My brother (16) has been abused for 2 years now and my father has done it. I tried telling my mother but she doesn't beliveve me. He tried to commit sucide the other day and is comming home from the hospital TODAY. I am nervous because I don't want him to go home becasue I know that he is going to get hurt again... Actually he is probably getting ready to go home now. I don't want to call the police. Should I wait until I catch my father in the act or is that to late? We have no close reliatives.
2006-11-14 03:39:19 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
But If my mom didn't believe me then why shold the police believe me thats y im scared
2006-11-14 03:44:05 · update #1
Your father is abusive and a very sick man, I think your mother knows that and that is why she would not listen to what you were trying to tell her - It is called denile. Your brother NEEDS HELP badly, I understand you dont want to call the police, but to sit and do nothing will cause your brother to beleave there IS no other way out and next time he might succeed in his efforts.... I know you would like to handle this quietly for many reasons,but your brothers life is at stake here - call child protective services ( the number is in the phone book under state or city services.) Or call the policeand have them do it....I know it is a bad spot to be in both yours and your brothers but you would never forgive yourself if you did nothing and it cost a life, I think it would be in your best interest to get proper agencies involved because then you and your brother have thire protection, and if you go over there alone to confront your dad he might hurt you both, then the cops will come anyways and not know who to beleave.....play it safe and start with the law behind you and your brother. Your brother can also ask the courts to go live with you and then you will be compencated for his living with you - It seems like your father has bullied all of you for quite a while and he needs help, this will also be seen to once you start the ball rolling.Hopefuly he and your mother will apreaciate the efforts you have made and will one day realize what wonderful childeren they have. Good luck to you and I hope it works out to you and your brothers best please let us know how it goes if you can. Take care.
please excuse all my spelling errors the spell check is down and I am a dyslexic.
2006-11-14 04:05:21 · answer #1 · answered by Liz H 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Call the police they will believe you and CPS should do an investigation,I was also abuse as a child,sexually,mentally and physically.You mother is a coward for not standing up for you children,,and it sounds like your the only "adult" in this family.And it's not fair to you or your brother to let this continue. I think when other ppl don't want to admit it,it seems like they wanna believe they have failed for some reason.That's how the abuser controls them.
2006-11-14 04:27:19 · answer #2 · answered by Mother of 2 girls 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sexually abused? Or physically abused? Either way, call the police immediately. They can find evidence on your brother that will point to your father even if they don't catch him in the act.
2006-11-14 03:42:29 · answer #3 · answered by superangel81beyond 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Involve the appropriate authorities NOW. The other adult in your life (mom) has done nothing to help you, so you have to find help elsewhere. You can call social services, talk to a counsellor or teacher at school--they will know what step to take next and help you to do it, that way, you don't have to find contacts all on your own.
Did no one at the hospital talk to your brother about his problems? Why he felt suicide was the only answer?
2006-11-14 03:42:11 · answer #4 · answered by Natalie M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is the second time you have posted sweetie. You obviously care a great deal about your brother and his well being.
You need to report this.. talk to you counselor at school... talk to ANY ONE you can. If he has tried taking his life already because of this DO NOT LET ANYMORE TIME GO BY. He might try it again and next time he might succeed.
2006-11-14 03:43:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There should be crises hot-lines listed in your local phone book that would be the first place to start for child abuse or domestic violence... I wold also definitely report it to the police as well. If you don't do something soon it will only get worse....
2006-11-14 05:36:25 · answer #6 · answered by Steph 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not call the police? Maybe get someone else involved like a school principal or church official? Good luck to you.
2006-11-14 03:42:03 · answer #7 · answered by Penguin Gal 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have you seen him being abused? do your father abuse you?
ask your brother and find out. then go to the police and everybody that will listen to you. if the first person doesnt listen, do to another one. just keep going until someone does listen.
good luck
2006-11-14 04:31:43 · answer #8 · answered by lodeemae 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
REPORT HIM TO THE POLICE, CHILDREN SERVICES, PASTOR, SCHOOL OFFICIALS. TELL SOMEBODY, THIS IS BEYOND YOU AND WHAT YOU CAN DO TO STOP IT.
mothers are always hard to convince. the police are not emotionally involved and it is their job to look into it.
if you do nothing, consequences could be tragic.
PLEASE TELL SOMEONE.
2006-11-14 03:43:30 · answer #9 · answered by nwnativeprincess 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You asked this question already. TELL YOUR TEACHERS COUNSELORS PRINCIPALS, they have to do something about it if its happened? Catch him in the act? Are you stupid? Why don't you take pictures too! Sheesh!
2006-11-14 03:42:36 · answer #10 · answered by Tippy's Mom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋