I was really head over heals in love with my last girlfriend but when it ended it broke my heart and I decided that I couldnt stay friends because I couldnt bear the thought of hearing how great her next boyfriend is and how well he treats her and all that I want her to be happy but I know that hearing it will break my heart.
By walking away and loosing contact have I done the right thing in the long run for my own heart or have I been a coward and bailed out on the girl who I really loved even though I cant bear the thought of another guy being with her?
2006-11-14 03:24:47 · 25 answers · asked by Music fan 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
By doing this makes you a stronger man...you did good by leaving her alone...it is hard when you have been in love, then it's all over, it hurts immensely and life seems pointless at that stage, give yourself some healing time...it's natural to feel the way you feel...by ignoring her and not staying in contact is a good way to go...as much as it hurts you are proving to yourself that you can move on, despite the hurt and heartache...good man...at least your not hassling her with calls and constantly on her case...never call yourself a coward, you are no where near to being a coward...your doing the right thing...you are saving your feelings from being hurt further and you are also respecting your ex by letting her get on with her life...there should be more out there like you...stay with it and focus on other things to ease your pain, it's hard not to see or hear about her new fella but there's no other way to tackle this...lets know how you get on in a months time...the pain won't be as intense as it is now...bless you....x
2006-11-14 03:35:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Some of my ex's I stayed friends with, just because I was young and I wasn't really bitter about why we split up. My last ex I broke off all contact with cos I just couldn't bear the sight of him anymore.
If you feel like you won't be able to handle it if she meets someone else, then you have done the right thing. Why put yourself through the misery of watching her get on with her life if you are not completely over her yet? Its not worth it! It will just make it difficult for you in the long run.From experience, ex's usually tend to break off contact when they find someone new anyway at the newbie's request and that could just end up in you feeling rejected again.
2006-11-14 03:34:05 · answer #2 · answered by Jo_Diva 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've done totally the right thing. When you still have feelings for an ex the only way to truly get over them is to break off all ties. Why would you want to be reminded of her all the time.
Go and get on with your life. Hook up with her in a year or so time if you want. By then you might have even forgotten what you saw in her!
2006-11-14 03:33:27 · answer #3 · answered by Fifi L'amour 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have done the right thing.
It is obvious that she has moved on to another man.
Take this time to heal your wounds. TIME HEALS ALL WOUNDS. Although you may not think you will be able get over her- you will be able to. Each day will get a little easier. Try not to think about her- keep yourself occupied.
It will get easier. I have gone through what you are going through. I did exactly what I told you to do and I am fine now. Actually better than I have ever been. I found a man, who is actually my fiancee now, who is 100x better than my past boyfriend.
YOU HAVE DONE THE RIGHT THING!
2006-11-14 03:30:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didnt bail on her, she bailed on you. You did the right thing. You have a strength & wisdom that will help you get throught life so do not try to second guess it.
She moved on so why should you suffer? She sure isn't sitting around worried about you. The best thing you can do is move on and not look back.
Good luck dude.
2006-11-14 03:29:19 · answer #5 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You probably did the right thing for you. When it's over, it's over, there is no sense in prolonging the hurt. Look at life this way, if were meant to be it would have been. Which means the love of your life is still out there, waiting for you. Save the good memories, but move on. HUGS
2006-11-14 03:27:57 · answer #6 · answered by Alterfemego 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
mate, i understand you must feel like s.h.i.t, but there will be a day where you realise that things wont always feel the way youre feeling, almost all of us have been through it, make sure you get out with your friends to try take your mind off things and have a good time, get your head straight, and when your ready let the next person come along and realise that they have a goodun on their hands and not just some person who hops from person to person, youll find someone better in the future, I did
2006-11-14 03:41:28 · answer #7 · answered by Steve R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When relationships end what's the point of being friends ?? You didn't come together to be friends in the first place and who wants to hear about the new bf's & gf's ?? If it didnt work both should just go their seperate ways. Trying to keep ex's as friends usually doesnt work out at all. Her new bf or your new gf sure wont like it.
2006-11-14 03:32:56 · answer #8 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have don the wright thing. It also happend to me . I belive people should forget about their last love all together. Life is to short to dwell on a lost love. and when two people break a part, they should forget about each other.and move on. She broke your heart. She never loved you in the first place. Forget her, Find someone who will be true to you.Tell people that tell you about her that you are not interested in hearing anything about her.That she is just a mistake you made.
2006-11-14 03:36:33 · answer #9 · answered by mswildman2005 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes in a man's life he just has to walk away
those times usually hurt but you'll be stronger and better off in the end
you can still show up later and just see how she is if you ever feel like it(can't be creepy though i'm not saying you are just be sure not to seem that way)
be sure she knows why you did what you did though
2006-11-14 03:35:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋