She called us to pick her up after a sleepover she went to a friend's house on the second night. She was ok for the first night. After weekends, she complains of stomachache and does not want to sleep in her room. I let her sleep in our room that night. I don't know what to do to ease her to be comfortable at nights. She traveled to a different country two summers by herself and stayed with her grandparents and aunt. Second summer, she did call in the first week to say she wanted to come home, but only when night falls. Any suggestions on how to ease her anxiety. She is going to go on a school camp trip for 3 days and 2 nights in a couple of weeks.
2006-11-14 03:19:59 · 5 answers · asked by PenguinK 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
Is there any trauma she has went through. My little girl went through something very bad i can't say on here but after that happened to her she has to sleep with me. Maybe she needs some sort of counseling.
2006-11-14 12:11:12 · answer #1 · answered by Qt PIE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She must have had an experience that bothered her or had a very bad dream. At 10 I wuld suggest trying to encourage her to stick it out but let her know she can call you to talk if she gets upset. Try not to give her the option of coming home. Instead say "you can call and talk to me if you get upset because I'm here for you." Maybe just knowing you're there wil help.
It might be a physical thing and mental. If it continues much longer, ask her doctor about it.
2006-11-14 03:26:24 · answer #2 · answered by Annie Hightower 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe some counseling is in order, did something bad happen to her during the night, and when night falls its a trigger. You don't know what could have happened, when she went to her grandparents, and I am not implying that they did anything, but did something somehow , somewhere happen and she is too afraid to talk about it. This sounds like she had something very frightening happen to her during the night.
2006-11-14 03:30:09 · answer #3 · answered by Jennifer L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she misses you and just needs some attention. Not from not getting it but from not being with you.. 10 is a rough age for girls. Her hormones are kicking in and she will become very emotional. Try spending more time with her before and after she goes on sleep overs. Before she leaves sneak a note in her bag so she can find it. Say something like. Your dad and I hope you have a great time you deserve a break from us to spend time with your friends. love mom
2006-11-14 03:25:54 · answer #4 · answered by c0mplicated_s0ul 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah get her out of your room and have her sleep in her own room.
I was a cronic night time panic child, and still cant sleep alone. Because my parents always let me sleep on their bedroom floor.
Trust me, its not fun to be 19 and have to sleep on your room mates bedroom floor because you havent been able to sleep since moving out.
Dont do that to your child. Make her learn to sleep alone in her own room, you're feeding into her insecurity by convincing her that her fears and discomfort are rational, when theyre not. Put her in her room and make her sleep there.
Stop babying her. I wish to God my parents had.
2006-11-14 03:23:54 · answer #5 · answered by amosunknown 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋