My buddie who is a rower on the boat I cox got in an argument with me the other day.
(I know this guy has a thing for me but I can't do anythiing about it because getting with a guy on my crew team is off limits and a dumb idea...i hate drama)
Anyways I dated this guy the first 7 weeks of school and to mend what he hurt i made out with quite a few boys in a small period of time each one ended up fustrating and stressing me out even more... So Like Meredith Gray I am knitting, and havn't kissed any boys for the last 4 weeks and it's been great, no stress, no drama, no stressing over boys only school.
He is trying to tell me I am kidding myself and that one is only truely happy when they have someone else in there life.
Does anyone see what he is saying true because I feel so much happier now and so complete with myself knowing I need no one but myself (for the time being).
Do you think we are only happy when we have someone else in are lifes?
2006-11-14 03:40:46 · 15 answers · asked by Coxie Megan 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If it makes a differnce I am a freshman in college
I know girls who are trying to find husbands and that idea in it's self scares me
2006-11-14 03:40:53 · update #1
We need food, we need shelter, we need each other to help get food and build shelter. No man, or woman is an island. Do you need him? Depends, do you prefer playing games or having a adult relationship? It sounds to me like you need to grow up a little. Getting back at someone by kissing a bunch of boys to over some hurt doesn't seem very mature to me. Keep knitting till you feel better and can be open and honest in a relationship. If that person can't do the same, keep knitting. Good luck!
2006-11-14 03:46:43 · answer #1 · answered by Tippy's Mom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm certainly pretty happy now! Yes, it is possible to be happy and single, even if you're not 'playing the scene'. The key is to be happy with the way you are. There's no point wasting valuable emotional energy stressing because you don't have a boyfriend, or stressing because you're happy that you don't have a boyfriend! This guy is obviously just telling you this because he wants you to get desperate and turn to him... don't fall for it!
Only you know when you're happy.
TW x
2006-11-14 11:48:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I fully enjoy being single - i'm free to do whatever i like and concentrate on things i think are important at the moment... it's nice! but then there are times when i feel like it would be nice to have someone to share things with.....
i don't think you need someone to be happy, happiness comes from within...it's really only self-acceptance anyway and that's why people get so frustrated with relationships to begin with is that they feel like it's the other person's job to define who they are or to make them happy.... so find your own inner happiness and you won't be a big mess of drama for the right man when he does come along
2006-11-14 11:47:20 · answer #3 · answered by ooh baby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm proud of you for being so independent! I also know girls who feel like they always need to be in a relationship to be happy. I think I'm somewhere in the middle. I like being on my own, but I miss having a significant other. I wish I was more like you. Good for you!
2006-11-14 11:58:44 · answer #4 · answered by ☆skyblue 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That guy is just trying to brainwash you the way society has brainwash millions of other people currently mired in the futilities of dating. That, or he's trying to lay you. Either way, don't listen to them. You're already happy without guys, and you can keep at it as long as you want. Good for you.
2006-11-14 12:20:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
agree that most of time it IS better without dating and all-but still the lifting heavy things and the sex part-Men are good at them, well at least one can't get from gf's ya know?
be nice if i met a soulmate who was a guy-thats the husband i am looking for-not just a paycheck to "fit" in with surburbia
2006-11-14 11:47:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do what makes you happy. it isnt up to him or anyone else to determine what true happiness is for another person. If you are enjoying your time alone, good for you! Yes, its nice to have someone else in our lives to share it with, but only when we are ready for it.
2006-11-14 11:43:45 · answer #7 · answered by JC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay in there, gal. Go with your own gut feeling. Many people are happy being alone at various stages of their lives.
2006-11-14 11:45:32 · answer #8 · answered by delmaanna67 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Apparantly you are self sufficient and that's a very good thing in my opinion. You make yourself complete. Another merely adds to your life. Adds more chores, concerns, worries, etc. etc. etc.
Whatever it's worth...RIGHT...I agree with you 100%!
2006-11-14 11:46:52 · answer #9 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him think what he wants. Us single happy people know better.
2006-11-14 11:45:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋