My oldest daugther will be turning 6 next month, but it has being almost a week that at morning when getting ready to go to school she says "I don't want to go to school". I have ask her if it is something wrong at school and she just come out with excuses like I don't like to color, I don't want to go out side and play or I just want to stay with you... She is an A & B student and usually she doesn't like to miss school even if she is sick, because she doesn't want to missed.. I'm kind of worried can it be something wrong at school or maybe is the fact that I'm pregnant ( 6 months, expecting a gir) maybe she is just a little jelouse or starting to feel that she migth not be loved anymore.. I try to spend as much as time possible with her and her little brother so they won't feel that they will be left aside.. any advices on what to do or what can be wrong ??? Will be helpfull !!!!
2006-11-14 02:35:57 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Often times children will behave in these ways when they are being bullied at school. To rule this out, speak with her teacher about her behavior at school. Here is a great article about ways to help children who are bullied. http://www.earlychildhoodnews.com/earlychildhood/article_view.aspx?ArticleID=221
My guess is that these behaviors coincide with your pregnancy and her birthday. She is probably aware that she will be getting a little less attention in a few months and that she will be a little older and far away from being your baby. She is probably feeling a bit powerless. Help her to feel powerful by saying things like “You did that by yourself! Look how high you can climb! You did that so neatly! Your teacher must really enjoy you! You used so many colors on your painting!” These phrases or intrinsic motivator are great ways to help her feel powerful, are great confidence builders, and great ways to show attention and love.
Empathize with her. Say things like “I can tell you’re feeling (sad, upset, left out, frustrated, hurt).” Or “I can’t tell you’re worried about getting older or sharing mommy with a new baby.” Empathizing with her will help her to better express her feeling with you so that you can figure out what is upsetting her.
Prepare for some regression when her sibling arrives. I’m not sure if she did this with the birth of her brother but sometimes children will regress. They may start “baby talking,” act out, or begin having bathroom accidents.
Have her help you when the baby arrives. She can pick out the baby’s outfit, help bath the baby, and read the baby a story. Give her some extra attention when the baby comes home. When the baby is sleeping do an art project together, read her a story, or have her help you with things at home (she can help make a snack or help prepare dinner). She will feel proud to help!
Think about getting your children “Big brother and sister” shirts. They can wear them in public and feel proud to wear it and enjoy comments they gets from others. Here are a few good books you may want to consider getting before the arrival of you baby My New Baby-Annie Kubler Waiting for Baby-Annie Kubler The New Baby at Your House-Joanna Cole The New Baby-Fred Rogers. Best of luck to you and congratulations!
2006-11-14 05:04:06 · answer #1 · answered by marnonyahoo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Likely she is just trying to spend more time with you since you're pregnant. She's probably already starting to feel a little jealous of the baby. If you're really concerned about her behavoir or it doesn't clear up in a few weeks, you may want to consult her doctor. Perhaps she would be more willing to talk to him about what's going on. Until then, I would discuss matters with your daughter's teacher and find out if there are any problems at school with her. Maybe a bully's picking on her, maybe she got in trouble for something, perhaps her best friend isn't talking to her anymore... Likely she just wants to spend as much time as possible with you though because she's old enough to understand what a new baby will do to her "mom" time. Try dedicating special times during the day to her and weekends. Do special things that she chooses like crafts or sing alongs.
2006-11-14 02:40:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She may be a little jealous and wanting to spend more time with you., Have you made her and her brother a part of the pregnancy? By this I mean that the baby should be "ours".. I would pop in at the school once or twice unannounced to see how things are there. Speak to her teacher to see if (s)he has noticed any changes in her behavior or performance at school. Make certain she is not having problems with a bully or bullies.
2006-11-14 09:58:13 · answer #3 · answered by babydoll 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
could be baby jealousy or something at school. talk to her teacher and ask if anything has changed or if she's having problems with another kid. it could be the smallest thing, like, she was made to change seats or something. if nothing there turns up then sit down with your daughter and have a heart to heart with her. ask her if she wants to stay home because of the soon to be new baby or if she's afraid of how everything will be after the baby is born. sometimes a little heart to heart is all it takes. she just needs to be reasured that you will always love her.
2006-11-14 03:24:18 · answer #4 · answered by bcdhowell 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since this just started, I would do some research. Sounds like there could be something more to the problem. Maybe someone is bullying her at school. Look into it. Better safe than sorry.
2006-11-14 02:40:54 · answer #5 · answered by andi b 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should let her stay home for a dad and figure out what's wrong. Tell her "Okay, you can stay home..but you have to tell me why you don't like school lately."
Figure out what's wrong and go from there. Maybe call her teacher and ask him/her if they see anything going on that might be bothering her.
2006-11-14 02:41:03 · answer #6 · answered by CelebrateMeHome 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋