my auntie has recently got engaged to her boyfriend hes a good guy quite genuine but i dont why i dont want her to marry him
2006-11-14 03:42:34 · 29 answers · asked by David 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
i do want her to be happy
and i do get on well with her fiance
so i dont know why i dont want her to be married
2006-11-14 03:54:42 · update #1
when i first heard she was getting married but now its im feeling i dont want her to i do agree what she does with her life is up to her nowt i can do but sit back and watch
i didnt go to her engagement party
2006-11-14 04:46:30 · update #2
well she was asking where i was but her minds not gonna wonder why im not at her wedding after all usually at a weddin there about 100 guests so im no gonna be spotted out them
2006-11-15 09:59:59 · update #3
comment to spooks 320 im a guy
2006-11-16 02:36:34 · update #4
people say talk to her tell her how u feel she might think i fancy her or something or he might get that idea and that will freak her out
2006-11-17 08:24:18 · update #5
Well David your auntie will do what she wants whether you condone of her relationship or not. You do not give explanation of reasons why you don't want her to marry but do state that her boyfriend is a decent guy. Try to be happy for your auntie as she must be happy to have found someone to share her life with.
2006-11-14 03:46:48 · answer #1 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm wondering how old you are but assume you are probably quite young ... I'm an Aunty and I would be really flattered if my nephew had such feelings about me getting married! It might be that you are feeling protective towards her and concerned she won't be happy with this guy? You say he's a good and genuine guy but do you like him? It might be that you are concerned that your relationship with your Aunty may change and not be so good once she is married? Ultimately, it's her choice and you'll have to accept the change but what about having a chat with your Aunty and telling her how you feel? I'm not suggesting she would or should change her plans to marry, but she might be able to reassure you that everythings going to be okay and you are still going to be as important to her as ever. Good luck.
2006-11-17 12:45:37 · answer #2 · answered by Lulu H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok you and your auntie are clearly very close, and she must have been so hurt when you didnt go to her engagment party. Dont hurt her even more by not supporting her through this and attending the wedding.
This may be blunt but you are being selfish and childish beyond belief and all your going to gain from it is loosing someone close to you. She will not choose you over her fiance, so either wise up or loose a close relative.
Sorry to sound so harsh but think you need to hear the hard truth
2006-11-15 14:24:52 · answer #3 · answered by sianmog 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's understandable that you feel a bit of a loss if someone you care about a lot is getting married - it basically means that they are moving on to something different, and things are changing.
But think of it another way - if you were getting married to someone you loved and who was a good person, and one of your family didn't want you to do it, wouldn't you be upset?
Your aunt is doing what all of us do - trying to find a way to be happier. It doesn't mean that she won't have time for anyone else, or that she doesn't care about the other people in her life just as much, just that she is enriching her life further. Try to be happy for her - it is the most wonderful feeling when you find that person that you want to marry.
2006-11-14 12:41:55 · answer #4 · answered by pomme_blanche_2004 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately for you, that's not our decision to make. If you love your aunt, you want her to be happy, right? and marrying this guy makes her happy, so you can't stand in the way of that. Also, you said you thought he was a nice, genuine guy, so what's your problem with him? Are you just feeling like maybe your aunt won't be able to have time for you once she gets married? If you're worried about that, maybe you could talk to her about setting aside one night a week to be your special night together, and you can hang out and catch up on that night every week.
2006-11-14 11:46:42 · answer #5 · answered by fizzygurrl1980 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
weather you want her to get married or not you should go and wish her all the happiness in the world, at the end of the day it is your aunts life and if you don't go you will look like a selfish jealous immature girl who cant be bothered to make an effort, if you love your aunt that is the least you can do, just go and grin and bear it stop being mean
2006-11-16 08:32:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not much you can do. Your Auntie needs to live her own life, especially if you say he is "good guy and quite genuine". You may want to sit down with her and talk but not sure you will be able to persuade her away from the marriage.
2006-11-14 11:46:59 · answer #7 · answered by Tiffany 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously you are close to your aunt, but surely you want her to be happy. If she loves the guy and he makes her happy then there's not a lot you can do except try and be happy for her. Don't let on that you don't want her to marry the guy, but just be there for her, and go to the wedding otherwise you will probably upset her and you don't want to do that.
2006-11-14 16:52:15 · answer #8 · answered by Baps . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think this is quite a selfish question. if your aunty is happy than you should be happy for her. if you dont want them to marry cause you feel it will affect your relationship or something you should speak to her and be honest im sure that she will understand and come uip with an arrangment that will make you feel at ease
2006-11-14 11:48:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop being so damn right selfish. its her life and if he makes her happy then surely that right. maybe u should get to know him more by spending time with them both together maybe u grow to like him in a family way. its her life and it will show if u cant be there on her big day and will really upset her.
2006-11-16 16:42:48 · answer #10 · answered by angelinyourdreams99_us 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋