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My guy and I have known each other for 3years now... He split up with his gf in the beginning of this year after he found out she had cheated on him with his mate last year, after the break up she found out she was pregnant... Me and my guy have talked about moving in together... We know we get on well as time has told these past few months as we've been so close, closer than ever... He is still close to his ex as she is having his baby, and I don't want to get in the way of that, he said he doesn't want to be with her. Should we move in together or not do you think? I think it would be nice if we did and then the baby can come and stay with us when he/she is born, and come for weeknds to see daddy, I think it will be nice .... Or is it a bad idea moving in together?


I have asked this Q earlier but seen as different ppl are on at different times and my other Q would of moved further down the line by now.....

2006-11-14 03:12:03 · 26 answers · asked by me_me 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting Parenting

26 answers

I would wait until the baby is born, then see how things are then. If you love each other, then sure, moving in together could be great.
This sounds a bit messed up at the moment though.

Exercise patience!

2006-11-14 07:19:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2 0

Make sure he is completely over his ex first - you don't want to rush into it only to find out they want to get back together after the baby is born. Having a child together is for life and you might find it brings them closer together again after the birth. If you get on so well whats the harm in waiting a few months longer? It doesn't stop you staying at each others houses, but moving in together is a huge step to take. Of course there are no guarantees of it working out - not even with marriage as some people would like to think but thats life. If moving in together is what both of you want then go for it. Best of luck xx

2006-11-14 11:25:52 · answer #2 · answered by Lost and found 4 · 0 0

Do what you think is right but just becuase you have known each other for a while doesn't mean you can live together. It is not easy living with someone, even if you care about each other. When I moved in with my boyfriend after being together for 2 years, it was hard at first. He had habits that annoy the hell out of me and I am sure I do things he can't stand but you work at it and put up with these things to an extent.

If you feel it is the right thing to do, go for it. You never know until you go through with it.


Good Luck.

2006-11-14 11:25:33 · answer #3 · answered by Amy_Lou 3 · 1 0

Hey chick,
This is definetly a tough one but if i were you i would def sit down with your man and ask him what he thinks about the pregnancy etc and work out if there is any possibility that they are going to get back together. If its obvious this was just an accident and their are no other feelings and you both are just going to make the best out of the situation then go for it, but if you are just doing it for something new because she is having a baby or he isnt 100% commited to you then you could end up a doormat and he could have the best of both worlds, so maybe take some more time getting to know him a bit more make sure he is the bloke he says he is.
Good luck x

2006-11-14 11:24:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

Why not. The only reason I'd say no is if the pregnant ex still wants to be with him.Get him to sit down with you and ex and discuss how you all plan to make the baby work in your lives.She may not want you to be apart of the kids life and you need to know this before hand.Get to know the rules that she will set for her kid and what ever you do don't think that just cause your with him that your like mommy to the kid.This child has 2 parents not 3 at least not until you and your guy get married than you can play mom too.And good luck.

2006-11-14 12:07:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2 0

How would th ex feel about the child staying with your partner if you live together? not that that is a good reason for you not to do it, just to concider that it might not work out that way and also to bear in mind that there will be a connection that you will not be able to share.i say this because i am in the position of your partners ex in a way in that my daughtr's father is now living with his gf. under no circumstances do i allow her to be around my daughter, and i watch the poor woman being brushed aside time after time after time because the bond between a parent and child is always going to be closer than between partners. also can you cope with the fact that your bf and his ex are going to be the baby's family? If you move in with him these are things that you ought to concider because one or more are likely to come up one way or another.

Maybe you get on well with the ex in which case it could be a threesome made in heaven and a pre made kid with no childbirth to do lol.

Do what feels right x

2006-11-14 13:50:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

At the end of the day honey the decision is up to you and your partner.
I would like to forewarn you that it will be hard whether your man says he wants nothing to do with his ex or not when the baby comes along it may change him completely everything will change for him, his priorities may not be you anymore the baby may come first (as it should) but are you willing to take a backseat to this special thing that your man and his ex will be sharing.
I hope so and I hope that you are both strong enough to stay together
Good Luck xx

2006-11-14 11:25:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

Hi there, I think you should move in with your boyfriend, just because you both are in love and the baby on change a thing. You also should ask your boyfriend what his truly feeling are towards her ex with the arrive of new baby. If she still fancys him she definetelly will try to get him back. Therefore you and your boyfriend shoulb be talking very open about those issue

2006-11-14 11:22:56 · answer #8 · answered by Tosh 1 · 1 0

I think I would give it time. Just to make sure he doesnt change his mind. Like atleast 3 to 5 months. Babies have an effect on people hon and you dont need to get hurt. Possible it will all work out like you think it has happened to work for plenty of others, but it also dont hurt to prepare for the worst and cover your own back. So give it some time to sink in for him then make that decision of moving in. That is what I would do.

2006-11-14 12:57:41 · answer #9 · answered by determined26a 2 · 1 0

Are you sure the baby is his for starters, if she has cheated it could be someone elses baby. Before he commits himself to anything, he shoud get a DNA test when the baby is born.

On the subject of the both of you moving in together, I don't see why not, if you are happy now, go for it. But be warned that it may go wrong in the future. Also if the baby is his, he might want to fight for custody, are you going to be comfortable being a step-mum full time??

good luck in whatever you do

2006-11-14 11:19:08 · answer #10 · answered by smudge 3 · 1 1

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