how would you handle this situation?

Question

Okay well to start off with I am almost 19 years old (my birthday is tommorrow), married for a year and a half, and my husband and i live with my mom, my aunt, my cousins (one is 15 one is 10), and my aunt's boyfriend. My 15 year old cousin and I were friends, and told eachother lots of secrets. When I found out that I am pregnant I needed some one to talk to besides my husband, because i was just that excited... well i didn't want to tell my mom just yet- i though Thanksgiving would be a much better time. So i told my 15 year old cousin, who said she wouldn't te 16ell. She asked me when i was going to tell my mom and i told her I wanted to tell her on Thanksgiving. Well, yesterday my aunt had picked up on one thing or another and my cousin told my aunt about my pregnancy tests- (mind you i have not seen the doctor yet... that is on Thursday the 16th) When my aunt came home from work she had already made a comment to my dad (who lives close by and works with my aunt)

the comment she made was about my being pregnant. So i continued to tell my dad to get this out of his mind (i wanted to tell him after thanksgiving) Once my aunt returned home from work i told her "i am not having a baby leave i alone" and she fired back at me "oh tell the truth" and continued to tell me when to tell my mom- yesterday. i was infuriated i wanted to tell when i got the right opportunity. well my aunt told me affects everyone in the house (true but not for another 5 months at least) and if i didn;t tell my mom she would. Well this started a small shouting match that lasted about 10 minutes between us. I then called my mom and when she got home, we went out and talked about it. Well, my aunt aparently had taken it upon herself to tell my other aunt as well (which i feel is not her place) and i feel like she took away a part of my first baby experience... Telling the people i love. What do you think i should do... I want to fight her phsyically- but that's dumb.

I already told my mom... yesterday... but how do i live with people i can't trust and that don't respect me. especially if i am about to bring a baby into this house?

Answer 1

When you live that closely with family it is hard to keep a secret especially a good one. I think I would tell my mom though before she found out from someone else. You know your dad is not going to be able to hide it. Congrats for living and dealing with that much family so close.

Answer 2

Sorry, but you asked for this by getting married at 17 when you were not yet financially responsible to move out and live independently. You are still a child "playing house" in your family's home, and you are acting--and being treated--as such.

Until you grow up, move out, and act like the adult you are pretending to be, expect more of the same. And since you are about to become a mother, I certainly hope you get it together soon. In the meantime, you're a guest in someone else's house (it's not your house, and it's very generous of your parents--or your aunt?--to allow you and your husband to live there as their guests), and you need to show respect to the others living there, whether you think they deserve it or not.

Answer 3

I'd say its to be expected from a 15 year old. They dont do these things personally against you... its just part of their age. She's probably excited too, and besides that, moms are really good at reading their daughters. So your aunt probably just picked up on it from her daughter.

Dont take it personally, but talk to your aunt and ask her to keep it a secret from your mom until thanksgiving.

Answer 4

Your cousin shouldn't of told your secret to your aunt, and when she did, your aunt should of been adult enough to either come talk to you or to keep her mouth shut until she heard the news first hand (from you). You need to talk to your aunt and whoever else & tell them you don't want anyone else to know, you wanted to wait until you got proof from a doctor, and to surprize your Mom on Thanksgiving. Hopefully everyone else will keep quite, but, I doubt it, so, you might as well go tell your Mom yourself, now, before someone else does. Sorry your surprize was ruined, it sucks when people get nosey & have to open their mouths and ruin it.

Answer 5

I believe it was rude for your cousin to say something, you may not get a chance to wait and tell your Mom on Thanksgiving. If you are close to her and are able to do so try and go to dinner with her at a fave restaurant. Surprise her by getting a baby bib that says "I love Grandma". That is kinda how I sprung it on my husband. That way it is still special for you to be able to tell her.

Answer 6

Well i think that the whole problem in this picture is that you are married and still living with your mom, get a house if you want people out of your business.

Answer 7

You are a married woman , you need to live with your husband and your new baby, you can't have any privacy at all or keep any secrets with so many people in your face.

Answer 8

If I were you, I would probably go ahead and tell my mom. It sounds like word is starting to get out, and your mom will be upset when she finds out that she is not the first to know. Go ahead and tell her before everyone else finds out.

Answer 9

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Answer 10

Well since you live with your cousin you might not want to be mad at your cousin but it is okay to be upset but my advice to you is to be careful who you trust with your personal secrets even family.