-14 03:59:24 · answer #8 · answered by scottb03gt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HECK NO DON'T TAKE HIM jeez if he is making you choose him over your sister then honey he isn't worth it. if he wants to go then make him pay his own way. sounds to me that he is a free loader...
2006-11-14 04:01:02 · answer #9 · answered by mmh 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kick that freeloading punk in the ballz and tell him I called him a p*ssy!!!
Mr Happy
:o)
2006-11-14 04:00:44 · answer #10 · answered by hagtagg 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋