I have a 4 year old son. He is normally a sweet little boy. The past 3-4 weeks, he has been a terror at daycare. He gets into trouble by biting,pinching.and hitting his friends. Then, when he gets put in time-out...he freaks out. The teachers are telling me that he refuses to stay in time-out and will hit and bite then as well. He doesn't act out like this at home, with his dad, or at his grandma's house. I just don't understand. He went from being an angel to a little devil in a months time. These are the only things I can think of that could have caused this sudden outburst.....
1. He's got new teachers at daycare. And just last week, one just up and left in the middle of the day and didn't come back!
2. My boyfriend(who has lived with us for over a year) started taking him to daycare in the mornings. He doesn't have a very set schedule so Justin will go in anywhere from 8am to 11am.
3. Another little girl at the daycare was just recently kicked out for her bad behavior.
2006-11-14 03:50:25 · 8 answers · asked by Justinsmom 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Do any moms out there have any suggestions? I am going to start taking him to daycare in the mornings again. Maybe having a set schedule again will help. I've even called his doctor to ask her advice. I am just at my wits end! I love him so much andI just don't know how to fix this. I don't want him to get kicked out of daycare too! Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
2006-11-14 03:52:21 · update #1
I must say that the other kids in the daycare are just normal little kids too. It seems that it was just the one girl that was constantly being mean. I don't think that Justin is in any kind of danger from being at his daycare. Now that the little girl is gone, I'm hoping things might improve some.
2006-11-14 04:00:23 · update #2
I spend lots of time with him! Everyday we have time just the two of us. He is an only child and I'm a single mom. I have no choice but to put him in daycare. I would take him to a new daycare..but there's just not that many to choose from im my small town. Besides, even if I put him on a waiting list at another place, he still needs to understand that he has to treat his friends and teachers with repect, not matter what daycare he goes to. It breaks my heart to think that he's acting out because of something I've done. I hate the thought of him being unhappy. I just don't know. I'm just all out of ideas....I'm mentally drained....
2006-11-14 05:02:41 · update #3
My guess is that it is a mix of the things you listed. Kids don't know how to express their feelings like we do so they act out. He's not a "monster" (although I know it feels that way!! :0) )
he's just trying to deal with his feelings. New daycare teachers can be very traumatic...and unfortunately this can be a usual occurance at daycares. Also...time with mommy is really important...so maybe he's missing you taking him.
Schedules are also very important to young children. He needs to know what to expect when he gets to daycare. He needs to get there around the same time every day.
Have you thought about staying home? If that's just not an option...what about a day home? They are WAY more consistent and your child will receive more 1 on 1 care. There are agencies that will help you find a safe dayhome.
Good luck to you...I hope it all resolves itself soon!!
2006-11-14 03:58:51 · answer #1 · answered by Candice 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a 4 yr old as well and he went through that phase. I can tell you it can be difficult at first get him in routine and even if that means driving the same route everyday then thats what ya gotta do. Also talk to the daycare director and point out tht hes reacting to the environment and he needs more consistency. but he got new teachers he's testing them. Let boyfriend know that lil Justin needs to be there at 8 for his own good, not for his convienence/ I found that the morning adjustment with the other kids helps. If you star to get a report everyday for like a week or two striaght then adress to the director that maybe he needsa change in environment and would like to try out another daycare. That will put him in a diff mode of meeting new people and not being able to get away with the stuff he was doing at the first daycare. Beleive me I been there. He adjusted and started to ask for his "little school" back i told him that the little school is not able to watch him right now and we need to go to the big school. He got it. The new school is designed more like a regualr grade school but to us parents we know its a daycare but the kids feel like big kids going there they even wear uniforms.
2006-11-14 06:09:08 · answer #2 · answered by Jsmom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a daycare provider and I know change can really upset a child. I have a child in my care that goes to preschool a few days a week . When her mom drops (which she does most days) \ she is fine when her dad or grandma drops her off she screams and fights them. She is used to the same routine and when there is change it really disrupts her. It could set her off for the whole day. I am sure with everything going on in daycare it will take your son sometime to settle back into the routine.
Other things to consider because there are new teachers are naps snack times and lunch at different times?
2006-11-14 05:27:57 · answer #3 · answered by BabyDolll128 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he is crying out for your attention. He does not want to stay there and thinks if he causes enough ruckus you will or the daycare will remove him. I know it is hard you probably have to work. I would let him know his bad behavior will not be tolerated and that you are disappointed to hear these thing. Explain that you have to work but you love him very much. When you are off of work you will spend some time playing with him or doing something special with him, but only if he behaves at daycare. I would also tell him that hitting, biting hurts and he would not like it done to him. Just make sure you make some special time with him everyday. It sounds like he is acting out. Good luck.
2006-11-14 04:04:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How are you doing?! Well from another mother let me tell you now that he is just having a hard time adjusting to not being with you. my son is 3yrs old and was doing the same thing , i had to sit my son son down and talk to him about the fact that he will be going to school now, but mommy will be there when he gets home from school. don't get me wrong you may have to do the talk a few times until he understands. but first he needs a set schedule, if he is going to be in school for 8am then stick to that time no matter what. it's very important to his adjusting period..you need to start this asap because if this continues to happen then he will end up getting kicked out of day care.....but trust me this will work...
2006-11-14 04:02:16 · answer #5 · answered by michelle e 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow it does sound like you have a problem .lots of reasons why are children act up.at 4 they are told that they are big boys or girls now but they still fill like a baby does he have any siblings,have you tryed to talking to him about why he act the way he does,or spend qulity time with him along go to park or mcdondles,and make a fun day and ask his casuley about why he acts they way he does at daycare.maybe something is happing at the daycare try a new daycare and see if he acts the sameway there i wish you luck
2006-11-14 04:06:22 · answer #6 · answered by ann p 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your son probably picked up those bad habits by seeing other children at daycare doing it. He probably was defending himself and then got into trouble. I would find a different daycare as soon as possible.
2006-11-14 03:55:30 · answer #7 · answered by mandm 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
xanax 2mg LOL
2006-11-14 03:58:17 · answer #8 · answered by Labatt113 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋