FOR FEMALES.....What is the deal?

Question

The situation: many of my friends that are girls have been terribly hurt in a relationship and then come to me and complain about it and tell me they wish they could meet a guy like me. So I ask "then why don't you give me a chance?" and they say "No, I couldn't date you!" Females that have been on the other side of this situation- what gives?

Answer 1

The problem is you have made yourself indispensable as a friend. This is a double edged sword, I have been in the same situation myself with a male friend who repeatedly asks me out cos we get on so well and I can tell him anything.
You have been a good friend and so all your female friends respect this and would never want to lose your companionship by risking taking things further with you. You just need to realise that mates are better as exactly that - look for a partner outside of your social network and you are more likely to have success.

Answer 2

Well I dont see a reason why, but since they were in relationships you always made yourself into this friend figure, now thats the only way they see you now. Try to act like less of a friend and more of a boyfriend towards these girls, they are soo attached to seeing you as only a friend. Being from bad relationships are also hard, your friend might not be ready yet to date again.

Answer 3

This is very simple. Girls date *******. When they are done having their fun with the bad boys they will look for a guy liek you to settle down with. Strap on some balls and go out and play, because right now you are being played. Why in the world would you let yourself become the male "friend"? That is ithe weakest thing possible and you know it. You are becoming femalized in this way.

Answer 4

Here is a start - next time they come complaining say "I don't want to hear this BS. You f**ked up by chosing the wrong guy. I am not a shoulder you can cry on before you move on to the next jerk".

Girls don't want to date men who are "friendly" towards them. If you don't create a strong sexual tension with them in the first few minutes, it is very unlikely they'll be attracted to you. Stop acting like a protector-provider and start acting a little like bad boy.

Answer 5

Sometimes it's a kind way of saying there's no attraction. Most relationships start off with a basic physical attraction and grow from there.

Answer 6

you shouldnt want to date the women that have been scorn because you will suffer, you will be accused of doing the same things the others did and being that you know there weakness it is really not a good idea just be that good friend who has a shoulder to lean on.

Answer 7

girls want a guy that that see is a challenge. when it comes time to settle down and be married then they will want a guy like you but for now that are looking for fun. when your friends come to you to complain just tell them to keep looking for the nice guy like you.

Answer 8

well i feel you on that statement im a girl and i have been in two bad relationships and i deserve better i should be treated like a queen i dont take no b.s. from anybody, the reason why we want to be like guys is because we want to see how it feels inside to be a guy

Answer 9

sometimes its better to be someones friend than lover - see they date others-and leave them when things are bad - but never really leave you because they love you more because your there for them when no-one else is...when your love of your life comes along the other girls will know what they missed out on..

Answer 10

i have many guys friends but i only have a crush with one of them. why? the "sexual tension" was there from the beginning, i viewed him differenty i guess. its hard to switch from friend mode to **** mode if u know what i mean down the road. (it becomes the brotherly thing and it gets weird if it isn't confronted in the beginning.)