Im in higschool and were doing a debate on Giving your child up for adotion... what are some reasons or websites that shows y ppl are against giving your child up for adoption
2006-11-14 02:27:16 · 6 answers · asked by ~Cookie~ 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
There's not a whole lot against open adoption. Where a mother still has contact and the child knows from the beginning... Other then how hard it is to give up a child you've carried to term. However there is closed adoption where the mom doesn't keep contact (which is sometimes easier on birth mom and adoptive parnets) but to the child if they know they where adopted then it feels like they are missing something. Also they may feel "regected" but if the child doesn't know then if they find out latter in life they may feel that their life was a scham and may feel cheated by their adoptive parents.
2006-11-14 02:38:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's no gaurentee you're giving that child up to a family that is good for the child. Marriage is no gaurentee that the family will stay together. Passing a background check is no gaurentee that a drinking problem will not develop or a drug problem will not develop. Passing psychological testing is no gaurentee that either adoptive parent will not be emotionally or physically abusive. I was adopted as an infant into a family where all precautions were taken, all tests were passed, but once it was found out that I was a little girl, the "father" made it very clear throughout my childhood that I was not worth as much as a boy would have been, he developed a drinking problem and divorced "mother" when I was 11. I was then institutionalized and given into state custody after the divorce by "father" for nearly 4 years before "mother" was finally able to regain custody.
Open adoption is an oxymoron, the adoptive parents can decide to terminate visitation by the birth family at any time for any reason.
2006-11-14 02:48:38 · answer #2 · answered by sovereign_carrie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only true thing that I can think of is against closed adoptions... My mother had to give up her baby when she was younger, it was for the better, but now since it was a closed adoption, there is no way for my mother to know how her daughter is doing... There is also no guarantee that her child will ever be able to find her... Open adoptions are a bit better, in my eyes, if you can't take care of a child, have it because some others can't have children. But then again, if anybody is to give up their child to the adoption system, there is no guarentee that the child will ever be in a permanent and stable environment, they can be in the adoption system and foster homes until they are 18, and with them not having a true place to call home is not something that most people can deal with, which brings on emotional instabilities, suicidal thoughts, and rage... hope this helps!!!
2006-11-14 02:33:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have read before that some people argue that the baby is better off with his/her biological parents no matter what the situation is. They think being with your biological parents is imporant and that being raised by 'strangers' is bad.
Other people are against adoption because they think it makes children objects that people can buy/trade.
I do NOT agree with these at all - but just giving you some cons against adoption. Hope that helps.
2006-11-14 02:33:32 · answer #4 · answered by Cookie On My Mind 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mostly because the mom has to carry it to term and give birth to it, and abortion is "easier" and less of a bother.
Thats the only thing i can think of.
2006-11-14 02:30:40 · answer #5 · answered by amosunknown 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
www.antiadoption.org/faq.html ---- corageouschoice.com ---- www.plannedparenthood.org ---- www.goldencradle.org
2006-11-14 03:16:18 · answer #6 · answered by deedee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋