How can I get more confidence?

Question

I am and am always told by my friends that I treat people well and my best girl friend always tells me that if I was her type she would go for me in the blink of an eye and that I am sweet and lovely and I dont mean to sound big headed but I do treat people like I would like to be treated (well and nice) but when I go out I see some hot girls and I see some **** being creapy or sleazy around her and sometimes she cops off with him and I think why? he is a c*** I would respect you and treat you better!

How can I be more confident be it when Im sober or when Im slightly drunk when Im in a club at the end of a night out?

because deep down im a loving caring romatic guy who has so much love to give but is shy in starting things because I think I will look sad and desperate and the old syndrome of "shes out of my league" comes into my head

my friends all want me to be hooked up with someone and want me to be happy but are as frustrated as I am with my confidence issues

any ideas

Answer 1

hook up with me if you like!!!
you have to belive in yourself and belive that you can get a lovley girl. it wont happen just like that but you have to think positivley. the more negative you think the more nervous you will get. as your walking upto a girl you like repeat in your head 'i am strong and i am worthy', this helps you belive that you are strong and worthy. it certanily helped me. when you look in the mirror tell yourself that your gorgas and are able to get a bueatiful girlfriend. never put doubt in your own head, the more you say doubtful things the more you will belive it, same as thinking positivley. do this and your confidence will soon start to grow
good luck xXx

Answer 2

Learn how to flirt, there are plenty of websites that offer insights into body language, and the nuances of flirting. Then when you are out, bite the bullet and just go for it, talk to a girl and try out some flirting techniques, nothing corny, just small talk. What have you got to lose? You will most likely never see them again unless you hit it off, so go for it. Try and seem relaxed and confident, even if you don't feel it. It is all abour how you come across.

The only perosn or thing holding you back is yourself!

Answer 3

You need to figure out what you like about yourself. Find positive things in you and your appearance. Remind yourself that they are there and remind yourself that you are WORTH it and are a grea guy. Eventually you should have no problem and you can be less shy and come out of your shell more. Just talk to some people! You don't necessarily have to start off by hitting on them in any subtle way. Just talking will open up doors of opportunity and more connections in your life. You're great you can do it! Also, I highly recommend that you and your friends see the movie, "The Secret". It will change your life, I promise. I know that's a lot to hear, but trust me on this one. One of you can find out a way to pay for it I'm sure. It's a good price. You can buy it for less to view it online or yoou can buy the actual dvd for about 25.00$. www.secret.tv

Answer 4

oh hun. plz dnt b sad. take on board every nice thing that ppl say and that will make u feel a bit better. girls dont like over confident guys, its such a turn off. keep on being sweet and ur perfect lady will turn up. lovin caring and romantic is what we ladies want.

also thank you for answering my question earlier. i did think the same as what you wrote, i just guess i didnt wana believe i could be right. he and i will be having some words later.
hope u feel better soon. gd luck xxx

Answer 5

Every girl is different. Some girls are attracted to the "bad boy" image, some aren't.

I think that if you go out not wanting to meet someone, you will. Its like that thing, you know, when you have put your favourite skirt/tie/shoes/earrings/sunglasses down somewhere and you look for them everywhere. You can hunt for days and not find them, then a few weeks later, when you have forgotten about them again, you open a drawer/cupboard/bag and there it/they are.

Answer 6

I have no idea why alot of us girls do this it seems we always want to get with a bad boy as they say but when we really want someone who will treat us right like you. I think women see it as a challenge to be the one who tames the bad boy!

Answer 7

you poor thing you sound fab to me, if i was single!! you have to summon the courage to talk to a girl and be honest. tell her you're shy and you have no confidence. if they dont wanna hear it they aren't your type, you will find some body eventually. take time to treat yourself to some clothes, take your best girlf with you. these girls you see with idiots are idiots themselves and are only interested in bad boys i promise. they would treat you like crap and walk all over you.
next time you go out just ask a girl if you could buy them a drink and BE YOURSELF, YOU'RE LOVELY XXX

Answer 8

email me... hehe

Smile and walk over to a girl you like. Take a deep breath and then speak to her. Be sweet and nice. Don't turn into a creep or a sleaze! The nice girls that you want to be with DON'T respond to that, though it may seem like they do from where you are looking. I promise you, they don't

Answer 9

there is an old saying."treat a lady like a **** and a **** like a lady" . you sound just like a few million guys out there. Just keep on rolling boy, you will enjoy a better life being the good guy than the goof that you detest. Never get angry. never.

Answer 10

confidence? it has always been a function of the mind. a mentality pervading your being.
most times its because of what you choose to believe about your self.

say...
try this: "What you think is what you become!"
Start acting with confidence and confidence will come to you. ^^