I am getting married to a man who I have known for about 12 years, he won't agree on anything what should I do

Answer 1

I suggest a good pre-marital counseling before taking the big step.

Answer 2

Are you sure you and this guy are compatible? If you're already disagreeing on everything, the marriage might not be off to a great start even before it begins. Also, I thought it was curious that you said you've known him for 12 years. You didn't mention if you loved him, or how long you had been together as a couple. Don't feel trapped just because of the history you have with him. Look inside yourself and really ask- do you love him? Does he love you? It's normal to have little disagreements and incompatibilities with your spouse, but if you can't agree on one thing, it may be in your best interests to call off the wedding and look for someone who is more tuned in to your way of thinking.

Answer 3

Communication is the number one step in marriage. You have know each other for 12 years, so you know how to talk to him. Why don't just the two of you sit down and have a casual conversation about what you want for the wedding and then what he wants for the wedding. If there are disagreements on anything then let him have a say in one thing and you have a say in the other. You should love each other enough to compromise what you want if the other doesn't like the idea. Best of luck!

Answer 4

Doesn't sound like a good start to me. Better work out a few things before saying "I do". It really doesn't matter that you have know him 12 years or not. People getting married meet in the middle of a decision(s). Wow! if this was me, I would re-assess this marriage.

Answer 5

I would go for counseling. If you can't work anything out then, don't marry him.
I had a boyfriend like that. He would never agree on anything with me, and he always insisted I compromise my beliefs to suit his. You don't really want to marry someone who will do that to you, do you?
Best of luck.

Answer 6

After 12 years, this guy is just dragging his feet. He doesn't want to get married. I suggest you save your money and the headache and don't marry him. It's doomed to end up in Divorce Court.

Answer 7

you should know after 12 years what his personality is like. If you two can't agree on anything, why marry him?

Answer 8

Are you sure that he wants to get married. If I were you I'd sit him down and talk to him not just about the marriage about your lives together to see if you can gage something from him.
Ask him what sort of marriage and wedding he wants and if you don't get a reasonable response from him then maybe you should considering not marrying him. Is he excited about being married to you, or does he seem to get bored and down when you talk about it. Either way you need to talk to him about it, because you don't want to force him into doing something he doesn't want to, because if things don't work out he will blame you.

Also tell him that you of course love him and you want to be with him, but you don't want to be with him if he feels that he is not going to be happy, and as if he feels that he is being forced

Answer 9

From your question, it sounds more like a business relationship than the joining of 2 people in love. I know this doesn't answer your question at all, but you don't sound into it at all--he's probably just less interested than you are. Are you marrying him just becasue he's Mr Good Enough?

Answer 10

After 12 years of stalling, one has to wonder if he really wants to marry you. Try some counseling.

I wouldn't marry him until I got to the bottom of his issues and knew that he wanted me. Otherwise, one has to wonder if the marriage will last.

Sue

Answer 11

Why would you marry someone who won't agree on anything? Can you compromise? Don't marry him unless you get counseling first. This marriage is doomed for failure.