Why most parents can't stop themselves from beating up their kids when they know it's wrong?

Question

Most parents are not meant to be parents because they need self-control, anger management, or something like that.

Answer 1

The most common reason for parents abusing their kids is because they were abused themselves. There are several ways to break the cycle of abuse. The first step is always to admit there is a problem, the second is to determine why you abuse your kids. Based on the why, you can then determine the ways to resolve the issue.

If the abuse is because of uncontrolled anger, then you need to protect your kids. When you start feeling angry, lock yourself in the bathroom, a closet or some other place that will keep you from your kids until you calm down. You then need to learn how to control your anger. There are support groups provided by your local mental health (look in you phone book's government section) and the costs are abased on the ability to pay. Another option is to go to your clergy. A third option, is to go to your public library and check out some books on anger management.

If your reason for abuse is depression, contact your local mental health for assistance.

If your reason for abuse is frustration with kids behavior, you can try the library for assistance and you can always check with your local mental health for classes in parenting.

Above all else, find people that you can talk with for support.

Good luck!

Answer 2

Is this a question? I don't think that most parents beat their kids up. I also don't think that most parents are not meant to be parents. I think there are parents who beat their kids up and there are parents who shouldn't have had kids, but I don't think that they are "most" parents. I think most parent love their kids and just do their best.

Answer 3

no offence to anyone here no matter what your skin colour is...

i believe most of coloured skin parents does beat up their children...(judging from ur avatar)

i get it myself when i was a kid...do i feel that they were abusing me? yes, at the time they beat me with realizing that i did something wrong...today, no...i'm glad that they beat me to make me what i am today...

are they abusive? no...they are far from abusive. they beat me up when they really really need to. eg.when words or light punishment (no dinner tonight or go to ur room, etc) seem doesn't get you anymore...

do i grow become an abusive person? no...i don't go out there, abusing people or even grow up became an angry person nor depressed..nope none of those..

one of the most real case example is this:
most of asians no matter chinese, indians or malay..
when we swear to our parents at least we get a slap on the face...that's the least...but for westerns...most of them will be sent to their rooms without dinner... (this is what i heard the most, apologies if i'm wrong)

One day when i was a kid, after dad "punish" me for some good reason, that's the first time in my life i saw hime cry. and i know at that he did that based on love and "punish" me because he can't help it anymore...if anyone ask me now "so is you could go back in that time, do you wish to get another punishment beside that?" I'll say NO without any hesistation...I was really deserve it...

When a kid grow, s/he needs a guidence, if a kid enjoy taking goods from a store without paying (stealing is too harsh for a kid who doesn't know what they're doing) as parents, you need to tell him "no, that's called stealing and it's bad...if you really want it you can pay for it or if i can't pay then return it" if the kid do it again perhaps the parents can tell him again or even ask the security guy to tell the kid that it's wrong and give the kid a good scare...the third time he do it again, i think it's okay for the parents to hit his hands to remind him that it's wrong and here is your punishment...

|| However...I'm not talking about parents who enjoy to beat up their children because they are abusive people...eg. parents who drink uncontrollably and end up abusing their children when they're drunk..if so, you really need to seek some help..

Answer 4

Most parents beat their children? And you got that statistic from where?

Answer 5

you answered your own question?

Answer 6

your question doesn't make much sense