i recently found my father after a 22 year seperation from him, im now 32, and he wants me to move to where he is so he can take care of me, but im in a relationship that may or may not be over, i live 500 or so miles away from where he is,....i dont know what to do.
2006-11-14 03:54:07 · 11 answers · asked by justice4jcc 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
that is a time question. you have to take your time. think about your future and where you want to be in ten years. think think think and take your time. I would love to be with my father. you only get one of those in a life time. just one
2006-11-14 03:58:44 · answer #1 · answered by veerfish 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Seriously, some random on this site isn't going to be able to tell you what to do. In terms of taking care of you and you being 32....what sort of taking care would he be providing? I'm assuming that you have a job and a life set up where you are. Really ask yourself whether it's something that you want to do and think about what you're giving up from both sides...if you do move or if you don't move
2006-11-14 12:04:03 · answer #2 · answered by kristina807 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would suggest taking the time to get to know each other before making that big of a move. You two are strangers at this point. As for your relationship you need to figure that out before you decide anything. If you move before you know whether or not it is over you may live with regrets or what ifs. no one needs that, it is unfair to you and your partner.You have found your father chances are he isn't going anywhere, take your time.
2006-11-14 12:02:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you in a situation where you need him to take care of you? Don't worry, just do what makes you comfortable. You can always stay where you are but always have that open as an option which is a secure feeling. Good Luck and I am so happy that you found your father. How did you do it?
2006-11-14 11:57:43 · answer #4 · answered by sassygirl2473 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have your own life stay where you are until you know where you are in your relationship. If you are established where you are don't throw it all away on a wild chance. Maybe a visit to test the waters might be in order, but don't make the decision as to move or not during that visit. Give this even less thought if the decision not to be in your life was in any way his choice.
2006-11-14 12:02:00 · answer #5 · answered by dano 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK.... this relationship may or may not be over..... I would move closer to my father if it was me. If this man loves you, he will understand and go with you. There is work everywhere you go. Just follow your heart! This to the future, when your father is "gone" are you going to look back on this and regret it?
Good Luck hun!
2006-11-14 12:00:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would do what is going to be best for you and your significant other you are with. You are 32 years old, do you really need your father to take care of you at this age? You should be able to take care of yourself.
2006-11-14 11:57:49 · answer #7 · answered by DolphinFan02 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
so he can take care of u?wat are u a baby? pls dont move over there just try to go see him often i mean ur 32 and in control of ur life.love him and contact him always but hold on to the life u have where u are.good luck wit that
2006-11-14 11:57:43 · answer #8 · answered by dupsydups 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are 32 yrs old and he wants to take care of you now?
You have a life where you are. if he wants to be a part of it, then let him. But you shouldnt have to alter yours in order for that to happen.
2006-11-14 11:56:46 · answer #9 · answered by JC 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't worry about what he wants. What do you want?
2006-11-14 12:10:45 · answer #10 · answered by justcurious 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋