I've dated a couple of girls before. they all seemed to want to ease out of our relationship. i dont know why. i'm a kind, sensative man, who likes to be nice and considerate to woman. but they seem to want a posessive man who will keep them in line. i dont want to be like that but i'd like to keep the companionship of a special someone without sacrificing my way of living. what should i do? what am i doing wrong?
cesar
2006-11-14 03:22:43 · 14 answers · asked by greatpharohcesar 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ceasar,
you are doing absolutely nothing wrong. sweet, kind, sensitive, nice, considerate... you sound like my dream guy! in fact, you sound like my xbf, Marshall. he was the sweetest guy I'd ever met, and we hit it off immediately. we went out for six months, but i guess i just wasn't what he was looking for.
anyways, don't try to change yourself. one day you'll find the right woman for you, and it may take longer than you'd like, but shes out there somewhere, waiting on you to show up. or maybe she's someone you already know, like someone you see every day. way to be true to yourself, i personally don't like those controlling creeps out there.
Deborah
2006-11-14 03:50:55 · answer #1 · answered by Renee Gibson 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're doing nothing wrong. Anyone who wants and needs directives from someone else, whether it be man or woman, has issues that are unhealthy. Kindness will get you anywhere, don't let them fool you. Those that weren't happy with you, had complexes of some sick emotinal type. Insecurity mainly. If you were jumping all over them and demanding to know every waking moment of their lives, they wouldn't like you for that either. Life is strange and it sometimes runs out of excuses for the mainstream of weird people. Be you, be happy and someone will gravitate to you eventually. That's what people keep tellling me, hasn't happened yet but who knows, maybe it will.
2006-11-14 11:34:21 · answer #2 · answered by silhouette 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sensitivity is always desired. You are not doing anything wrong. Look for the women who wants soft not dominant. I keep saying, us female all have a variety of needs. Just strat looking for the girl who is interested in the sensitive relationship, not the raw relationship.
2006-11-14 11:28:42 · answer #3 · answered by Rachel D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think that you are doing anything wrong you are just dating the wrong girls you need one who will accept you for who you are you dont need to change anything just the girls you are choosing you will find the right girl shes out there waiting you just have to look in the right spots
2006-11-14 11:45:38 · answer #4 · answered by ♥SaLz♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most women say that want that sweet, sensative man but are attracted to the troubled, difficult ones. Thing is, being too sweet and too considerate can get boring, no offense. But you dont seem to pose much of a challenge.
2006-11-14 11:26:38 · answer #5 · answered by JC 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You have to be commanding sometimes, reguardless of the situation and with women, it will help. It must be a biological tendency for women to be more attracted to a man who'll be there for them than a boy. Maybe they feel you don't take the initiative enough? Being sensitive is great, but if you're as sensitive as us, it just feels like going out with a girlfriend. Go online to sites like askmen.com and read about dating tips, you'll get hints there....
2006-11-14 11:29:32 · answer #6 · answered by Craiova 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I don't know what Ur doing wrong?? I like a guy who makes me feel like I'm is one and only. he doesn't have to buy me anything special. I like him to be considerate to me and others and i like a guy to be ....like poetic.. sweet some one i can just stare at and know how we're thinking....I don't like guys who are controlling... Its their fault for not seeing more in you. the only mistake u can make is not being true to yourself... you'll find her someday no worries..
2006-11-14 11:30:07 · answer #7 · answered by DLF'N'GRL 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not doing anything wrong. You have just met the wrong women. Stay true to yourself and when you meet the "right" lady you won't have to change and she will love you for who you are.
2006-11-14 11:27:51 · answer #8 · answered by trixinator 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOu are not doing anything wrong you just have not met the right one. Keep trying you sound ok to me.
2006-11-14 11:35:31 · answer #9 · answered by picture 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe they have the feeling you are paying to much attention to them and not at you two. Maybe you are trying to hard to make your relationship work. Make sure you think about yourself. Maybe they are getting the feeling that you dont have your own life and are trying to live their life with them. Make sure you do your own thing to. Hope it helps
2006-11-14 11:31:37 · answer #10 · answered by eidunotno 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋