My husband and I have a 12 month old little girl and we can't decide if we should have another or not. We think that financially, we can offer our little girl much more and we would still be able to travel and such if she's an only child, but there are people out there telling us that she willl be much happier with a sibling than being an only child with everything.
2006-11-14 02:41:15 · 19 answers · asked by HapaMommy 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
What do you value more? Possessions and opportunities or the love of a family who will always be there for you?
As an only child who had everything (and then some), I'd say give her a sibling instead. She'll be much better adjusted and she'll have someone who will stand beside her the rest of her life, even once you and her dad are gone.
2006-11-14 02:45:27 · answer #1 · answered by momma2mingbu 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Obviously you and your husband need to do what is right for you both but I would definitely suggest having another child. I am a mom of five children and I also come from a big family, there is never a dull moment.
Perhaps if you wait until she is two or three to have the second child, she can have all the attention a toddler needs. I often think all my kids are too close in age.
There is a lot to be said for growing up with siblings, she will ove the company of nothing else. Best of luck to you both.
2006-11-14 13:47:28 · answer #2 · answered by strictmom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wish I had an answer for you.
My son will be 3 in 2 weeks. I want another child so he has a sibling. However, I'm concerned I may not be able to have another one due to my fight with Hodgkin's lymphoma a last year. My husband and I are now weighing the risks of having another or even trying to have another baby. We don't want to adopt
My sister and I are 4 years apart. Up until we had kids, we were the best of friends. I can't imagine my life without her.
Now my husband and his brother don't speak & only see each other on the holidays (maybe).
2006-11-14 10:52:59 · answer #3 · answered by njyecats 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
your ?
no one can decide for you how many kids you can have
the decision depend on you
I always prefer 2 or 3 than 1 again that is me
I still travel as a matter of fact more than most people do
3 vac a year we still go to France, we have been to all the Island
now we are in ST Barth (home school)
the point is I have friend that use the same excuse for having 1 child yet they never gone nowhere the child have a lot of toys
and rotten , demanding
so make your pick
2006-11-14 10:47:52 · answer #4 · answered by waiting for baby 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have the exact same question! I wish I could tell you the answer. I have a 20 month old and we are talking about maybe giving her a sibling. We would be able to spoil her more at Christmas time and pay for more of her college if she was an only child but at the same time, she'll never have nieces or nephews to spoil and her children won't have any first cousins (on our side anyway). I say, go for it, give her a little bro or sis! Good luck!
2006-11-14 10:46:27 · answer #5 · answered by angelbelle 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I had five babies practically all in a row. We have led a nomadic type of lifestyle in rural Alaska, travelling and living our lives naturally by subsistance. We also travelled the Alaska-Canada highway with our children with no problems. We traveled the whole length of the Yukon river throughout interior Alaska with our children and they have been tremendously blessed educationally, economically, spiritually and we have a very close family bond. The number is not important in how many children to have, each child is a priceless gift from our Creator and it is our values we instill in our family that supercedes any other issue. Believe me, we were a poor family financial wise but a rich famly when it comes to the spiritual values we all lived through and carry on as precious memories today.
2006-11-14 11:08:14 · answer #6 · answered by ? 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have 2 boys and they play well together and they fight well together too. 1 child is good sometimes. Having 2 kids is good too, then they have each other to play with. As far as the cost part. I don't think it costs that much more. If you don't have high demands on certain items for your children. I have 2 boys, I just saved all the clothes from my first child and passed them down. Good Luck! Kids are the best no matter how many you have!
2006-11-14 10:53:57 · answer #7 · answered by LeeLynn 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think the answer is simple : Do not have another child unless YOU want one. You obviously don't seem to at the moment and this may in time change as your youngest begins to grow a little.
Don't be told how to live your life by other well meaning people.
YOU will both know whether to have another child or not.
Hope this helps
2006-11-14 10:48:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i have 3 daughters 14,13, and 3. yeah sometimes the 2 oldest get on each others nerves, but they are always there for each other, even the youngest. vacations are still done, holidays are the funnest! oldest and youngest have b-days on x-mas holidays. you learn to do all your holiday shopping all year round and try to find the best hiding spots. i was an only child for 9 years, and i was so glad to have a lil sis. i just wish she would of come sooner. life was not boring after that.....good luck....
2006-11-14 11:05:34 · answer #9 · answered by superwoman4774 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My kids would be lost without their siblings. But each child is different. Wait at least a year b4 you decide, don't want them so close. You can save up more, plan better.
2006-11-14 10:53:50 · answer #10 · answered by nanny4hap 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋