Here's the story, I've been with my boyfriend now for 4 months and we are happy and all, but what gets to me is that in the dorms where we stay there are a certain number of girls that try to flirt with him and the majority of the time they do it in front of me. One imparticular knows that I don't like her so she does it anyway. Personally I don't think I'm all that pretty even though my bf thinks I am and tells me all the time, and I sure as hell don't have the upper part of bein well endowed I'm just plain and I just don't want to see him with someone else and I know he is capable of doing so because, he is very good looking. I know it's the self-conscience issue I have but I can't help it. And if he does leave me I would know that I wasn't up to his standards. That's bad but I'd rather have him tell me the reason other than do something that's gonna hurt me.
2006-11-14 03:17:16 · 9 answers · asked by girl_is_depeche 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
To make things a little more complicated, he's always telling me that I'm gonna leave him for someone better. I've told him numerous times that I can't do that. And I'm not the type of person that has guys approach me. I've never had a guy approach me. And the way we met was by my friend calling him over and telling him that I thought he was hot.
2006-11-14 03:28:03 · update #1
ohh boy
seriously u need to take a chill pill
everyone is beautiful in there kinda way
i dont know how u look but i bet u have something that ur bf loves
the girls who flirt with ur bf are doing it even more cuz they know its pissing u off so when u see them act fine about them
my old female friend used to do the same thing to my x gf cuz she knew my x didnt like her
also as for ur bf cheating on u
if he does he does u cant stop him, why put ur self thru the misery of being with someone who is going to cheat on u
i was in those shoes and it wasnt pleasant so i too will not go thru that again.
so get ur self confidence up and enjoy ur time with him
dont be too dependent on him if he s the one he will be the one and if he s not then u find someone else
life goes on
2006-11-14 03:29:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
To answer your question...You can't keep your boyfriend from hooking up with someone else. If he does then it was never meant to be. What you need to do and realize is that your boyfriend is with you and only you. So, you feeling self-conscious about your looks may even push him away. You need to start telling yourself that you are pretty and you are just as good as anyone else. Tell your self in the mirror so you have direct contact with yourself. It sounds crazy, but its worth a shot. Good luck.
2006-11-14 03:31:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well take it from a person who had his heart broken many times before. I always told myself if you go out with a person and the person wants to cheat on you, let them. because it answers the question in your mind whether that person was the true one for you. and if that person does, just leave the person. I know that part hurts but better then being with a player who will give you constant worries and headaches right. just be strong and have patience. good come to good people. and what goes around, comes around.
2006-11-14 03:27:07 · answer #3 · answered by salmanation 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In a nutshell, you can't. You're asking how to control another person's actions. The day you figure that out, the world is yours. Til then, I'd suggest working on the only thing you can really change: yourself.
2006-11-14 03:26:08 · answer #4 · answered by JudasHero 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you're going to drive him away being self concious and afraid he's going to leave you all the time. just enjoy being with him if you really like him and when the other girls (haters!) see you two together they can just sit back and be jealous...
if he wants to leave you he will and there's no stopping him - that's just relationships
2006-11-14 03:24:54 · answer #5 · answered by ooh baby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you can't keep someone. If he chooses this hoe over you, then honey he is not what you wait. You do need to be more confident in your self. Honestly, confidence in your womanhood life and skills is very attractive to men.
2006-11-14 03:23:14 · answer #6 · answered by Rachel D 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There's really nothing you can do - he is not under your control. All you can do is keep on being the charming person you are and hope he realises the good thing he has.
2006-11-14 03:21:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just leave him alone. If he really loves u he will never look others
2006-11-14 03:18:53 · answer #8 · answered by mauja 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look you gotta play it kool. you cant slob and hang all over him all the time. AND NEVER FIGHT OVER A MAN!!!!!!!!!!! let them have all the fun that they want. your the one he hugs and kisses. go to him and tell him that you dont appreciate how the girls flirts with him and doesnt tell them to stop. and the girl that you dont like...!!!!! KNOCK HER *** OUT!!!!!
2006-11-14 03:23:41 · answer #9 · answered by Nashmonee` ? 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋